Yea another whiney crying bitchy thread got a problem with that?

[Naked Hunny]

I knew this would never work!! Me living with my mother and stepfather that is!! Does he realize I am 20 years old and he cant treat me like im 12!! Hell he even threatened to leave my mother tonite if she allows me to move snickerdoodle back in here as well!! What am i supposed to do? I was released into my mothers custody im basically stuck until the trial is over and until i get snickerdoodle back and can get another place of my own!!

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

No offense intended here, NH.

But I think I missed something. Why were you arrested? I've had my share of run-ins with the law and I know that it must've been pretty serious if you're over 18 and they had to release you into someone's custody.

So, what happened?

 

[Ezzy]

This is just a thought...

NH, some times the obvious appears to be impossible, but it hurts nothing to ask.

I would phone the court and ask to speak to the judge who released you to your mothers custody, and ask his / her advice. IF it means a trip up to the court I would do that.

Judges are human too, and you may be happier after getting your feelings out and noted in the system, You may also gain more than you could loose.


EZ

 

[Naked Hunny]

I was arrested for simple assualt my first offense ever sniffles!! I was released with no bail on the condition that I would live with my mother!!

 

[Ezzy]

NH...

Please phone the court and speak to the Judge, dont write off on the idea without attempting it.


EZ

 

[Patryn]

This is going to come out rude. Keep in mind I really don't mean anything against you NH, but think of your parents' perspective. You're young. You have a child. You've been arrested. You lasted 3 weeks in college. You're 20. You should know better. Sorry, but you should. The arrest, I mean, not the child. Anyway, and there's no other way to put this, I don't really see you as the picture of responisibility....at least not from what you portray here on the board.

Your parents are going to a lot of trouble to save your butt. Really a lot. You should be grateful to them instead of complaining about the situation. The alternative is jail. I'd choose my parents', no matter how bitchy they may be.

 

[Naked Hunny]

umm Patryn what about the fact that my mom is a coke addict and im a recovering drug addict. Or the fact that when i was 12 years old my stepfather threw me down the steps and there was an investigation by child services oh or the time he punched me in the face so hard there is still a dent in the cabinet. The fact that they are the reason i dont have custody of my daughter right now HONESTLY how would YOU feel!

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Passionnee]

umm Patryn what about the fact that my mom is a coke addict and im a recovering drug addict. Or the fact that when i was 12 years old my stepfather threw me down the steps and there was an investigation by child services oh or the time he punched me in the face so hard there is still a dent in the cabinet. The fact that they are the reason i dont have custody of my daughter right now HONESTLY how would YOU feel!

Does the judge know that!!! If not, take Ezzy's advice and call him NH. Nothing to lose.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Right now my daughter is with my real father and his wife and she seems to think she is keeping snickerdoodle she even has her calling her momma

 

[Patryn]

Sorry if I stepped on your toes. I come from a somewhat similar background, and whether you believe it or not, I can relate.

How is it though, that they are the reason you don't have custody of your child right now? You would have custody if you hadn't been arrested. Did your parents force you at gunpoint to committ assault?

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Naked Hunny]

Actually the reason i committed the assualt was because and ex boyfriend of mine made a comment about me losing my snickerdoodle I proceeded to whack him over the head with a beer bottle!! My daughter got a broken arm when an older child had fell on her at daycare. I was never notified by my parents which is whom daycare called saying they could not reach me (I had given them my new phone number and addy the night before I had just moved in with a friend who was having a tough pregnancy) Well my parents never called me. It is required by law for the hospital to report any broken bones in children under the age of 5 to children services. Since i did not come to the hospital to be with my child they considered it negligence even though it was obvious i didnt know considering when the lady called me i broke down on the front line at work in front of about 20 customers!! So for 30 days custody of my daughter was handed over to my father and stepmother well 30 days or until child services sees fit!

 

[TN_Vixen]

NH

oooh, you're in a tough spot. That woman is having YOUR daughter call her momma? Bitch. No matter what you've done to get in this situation, the child is yours and should in no way be confused by a controlling prima donna. That pisses me off.

And, maybe it would be wise to see if you can talk to the judge and explain matters. See if there's anyone else that he can allow you to stay with during this interim?

 

[Ezzy]

Wearing pit boots...

Sorry if I stepped on your toes. I come from a somewhat similar background, and whether you believe it or not, I can relate.

Patryn either relate or relent.



EZ

[Edited by Ezzy on 12-13-2000 at 08:41 PM]

 

[Patryn]

Actually the reason i committed the assualt was because and ex boyfriend of mine made a comment about me losing my snickerdoodle I proceeded to whack him over the head with a beer bottle!!

Self fulfilling prophecy mixed with bad luck I guess. Still an immature thing to do. All he said was words. They can hurt but they can't do anything in and of themselves.

If you temporarily lost custody because of the phone # mix up, how did they find out about the assault?

I'm with everyone else though, about calling the judge. You never know until you try.

 

[Earthmuffin]

Hey NH, sorry to hear you're having such a hassle. There's a reason children go out on their own when they grow up and you're living it right now. Two women related by blood are NOT good housemates.

If'n you and the snickerdoodle fancy a change of scenery I have plenty o crash space for temporary, can just about guarantee you a job (if you don't mind working your butt off literally) and the college is 2 blocks from my front door.

Otherwise....here, have a beer.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Thank you for the offer Earthmuffin but this may sound stupid i guess im one of those independent woman let me try this my way and watch me fall type of people~

 

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[Sammyjo]

NH...just be strong through this. That is the only advice I can give. I don't know if going to the judge would help or not, so you will have to make that decision. Sometimes, they see young people as trouble makers...they don't want to give them the benefit of the doubt...and sometimes those "trouble makers" end up worse because of it.

I know you will get your daughter back soon. Are they allowing you to see her? Is that in the agreement? I would hate to think of you not being able to see her.

I don't think that you are in the best "care" at this point. If your mother and step-father have as many (and probably more) problems as you say, I would think the courts would rather have you be somewhere more stable, and less violent. You may want to petition that.

I remember you saying something about the daycare incident on another thread. I always wonder what would happen if I couldn't be reached. I've started carrying a pager, and I give the number to anyone that may be of importance, just in case. That may be something you want to look into. I'm usually by a phone, but which phone I never know...that way, I can always be reached via the pager, if not by phone.

I seriously wonder at a system that would take a child away from a parent, if that parent wasn't notified or couldn't be reached. My father drives a truck for a living, and if anything had happened to any of us, he would never know. A while back, my mom had a seizure, and my grandmother called my dad's boss. It took his boss an hour to get in touch with him...he had to call every single place my dad delivered to, hoping that he would eventually find someone who could give him a message. My dad has since bought a cell phone. Much less hassle all around...except he calls here at least 4 times during the day because he "remembered something" I don't know the laws where you are necessarily, but I would think that if someone failed to inform you that your child was injured, THEY are the negligent one, not you. Ugh!!

I hope I got all the facts straight here...just hang tight, keep calm, and stay focussed...it will all work out!

 

[Naked Hunny]

right now im just trying to take care of one thing at a time!! But considering my lawyer says i will most likely get a fine or probation im just gonna go from there with the snickerdoodle situation! I think the cops are gonna try to see if i tell them about all the drugs going in and out of my ex's house and who is there all the time they kept asking me about the people attending the party!

 

[Cg1369]

Which is more important to you, NH, your child or your ex???????I'd personally drop a dime on the ex to get my child back. But, that's just my opinion. Best wishes to you and snickerdoodle, whatever ya decide.