Writing the parts for the female in a story
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It isn't easy to write that part in, espcially from the male point of view. 
PoliteSuccubus
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Ok, you've stated that now: Is it a problem, are you looking for advice, what kind of feedback do you want on this issue?
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And vice versa ... it's a challenge to write from the male POV, but I find it to be an interesting one.
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Easy question, hard answer.
The trouble with my stories is simple in itself, I have no trouble with getting the man's reactions and feelings down. Being one makes it easy enough. It's putting the female side of it on paper that I have a hard time with. I can't even get my wife to tell me what she feels.
The trouble with my stories is simple in itself, I have no trouble with getting the man's reactions and feelings down. Being one makes it easy enough. It's putting the female side of it on paper that I have a hard time with. I can't even get my wife to tell me what she feels.
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Some women are reluctant to discuss feelings so personal. The first time I attempted the discussion with my wife, the thought I was perverted. Well, she still thinks I'm perverted, but sex got lots better once we could talk about it.
You'll can observe your wife in order to learn her reactions to lovemaking. Watch for body language, breathing patterns, and those wonderful, erotic sounds.
A woman's feelings are more difficult to discover unless she's willing to discuss the subject. There have been some good discussions on this and other boards that may help enlighten you.
If you're trying for a wank story, you may be able to stereotype both reactions and feelings. If you're attempting an accurate portrayal, it's important to realize that both a woman's feelings and reactions begin long before orgasm and last for some time afterward. It's a very beautiful experience and a wonderful thing about which to write.
You'll can observe your wife in order to learn her reactions to lovemaking. Watch for body language, breathing patterns, and those wonderful, erotic sounds.
A woman's feelings are more difficult to discover unless she's willing to discuss the subject. There have been some good discussions on this and other boards that may help enlighten you.
If you're trying for a wank story, you may be able to stereotype both reactions and feelings. If you're attempting an accurate portrayal, it's important to realize that both a woman's feelings and reactions begin long before orgasm and last for some time afterward. It's a very beautiful experience and a wonderful thing about which to write.
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Getting the Woman's Feeling
I've tried for 15 years.
My wife is not big on talking. So when it comes to describing womans feeling in any story I am so far off base. But be that as it may. I have had some second thougts about having started this particular thread.
I've tried for 15 years.
My wife is not big on talking. So when it comes to describing womans feeling in any story I am so far off base. But be that as it may. I have had some second thougts about having started this particular thread.
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Talk to women. They don't have to be in a relationship with you, or even talking about sex. I got a lot of my female insights from tlaking with my sisters.
If there are no available women around, then write your story and ask a helpful woman to help edit it. Ask her to tell you where you're going wrong with the female perspective.
Hope this helps.
The Earl
If there are no available women around, then write your story and ask a helpful woman to help edit it. Ask her to tell you where you're going wrong with the female perspective.
Hope this helps.
The Earl
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Hi BJ
just some thoughts from me...
sometimes the person we are closest to is the person we know the least about, and that can be partly because our assumptions sometimes take a wrong track. don't worry, it's completely normal.
is there any thing in particular you would like to know or ask? perhaps i or another can help or enlighten you.
just some thoughts from me...
sometimes the person we are closest to is the person we know the least about, and that can be partly because our assumptions sometimes take a wrong track. don't worry, it's completely normal.
is there any thing in particular you would like to know or ask? perhaps i or another can help or enlighten you.
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Some friends and I were sitting about talking about what happens during Orgazim. Did we see colors, etc.
For me, I don't see colors, quite simply the world goes away.
For my friend, she sees white sparks on a black background.
For my other friend, he said the world skewed and then came back into focus.
That's what he gets for having his eyes open, I guess.
For me, I don't see colors, quite simply the world goes away.
For my friend, she sees white sparks on a black background.
For my other friend, he said the world skewed and then came back into focus.
That's what he gets for having his eyes open, I guess.
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Um, let's see....what else can I say to help
When someone bites my nipples for some odd reason it makes my molars feel "buzzy".
When someone kisses or touches the back of my neck my clit throbs.
Um....A clit is just like a little penius, it gets hard too, sometimes at the worst times and there is nothing you can do about it.
Um...I love small nipples on me. They are just like kitten ears, fun to lip and nibble.
When someone bites my nipples for some odd reason it makes my molars feel "buzzy".
When someone kisses or touches the back of my neck my clit throbs.
Um....A clit is just like a little penius, it gets hard too, sometimes at the worst times and there is nothing you can do about it.
Um...I love small nipples on me. They are just like kitten ears, fun to lip and nibble.
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you're welcome dear... i meant it. the best way of having questions answered, is to ask them. somebody around here is likely to know the answer
PoliteSuccubus
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MEN
I like small nipples on MEN! Oops.
I like small nipples on MEN! Oops.
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PoliteSuccubus said:
Penius . . . is that like a 'smart dick'
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nor a clever tom or harry?
did you ask a question yet BJ?
Quasi you are a brilliant wit, thank you for the fun
did you ask a question yet BJ?
Quasi you are a brilliant wit, thank you for the fun
wildsweetone
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don't worry, it's probably safer that way
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hmm that's a darn good point. i shall think about it more.
meanwhile, down here in Godzone, it's dindins time. have a nice rest of the evening and think up some good questions
meanwhile, down here in Godzone, it's dindins time. have a nice rest of the evening and think up some good questions
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BJ-
I have peeked in on this thread several times and contemplated your comments.
That you even acknowledge that you haven't a clue raises you above 95% of the male population.
I think what is a mystery to you could be good material for a story.
Try writing about what you (or your character) feel and experience and the questions you (or your character) has about what the woman is experiencing. Instead of an omniscient 3rd person POV, do a limited one.
In some ways you can develope the male character more fully that way. It will also be more real. Honest bewilderment is preferable to bluffing.
I look forward to reading what you write.
bridget
BJ-
I have peeked in on this thread several times and contemplated your comments.
That you even acknowledge that you haven't a clue raises you above 95% of the male population.
I think what is a mystery to you could be good material for a story.
Try writing about what you (or your character) feel and experience and the questions you (or your character) has about what the woman is experiencing. Instead of an omniscient 3rd person POV, do a limited one.
In some ways you can develope the male character more fully that way. It will also be more real. Honest bewilderment is preferable to bluffing.
I look forward to reading what you write.
bridget
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Re: feelings
I appreciate your input bridget. I will let you knw when my next story is finished.
bridgetkeeney said:BJ-
I have peeked in on this thread several times and contemplated your comments.
That you even acknowledge that you haven't a clue raises you above 95% of the male population.
I think what is a mystery to you could be good material for a story.
Try writing about what you (or your character) feel and experience and the questions you (or your character) has about what the woman is experiencing. Instead of an omniscient 3rd person POV, do a limited one.
In some ways you can develope the male character more fully that way. It will also be more real. Honest bewilderment is preferable to bluffing.
I look forward to reading what you write.
I appreciate your input bridget.
I will let you knw when my next story is finished.
