Would You Marry (almost) Immediately?

[sfldaddy]

Just curious: Are any of you so tired of being by yourself, and have so much loveto givem yet nobody to give it to, that you're ready to commit to someone right away? I've heard it's been done, but can't prove it.

 

[Guttergoddess]

Just curious: Are any of you so tired of being by yourself, and have so much loveto givem yet nobody to give it to, that you're ready to commit to someone right away? I've heard it's been done, but can't prove it.

Nope, made that mistake once. Met my ex on New Years, engaged on July 4th, married on Memorial Day. I now avoid all minor and most major holidays like the plague.

 

[Enji]

eh..reminds me of that reality show, let america choose your bride...no i wouldn't lol....if you want something special..you'll need to work on it, unless it's a arranged marriaged..and your forced to like each other though usually the parent will choose someone suitable for their children..unless they don't like their kids...

 

[Jailhouse]

Just curious: Are any of you so tired of being by yourself, and have so much loveto givem yet nobody to give it to, that you're ready to commit to someone right away? I've heard it's been done, but can't prove it.

Chris Rock says "When you're married, you want to kill your spouse. When you're single, you want to kill yourself."

I think the desperation of being single drives a lot of people (especially if the're not really very young and they think the clock is ticking) to make some really stupid decisions. It's understandable; being lonely is living hell... but marrying a complete douche is far, far worse.

 

[Canadian169]

Nice quote and its true, it does feel like hell when your alone.

 

[LittleLadyLove]

Nice quote and its true, it does feel like hell when your alone.

i have to agree, alone is hell.

 

[cfuhrer]

For what my two pennies are worth...

I met my fiance' on May 14 and was engaged a year later on June 7.
But, he is also my first and only serious relationship.

Take that for what you will.

Oh yeah, and I love him soooooo much,

 

[TheGreatRaja]

sometime marriage is almost if not worse than being alone.

Man why cant marriage license be like fishing License, have to get a new one every year or so

 

[Baghdaddy]

Repent in Haste, Yada Yada...

Yes, marriage being not only a social but legal contract..it's very unwise to just..hop into it based on hormonal urgings. Be careful. DATE a while.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Chris Rock says "When you're married, you want to kill your spouse. When you're single, you want to kill yourself."

I think the desperation of being single drives a lot of people (especially if the're not really very young and they think the clock is ticking) to make some really stupid decisions. It's understandable; being lonely is living hell... but marrying a complete douche is far, far worse.

LOL! Amen to Chris Rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, being lonely sucks, no questoin BUT getting married BECAUSE you're lonely is the biggest mistake you will ever make in your life. Remember, TILL DEATH DO YOU PART. Unless you wanna drop dead in less then 3 years, that is a loooooooong fucking time.

I got married because I was lonely. It seemed like a good idea. Stupid, stupid, STUPID. Fortunately my ex and I are on good terms but we SHOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED. Friends, yeah. Spouse? Oy. I've developed assorted weeding out 'tests' for any relationships because of it. Sigh.

YES, it does happen that you have the love at first sight, blah, blah, blah, blah. It CAN work. HOWEVER, statistically speaking... you get the idea.

 

[Darla_Darling]

Just curious: Are any of you so tired of being by yourself, and have so much loveto givem yet nobody to give it to, that you're ready to commit to someone right away? I've heard it's been done, but can't prove it.

I've been single most of my life, and I have to say I prefer it that way. I hate being in a relationship.

 

[Old Joe]

Soulmate

Yeah. I could have done just that some years ago! Married someone within couple of days of meeting. Didn't!! Regretted it every single day of my life since! Soulmates are unique and only come around once! Miss THAT one you won't find another!

Joe

 

[espressolover]

Would I marry immediately?

Being alone sucks, with the clock ticking and all. Feeling like my chance of finding someone is diminishing rapidly.

But I've been seeing this guy, a very nice guy really, who is in one crazy hurry to be married. I'm just not. As we know, it's til death do we part, or some other interminable amount of time if we're in a marriage with someone we've found we couldn't tolerate..or who we just didn't love. So the answer is a resounding "no!". I'm going to be telling him that tonight, along with the reasons why not.

 

[shadowdame]

Would I marry immediately?

Let's just say, I was young when I got married and very lonely at the time that I met my husband. We were penpals, no internet at the time so only had letters and phone. I felt like he was my soul mate and married less then a year after we actually met. It's been 19 years and things have gone from great to the point that now I want out. We used to be friends, now everything he does makes me nuts. We never actually dated, so unless you are very sure I wouldn't recommend jumping into marriage just because you are lonely. Make sure you both really, really know each other first. Trust me I know what i'm talking about, if we had been able to date, I don't think I would have married him in the first place!

 

[OpheliaDoll]

I don't think people should rush into marriage just because they don't want to be alone. There are other ways to find emotional fulfillment. I've never felt alone when I was in a committed relationship, and I never get the desire to marry. I know there are legal benefits and all, but I find it truly irritating that so many people would rush off to marry and settle down once they reach adulthood, and then they'd find themselves bored and unsatisfied and divorce ensues. I also dislike marriage's tendency to domesticate. I secretly think it's overrated and not all it's cracked up to be. I know some would probably find such an attitude shocking. But that's just me - I'm not the marrying type.

 

[sfldaddy]

I agree completely with Ophelia Doll. My late wife and I were legally married, but the marriage license is not what brought us together, and it is not what kept us together. What I am looking for now is not a marriage.. but a truly committed relationship. I owuld never marry again - and that is *not* to say there are not women worth marrying! But for the reasons Ophelia Doll so aptly stated.

I do not want some sort of "shack-up" or "significant other" situation. If I were to fall in love with someone, I would treat her exactly as if she were my wife, in every sense of the word. She would know I cherished her, and wanted to eek the very best out of every moment of our existence together.

But I would (and this will start a new thread) not be able to have a relationship with a plain-vanilla person, or at least with someone closed-minded to expanding her/our sexual horizons.

 

[cowgurlred]

nope couldnt pay me enough just to get married on a whim, especially if you have not known the person for a long period of time and im talking years here,or if you have not lived with them, if you can live with them and not kill them, then you might try marriage, MIGHT, im happy single, have a great career and lots of good friends, and when the other side of the bed is empty and i feel lonely, i got a 200 lb. great dane that more than takes up the space, and she doesnt snore

 

[Shadow Thief]

I really close female friend of mine has a saying: "Relationships suck!"

If I ever end up single again, I'm probably going to stay that way for awhile, possibly forever.

Once you marry someone, your life is no longer your own.

 

[altec]

I would. But then again I'd probably do it for the sheer thrill, rather than I didn't want to be alone any longer. You never know what can happen, and if it doesn't work out, that's what divorces are for.

 

[delugewriter]

Hmmm...

Sometimes that actually sounds appealing...

The sheets are too cold, there's nobody there to share life with, the need to be a part of something or someone, to love just seems overwhelming...

I've actually wondered this from time to time myself... On long, yearning nights that seem too long and too still... That ache that burns inside is all-consuming and fucking painful. I've wondered if I could just take one of those boys who say they want to marry me, and go for it. Anything fucked up now can be fixed later, right?

It's better to regret what you've done than what you've never done, right?

Well, I don't know about that. I'm a chickenshit. I don't want to waste my time on something that just doesn't feel right. So instead I'm wasting my time alone.

Whenever I start thinking about marrying *some guy* I just spend time with friends who are supposed to be in love and are ready to murder each other, and the incessant bitching and ways they get on each other's nerves and purposely push each other's buttons makes me damn glad I'm still single, and reinforces the need to stay the fuck away from relationships...

But sometimes I'd still like to smack the shit out of people who say "You're so lucky you're single!"... Maybe I'm just lucky that I've never chosen assholes.

Angela

 

[beauty4207]

No...I have been married before and it was horrible......taking my time this time

 

[artkid]

I want someone to stay with me every night, and I want them to be the same person.

I doubt I'd marry within the first year of our relationship, but I do want someone to be serious with, some one who I can go to bed together every night...

 

[John048]

Just curious: Are any of you so tired of being by yourself, and have so much loveto givem yet nobody to give it to, that you're ready to commit to someone right away? I've heard it's been done, but can't prove it.

Good Thread you've started Sfldaddy, Sometimes get tired of being by myself, but highly doubt would ever remarry or even commit to someone right away, would take a few years of being together, and really getting to know the real persons we are, I've been married before and it was a good marriage, for over 5 years, and have two wonderful children from it. I've had the chance to really get to know a lot of women since being divorced, and they were truly wonderful, almost commited to marriage with my last girlfriend, we were together for 5 years, she had helped to take care of me back in 1998, while fighting a cancer type of disease, she is a wonderful person I've had the pleasure of knowing and living with but I wasn't ready to make the commitment of marriage with her, so we split apart. I still don't feel it would be a good idea to remarry because I wouldn't want to burden any women with what is going on with me, so when feeling lonely, can always watch some porn or call someone just to talk and take my mind off of it! sorry for ranting! thanks for this thread!

 

[sfldaddy]

Thanks for the compliment.. glad you like the thread. My rationale, by the way, is the same as yours.

Been flamed for the thread a bit, so, John, your response neutralized that. Thanks!

 

[indyfun51]

There is nothing wrong with marrying quickly if you truly know what you are looking for. The trick to that is to make damn sure your potential mate isn't looking for a quick fix to a problem (..i.e. lonliness, financial, etc). Tough to do but it has been done....