Would you think I was crazy...

[ohiobbw]

If I sent an e-mail to the guy I like. I'm so tempted, but he doesn't know I have his e-mail (I didn't look it up or anything, he wrote it down on a paper for someone else, but he set it next to me). But I want to say something to him, because I usually see him on tues nights, but I didn't tonight. However, it's not anything terribly important.

So back to the point (I think I have one)...
Guys - If a girl you knew relativly well (for 4 years) e-mailed you out of the blue and you didn't give her your address, would you think she was crazy?

 

[ohiobbw]

No one??

 

[Angel]

Well I for one didn't answer because I have no idea how you should proceed.

I just didn't want you to think you were being ignored.

 

[lickerish]

I wouldn't.

I'd talk to him first to see if he's the kinda guy that'd be cool wit' dat.

If he's nice.. then go for it.


but thats just my opinion..

 

[ohiobbw]

Thanks Angel, know I feel not ignored! (I don't know how to proceed either that's why I asked )

lickerish, we're friends and everything. He's a nice guy (most of the time). I just don't want him to think I'm psycho and stop talking to me completely (because I really like him).

 

[lickerish]

how about dropping hints and casual flirting?

 

[ohiobbw]

how about dropping hints and casual flirting?

Do that all the time! I think he's just dense!

But I've decided not to e-mail him, because I can't think of anything that doesn't sound weird or stupid.

 

[lickerish]

how about inviting him out on a 'plAtonic' date?? then you can be a little more obvious to his density.

*shrugs* i guess if i had the right answers.. i wouldn't be so single, eh?

 

[registered "^^"]

E-mail him, he shouldn't mind, and may even like the idea you looked for his addy.



Just don't pull his ring on the first date!

 

[Mensa]

Out of this world

how about inviting him out on a 'plutonic' date??

Now that's what I call really going out of town!!

 

[lickerish]

Well duh. To him it would be plAtonic.. giving her the opportunity to put some moves on him.. if he doesn't respond, then she's no worse off than when the date started.

less embarrassment.

it made sense to me

 

[Mensa]

lickerish

You have a PM

 

[lickerish]

well fuck~a~duck.. i got my tail busted for ma spellin'.

Excuse me.

The word is plAtonic.

*curtsies*

Thank you Mensa.

 

[cymbidia]

Babes?
I've been waiting...

I'd just do it.
Make the email light and funny .. kinda humorous.
Maybe send a card from www.bluemountain.com or something like that.

Tell him that you really enjoy his [fill in the blank - sense of humor .. way he does his work .. etc .. something public .. NOT something like the way he dresses].

Tell him that you value his friendship.

Do *not* apologize for emailing him - confidence is sexy.

Do *not* feel awkward - this is the electronic age ... we all have email addys.

Do *not* get serious at all.

Keep it light, fun, friendly.
End on a high note .. see you at work tomorrow.
Stress the "friends" thing so he doesn't feel crowded.

Four sentences, max, plus your name, excluding the greeting line to him. Don't add your email addy .. he'll get that from the card/email.

Let him make the next move.

Don't be a coward. She who dares the stars can only end up reaching more than she who will not let herself dare at all.

If it isn't what he wants, he'll let you know. Then it's up to you to accept it gracefully and keep the friendship intact.

But... don't be afraid.
Dare this.

 

[Mensa]

LOL@lickerish

well fuck~a~duck.. i got my tail busted for ma spellin'.

Excuse me.

The word is plAtonic.

*curtsies*

Thank you Mensa.

Upper case was merely for emphasis. You are out of this world!

 

[lickerish]

there's your answer Ohiobbw.

jeez Miss Smartie~Pant~Cymbidia.. you're definitely in the right profession. I think you do know everything

good answer.

 

[Innocencefound]

If I sent an e-mail to the guy I like. I'm so tempted, but he doesn't know I have his e-mail (I didn't look it up or anything, he wrote it down on a paper for someone else, but he set it next to me). But I want to say something to him, because I usually see him on tues nights, but I didn't tonight. However, it's not anything terribly important.

So back to the point (I think I have one)...
Guys - If a girl you knew relativly well (for 4 years) e-mailed you out of the blue and you didn't give her your address, would you think she was crazy?

Why don't you put yourself into the situation where Emails come up in the conversation (of course with a little help from yourself), then ask him how he would feel if someone emailed him out of the blue, even if he hadn't given them his address.

Might just work, then you'll find out from the horses mouth how he would feel about it.

 

[lickerish]

Re: LOL@lickerish

Upper case was merely for emphasis.

I know

I just wanted to make sure peope saw my corrected mistake.. it was kinda hard to see it, ya know?

 

[Merelan]

Okay woah.
You said he is a nice guy, "most of the time". I saw that slip in there.
What does that mean?
He is a nice guy most of the time but the other times he is....
an asshole? a jerk? or shoots people from the top of the nearest watertower? or acts like a teenager in front of his friends?

I want to know what "most of the time" meant, and what he's like the rest. It is that time that counts the most. The jerky, asshole idiot times that will casue you to wonder why you ever emailed him.

 

[Closet Desire]

send the email...

I think Cym's right. Speaking as a guy--I'm now married to the most wonderful woman I've ever known--all because she sent me an email telling me something she didn't have the courage to say to me face-to-face (We'd been best friends for over ten years).

It's better to be disappointed than to live a life wondering what might have happened.

 

[Mischka]

If a girl you knew relativly well (for 4 years) e-mailed you out of the blue and you didn't give her your address, would you think she was crazy?

I would wonder how the hell she got my e-mail address. Explaining that you snuck a peak at it while he was sending something to someone else is not the greatest way to start a relationship. If you don't want to talk to him in person and ask him out the old fashioned way, then try asking him for his e-mail address. Then you would have a legitimate way to e-mail him.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

So back to the point (I think I have one)...
Guys - If a girl you knew relativly well (for 4 years) e-mailed you out of the blue and you didn't give her your address, would you think she was crazy?

No - not at all, but then it would depend on the contents too.

STG