Yeah, but can she/he clean the kitchen?

[Ebonyfire]

It seems there are lots of submissives out there, who are lining up to give blowjobs, eat pussy, rim asses and give massages, but the real test of submission in my mind is can he clean the kitchen to my satisfaction? Can he sort and wash my laundry without ruining my clothing? Can he vacuum the house and dust, clean the toilets, and buy groceries?


Can he do decent maintenance on my computer so I do not have to do it? Can he change the oil in my car?

Any other Dom/mes have anything to say on submissives and the mundane tasks of life?

 

[WynEternal]

As a house slave, cleaning and maintaining the household was my primary job.

 

[bunny bondage]

i somehow fell into the position of "dry-cleaning bitch" i now take care of all His dry cleaning, and i've even learned how much starch to ask for, which kind of cleaning proccess to ask for regarding certain articles, and the lady who owns the place keeps asking me why i'm bring in all large mens' clothing. i also know that on mondays, wednsdays and fridays He wants a loaded baked potato from "pizzaria portavia" and he wants it to be in the car when i come to pick Him up after class. i often find myself performing little tasks like this for Him, and i LOVE it! i feel so helpful, and He's always sure to thank me (one way or another! )

 

[James G 5]

I miss having a "house girl"......I appreciate it all to hell when Pouty comes over & organizes my mess! When I was with Wyn and D the experience of having EVERYTHING done to perfection was AMAZING
LOL, much as I hated "Exit to Eden" (film version) I laughed like hell when Rosie shot that old line at the male sub who said he'd do "anything" for her...."Paint my house!"
Someday I would hope my primary & I will have a happy trained house slave

It seems there are lots of submissives out there, who are lining up to give blowjobs, eat pussy, rim asses and give massages, but the real test of submission in my mind is can he clean the kitchen to my satisfaction? Can he sort and wash my laundry without ruining my clothing? Can he vacuum the house and dust, clean the toilets, and buy groceries?


Can he do decent maintenance on my computer so I do not have to do it? Can he change the oil in my car?

Any other Dom/mes have anything to say on submissives and the mundane tasks of life?

 

[Iceyskye]

Does housewife fit into the catagory of houseslave? Ugh I hate laundry!

 

[Red Menace]

It took a long time for me to get to the point where I feel good about taking care of the domestic things for Sir. It's easy to say you'll submit to all kinds of kinky sexual things because there's an obvious gratification for it. It's much harder to believe domestic submission won't be taken for granted as just free maid service.

Sir has never ordered me, or even hinted, that I should do anything in a domestic capacity for him, but has patiently waited until I was ready to take it up myself, because I wanted to. So 6 months into our relationship, I finally got around to doing 14 loads of laundry and organizing the closet so all that clean laundry had somewhere to go. Now it doesn't seem so overwhelming to me. It's just a matter of keeping up on it every week, which is so worth it to me, just to know he's got one less thing to worry about while he takes care of all the other work he has to do.

I also tidy up the kitchen every time I go there, I have since the beginning, but that's not such a big deal as it has to be done anyway just so I have enough room to make myself a pot of coffee.

 

[Shadowsdream]

The domestic responsibilities lie completely in the hands of My slave...he cooks, cleans, shops and rebuilds My computers etc. It is his joy to serve Me in all ways and My joy to allow his service to Me.
On the rare occassions that he is working double jobs outside of the home I return his gift by taking care of the day to day tasks or cooking dinner to lighten his load.
W/we appreciate the roles of each other as much as we appreciate our own roles.
I am fortunate with this slave...most of his work is done from the home office and so there is little interruption to the domestic service!

 

[Justina123]

As I have mentioned, Sir lives with me 24/7 3 days a week, due to work schedules, etc. When he is here, I love serving him, doing his laundry, etc. etc. But I also have 4 kids at home who need to be cooked for, cleaned up after, etc...so he understands that I cannot be totally "his" slave, and keeping up the house is something I do both when he is here and when he is not. One of the things I love and appreciate about him is that he understands all this, and also that he is never "above" saying "thank you." And sometimes he'll get up early on Sunday morning and make waffles or cinnamon rolls for all! And does things like walk the dog in the early morning so I don't have to get out of bed...

This doesn't make him any less the Dominant in my eyes, just a very good one. I suspect that in most 24/7 relationships, there has to be this kind of give and take, and would be interested in hearing if this is so.

-justina

 

[Shadowsdream]

As I have mentioned, Sir lives with me 24/7 3 days a week, due to work schedules, etc. When he is here, I love serving him, doing his laundry, etc. etc. But I also have 4 kids at home who need to be cooked for, cleaned up after, etc...so he understands that I cannot be totally "his" slave, and keeping up the house is something I do both when he is here and when he is not. One of the things I love and appreciate about him is that he understands all this, and also that he is never "above" saying "thank you." And sometimes he'll get up early on Sunday morning and make waffles or cinnamon rolls for all! And does things like walk the dog in the early morning so I don't have to get out of bed...

This doesn't make him any less the Dominant in my eyes, just a very good one. I suspect that in most 24/7 relationships, there has to be this kind of give and take, and would be interested in hearing if this is so.

-justina

In My relationship with My slave I would never be happy with constant service that never allowed Me the luxury of cooking the occassional meal or washing the dishes when the mood strikes Me or the extra domestic work for him on top of a long or emotional day would detract for the few minutes of quiet time we share in the evenings or early mornings.
Understanding and appreciating the day to day complexities in the life of My toy strengthens our relationship. I feel no weakness in My Domination if I wish to bake cookies for his friends or force him into a bubble bath to relax him for a long evening of whipping.

 

[lancemanyon]

.... but the real test of submission in my mind is can he clean the kitchen to my satisfaction? Can he sort and wash my laundry without ruining my clothing? Can he vacuum the house and dust, clean the toilets, and buy groceries?


Can he do decent maintenance on my computer so I do not have to do it? Can he change the oil in my car?

I would do all of those things if I loved you without being asked. And I would do none of them if you tried to make me. Why do you feel the need to force others to do things for you? Do you feel unworthy of love?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Understanding and appreciating the day to day complexities in the life of My toy strengthens our relationship. I feel no weakness in My Domination if I wish to bake cookies for his friends or force him into a bubble bath to relax him for a long evening of whipping.

Exactly.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Yeah, but can she/he clean the kitchen?

I would do all of those things if I loved you without being asked. And I would do none of them if you tried to make me. Why do you feel the need to force others to do things for you? Do you feel unworthy of love?

I would not waste my time with you. If you want to learn about this lifestyle, then I suggest you read about it. I will not waste my breath in educating your ignorance.

Now go back to what you were doing. Post pics of your dick on the GB.

 

[Ebonyfire]

It is easy to judge others and their lifestyles.

Just because a submissive is mainly service oriented, that does not make him or her a drudge. There a subs who find cleaning a house comforting, and an apt way to serve their Dom/me.

And just because one is a Dom/me, it does not mean that you discontinue the things that have always brought you joy.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Does housewife fit into the catagory of houseslave? Ugh I hate laundry!

Nope, sorry. In D/s it is consentual, and is a negotiated task.

 

[Richard49]

Ignor thingy

If I put someone on ignor am I still abused with there posts to the threads ???

 

[Richard49]

Damn to may things I read on here trigger thoughts of someone <smile>
that is no longer with me
anyway
here goes my thoughts

I had her make the bed each morning
It was not just for me

She lives in chaos
it this keep it out of one room of at lest one of our houses


She did lots of the cleaning here etc.

I love it

On the flip side
I cook very well and ejoy it

When I was at her house
I would often do her launry and mine

I love a submissive with a domestic bent

 

[Richard49]

Nope, sorry. In D/s it is consentual, and is a negotiated task.

as is all of the relationship

I think more so then a nilla one

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Welllll, I'm a sub, and I like the more mundane tasks of life. They comfort me and make me feel needed and "a part of." A clean and neat home is very important to me in my life by myself, and to give service to a Dom in that way, I think, for me, would be a part of my submission that I wouldn't wish to leave out.

One can't spend all one's waking minutes giving a blowjob, etc. now can one?

*chuckle*

~Anelize

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Welllll, I'm a sub, and I like the more mundane tasks of life. They comfort me and make me feel needed and "a part of." A clean and neat home is very important to me in my life by myself, and to give service to a Dom in that way, I think, for me, would be a part of my submission that I wouldn't wish to leave out.

One can't spend all one's waking minutes giving a blowjob, etc. now can one?

*chuckle*

~Anelize

I've got some laundry...

 

[Netzach]

Our housework breaks down into about a 70/30 thing, with me cooking because I enjoy cooking and it means we eat just what I want more often.

We do a lot of things together, too, like dishes. Because both of us work the same type of job at the same place. I'd love it if I could afford to keep M home, or me home too for that matter, but it's not happening. If we didn't share some of the housework, we'd miss out on a chance to even hang out.

M will often clean while I paint or work on my portfolio. That's the most touching thing to me. It's not like I'm eating bon bons or watching tv while he launders.

What do other Dominants do with the extra time, I wonder?

I wonder why we had to jump down our one dissenter's throat here. His model is actually closest to mine as to how I do things, and if that makes me ignorant of REAL D/s well, then I guess I'm glad to be.

I've never once asked M, MADE M, or nagged M, and I've never taken time to sit down and say "you WILL be doing the majority of the housework"

He does it because he loves me and it makes him feel good to do it. I'm pleased with the standard to which it's done and I think it's much higher than if I came along with rules and lists and expectations.

Give me a submissive motivated enough to take on a job without being told the last detail ANY day. That's the essence of service to me, the rationale as to why it's done, not whether I can eat from my kitchen sink after he cleans it.

 

[Ebonyfire]

as is all of the relationship

I think more so then a nilla one

You will allow that there are many vanilla men out there that think of their wives as houseslaves, LOL. I I'll bet the women did not realize it when they said their "I dos",, if they had they would have said "I won't".

 

[Ebonyfire]

Welllll, I'm a sub, and I like the more mundane tasks of life. They comfort me and make me feel needed and "a part of." A clean and neat home is very important to me in my life by myself, and to give service to a Dom in that way, I think, for me, would be a part of my submission that I wouldn't wish to leave out.

One can't spend all one's waking minutes giving a blowjob, etc. now can one?

*chuckle*

~Anelize

Piggybacking, (thanks for getting my point),

My subs like being useful, and well as being used.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I've got some laundry...

So do I Johnny. Come on over and you can do both. lol

 

[Ebonyfire]

Our housework breaks down into about a 70/30 thing, with me cooking because I enjoy cooking and it means we eat just what I want more often.

We do a lot of things together, too, like dishes. Because both of us work the same type of job at the same place. I'd love it if I could afford to keep M home, or me home too for that matter, but it's not happening. If we didn't share some of the housework, we'd miss out on a chance to even hang out.

M will often clean while I paint or work on my portfolio. That's the most touching thing to me. It's not like I'm eating bon bons or watching tv while he launders.

What do other Dominants do with the extra time, I wonder?

I wonder why we had to jump down our one dissenter's throat here. His model is actually closest to mine as to how I do things, and if that makes me ignorant of REAL D/s well, then I guess I'm glad to be.

I've never once asked M, MADE M, or nagged M, and I've never taken time to sit down and say "you WILL be doing the majority of the housework"

He does it because he loves me and it makes him feel good to do it. I'm pleased with the standard to which it's done and I think it's much higher than if I came along with rules and lists and expectations.

Give me a submissive motivated enough to take on a job without being told the last detail ANY day. That's the essence of service to me, the rationale as to why it's done, not whether I can eat from my kitchen sink after he cleans it.

To each his or her own I say. the essence of my preferences is to have a sub who makes my life easier. And they do. YMMV.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I wonder why we had to jump down our one dissenter's throat here. His model is actually closest to mine as to how I do things, and if that makes me ignorant of REAL D/s well, then I guess I'm glad to be.

First of all, WE did not jump down anyone's throat. It is the thread I started and I like to keep it on topic. So if controversy and dissent steps on some toes so be it.

There are always choices. Not to post at all or ignore what bothers you.