Writing a blowjob . . . from the perspective of the person giving it

[Feotakahari]

I know I'm supposed to write what I know, but I don't know any guys who'd be particularly receptive to a blowjob from me. As such, a few questions:

About how soon does the average guy produce precum, and how much variability is there in its production?

Assuming the guy being sucked is slightly experienced, but not a total man-whore, about how easy would it be to get him close to coming while not deep-throating? Also, how much of a role can hands play in the stimulation involved?

The guy sucking has no prior oral experience. If he attempts to swallow the cock deeper, how likely is he to gag when the sucked guy comes? (It amuses me to have him coughing up cum into the nearest available wastebasket. To modify an existing phrase, don't suck off more than you can swallow.)

Is there anything else I should know, either about how a blowjob is performed, or about how it feels to give one?

 

[sr71plt]

I know I'm supposed to write what I know, but I don't know any guys who'd be particularly receptive to a blowjob from me. As such, a few questions:

About how soon does the average guy produce precum, and how much variability is there in its production?

Sooner than most depict.

Assuming the guy being sucked is slightly experienced, but not a total man-whore, about how easy would it be to get him close to coming while not deep-throating? Also, how much of a role can hands play in the stimulation involved?

Easier than most depict.

The guy sucking has no prior oral experience. If he attempts to swallow the cock deeper, how likely is he to gag when the sucked guy comes?

He'd be gagging long before that.

 

[Verdad]

About how soon does the average guy produce precum, and how much variability is there in its production?

Soon. Lots of variability. Some guys downright drool, with some there'd be no more than a drop or a few.

Assuming the guy being sucked is slightly experienced, but not a total man-whore, about how easy would it be to get him close to coming while not deep-throating?

Deepthroating isn't the be all end all. Some will be quite impervious to it and want all attention on the head; for others, it is the thing.

How soon he comes, I wouldn't say it depends on whether he's a slut or what technique is used—it depends on how aroused he is, how willing to let go, how soon you want to bring him off, and such. As always, remember the scene is about what transpires between these particular characters in this particular situation. “Averages” are of little import.

Also, how much of a role can hands play in the stimulation involved?

As much as you want them to. More, of necessity, if it takes long or the guy is hung like a horse, but don't think of hands as an 'aid' or something that makes it less a 'pure' bj. You do want to touch and stroke as well as suck—unless it's a kinky/brutal scene and your mouth is being used.

The guy sucking has no prior oral experience. If he attempts to swallow the cock deeper, how likely is he to gag when the sucked guy comes? (It amuses me to have him coughing up cum into the nearest available wastebasket. To modify an existing phrase, don't suck off more than you can swallow.)

He is likely to gag when the guy comes, as well as a number of times before if he tries to deepthroat. If it amuses you to write the gagging and the coughing, by all means, do. It can be very sexy. Don't feel you must, though. Your aim is not quite realism—not really—but a credible illusion. We'll buy his swallowing it down with gusto if it feels right.

 

[lovecraft68]

I know I'm supposed to write what I know, but I don't know any guys who'd be particularly receptive to a blowjob from me. As such, a few questions:

About how soon does the average guy produce precum, and how much variability is there in its production?

Assuming the guy being sucked is slightly experienced, but not a total man-whore, about how easy would it be to get him close to coming while not deep-throating? Also, how much of a role can hands play in the stimulation involved?

The guy sucking has no prior oral experience. If he attempts to swallow the cock deeper, how likely is he to gag when the sucked guy comes? (It amuses me to have him coughing up cum into the nearest available wastebasket. To modify an existing phrase, don't suck off more than you can swallow.)

Is there anything else I should know, either about how a blowjob is performed, or about how it feels to give one?

I think you should try giving one and get back to us.

 

[damppanties]

You got answers to what you asked, so I'll just say...

I know I'm supposed to write what I know <snip>

Meh. That's overrated. Write what you can make believable.

I mean, no one really knows about unicorns, do they?

 

[jomar]

Well, hello there, dampy. Great to see you!

 

[lance gt]

From the giver's POV, my GF told me that it gave her a sense of power when she did it. It thrilled her to see it get bigger under her manipulating lips and hands and feel it swell.

A guy would know when another guy is ready to cum. The shaft swells more as it readies to ejaculate, so knowing that, he can control the other guy's ejaculation through different methods.

Most people gag if anything touches the back of the tongue, (think Dr. and tongue depressers). It takes great control to get past the gag reflex and give a guy deep throat.

 

[lovecraft68]

From the giver's POV, my GF told me that it gave her a sense of power when she did it. It thrilled her to see it get bigger under her manipulating lips and hands and feel it swell.

A guy would know when another guy is ready to cum. The shaft swells more as it readies to ejaculate, so knowing that, he can control the other guy's ejaculation through different methods.

Most people gag if anything touches the back of the tongue, (think Dr. and tongue depressers). It takes great control to get past the gag reflex and give a guy deep throat.

I would be pretty sure a woman would know that as well, and know it a lot better than a guy giving a first time BJ.

the first time a man or woman gives a bj, unless the man warns them, the first time they get them off is a surprise.

I remember way back when I was at an age we can't talk about here, and getting my first bj. I knew I was going to cum, but really thought I could hold back a little longer and when I went off she was caught off guard, and I very un sexily received the cum back all over my thighs and stomach.

Point is I disagree with using any form of "control" during a first time blow job scene.

 

[lance gt]

I agree with that. It takes time to know how a guy's cock works and how to manipulate it for their own pleasure.

As for a woman knowing the same as a man, that I can't agree with. It's the most foreign thing to her, on what it is and how it works. A man at least knows the mechanics of it and where it's sensitive. I liken it to a guy going down on a woman for the first time and trying to understand the magnitude of stimulating her. Let's face it, there's still a huge number of men who have no idea how a woman works physically and they've had years to learn, but still fall short of understanding.

 

[Honey123]

my experience in writing about giving a blowjob, is to do it so that when a guy is reading the story, he feels as though he is receiving one...he can read the paragraph, close his eyes, and stroke his cock..

Someone just sent me a paragraph that I had written regarding that: *from one of my stories*

Reluctantly, I pulled away from him so I could I take his shirt off. I used my tongue to trail a line down his chest. I paused but only to kneel before him. His hands entangled themselves in my hair, I looked up into his face, my mouth hovering at the tip of his penis, I watched him watching me as I stuck my tongue out, licking the ridge, slowly around, not taking it in fully, yet. I flicked my tongue here and there, then brought it flatly down along the shaft, my tongue swirling, licking. I nibbled the ridge of his shaft, taking it in my mouth, sucking it all the way down to his sack. I took one in my mouth gently enjoying the taste of his body, the smells. I looked up again and saw him arching his head back, eyes closed, waiting, and anticipating. I brought my tongue up again in slow licks, as if it were a melting ice cream, smiling at the moans that escape from his mouth. When I took it fully in my mouth, his hands pulled my head in closer to move it deeper into my throat.


My thoughts are close your eyes....think about how you would treat that man...how you want him to feel..how it feels for you. It really does write itself..

 

[damppanties]

Well, hello there, dampy. Great to see you!

Hiya.

I agree with that. It takes time to know how a guy's cock works and how to manipulate it for their own pleasure.

As for a woman knowing the same as a man, that I can't agree with. It's the most foreign thing to her, on what it is and how it works. A man at least knows the mechanics of it and where it's sensitive. I liken it to a guy going down on a woman for the first time and trying to understand the magnitude of stimulating her. Let's face it, there's still a huge number of men who have no idea how a woman works physically and they've had years to learn, but still fall short of understanding.

Every woman is different in what arouses her and where he sensitive spots are. Same with a man. Don't get the 'men will be better' argument.

 

[lance gt]

Hiya.

Every woman is different in what arouses her and where he sensitive spots are. Same with a man. Don't get the 'men will be better' argument.

The original point made, was that a woman would know as much as man about sucking a cock for the first time. A guy at least knows the mechanics of it, whereas a woman just knows what it is as an object.