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WriterDom said:Discuss.
Stefani said:A professional Dominatrix that I know advertises as a "behavior modification therapist." She always felt like she was more like a shrink than a working girl.
Stefani said:I'm not sure that all fantasies should be acted out. But some are quite harmless, and it's definitely therapeutic to get them out of your system.
snowy ciara said:I haven't experienced it myself, but I've seen it. I've noticed that when mariposa is really stressed, she'll ask D for a serious flogging or strapping. And when she says serious, omfg. I've seen her back and butt after such a thing. But afterwords, the next day, she'll be so relaxed and serene and chilled out.
FungiUg said:I can see arguments both ways for this one. In terms of relieving stress, any sexual play can be theraputic. But just as there's a bad side to sexual play (rape), there can also be a bad side to BDSM play.
The areas where I have concern deal with BDSM reinforcing patterns or cycles of abuse, rather than liberating and enriching. Also, being dominant doesn't qualify anyone as a therapist (even if we think we know it all!) And yet many dominants seem to be willing to take on that role.
So can it be theraputic? Yes, I believe so. But I also believe it can be damaging.
catalina_francisco said:I have always found pain play in particular to be therapeutic for depression and just generally handling stress etc. Like you Caitlynne, I always figured much of it had to do with the fact I enjoyed such activity at the best of times and was definately a masochist. It was with interest I read this article linked recently on another discussion board. If these findings are correct, it seems it may not be reliant upon having masochistic tendencies after all. Not sure it will become a big hit in mainstream western medicine anytime soon though.![]()
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FungiUg said:See my earlier post about dominants and their assumption that they are qualified as therapists. Messing with someone's mind is dangerous, and BDSM play does this in a restricted fashion, making it safer. But equating that with full-on psychological therapy rings alarm bells for me. Unless the dominant IS a shrink, I would warn people not to treat the dominant as one.