Would YOU help?

[Nicole]

I was going in to pay for the Registration of My Dad's Car today (he works way too much to even get near the place), and as I went up the stairs there was a paveing stone missing, well since I don't often look at the ground (more as to where I'm going and who I may be walking into), I fell.

Two people out of about 20 came to my aide. Now being the person I am, I just wanted to get to my feet and do what I had to, get in and out and forget it.

I don't very often let pain get to me, but this really shook me up, I had the shakes and I was bleeding, I actually hurt. But again I just wanted to get in and out.

The paper work I was carrying was all ripped to shreds and I explained to the lady behind the counter why. I showed her my hand, where my finger was already bruised and she couldn't have missed the blood if she tried, but no offer of "would you like a Band aid, or some water to clean that", nope I just got a shrug of the shoulders and sent on my way.

I then went to the bank, to report the incident as I was told that they owned the building in which the accident happened. Well same there, except worse, she didn't even want to know.

Now normally this wouldn't bother me at all, and I'd let it roll off my back, but the building this happened in, is also a Social Security building, where people of all ages young and old visit. What would have happened if it had have been a lady or gentleman in their 80's? Hell I'm in pain right now so they would have broken a hip quite easily.

Would you offer help to someone in this situation or would you laugh and walk away not caring? I have in the past and intend to in the future.

I was disgusted with the response I recieved today, and when I finally got back in my car I had a good cry about it, more the lack of help than the pain (although it was there).

I just found it more frustrating than anything. I went and bought myself a box of Bandaids and cleaned myself up before coming home.

I reported this incident to three different places, lets see if anything gets done about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant Have a good one all of you.

 

[naudiz]

Of course I would help.

Then again, beneath the gruff exterior, I'm a sucker. I help lost tourists get where they're going. I rescue kittens from trees. I help little kids put their bike chains back on. I stay with the old couple on the scary street at night till the tow truck comes. I even put my shopping basket back on the stack after the cashier is done ringing up my groceries.

Doesn't even seem like an option to me. It's just the thing to do. I don't get what's with the kind of people who walk away. Other people's kids. What can you do?

 

[Nicole]

Exactly, that's my point.

I have taught my son in his five years of life that it's the right thing to do, you help people.

He at the tender age of five holds the door open for ladies, he says sorry if he bumps into someone, hell he says sorry if they bump into him.

How are we supposed to teach our children to respect their elders if their elders treat them like shit?

Is it really that Hard to HELP someone in need, I know the world isn't trustworthy today, but if someone fell in front of you, wouldn't you at least offer them a hand to get up?

I mean come on, how can we make the world a better place if we can't even do that?

Naudiz, Thank-you for answering me YOU are a wonderful person.

 

[Roll-One]

I'm sorry that happened to you Nicole, It was making me mad just reading it.

Yes, I have helped quite a few people in that situation, and was glad to do it.

Reminded me of a Elderly lady that was in one of our banks. She was trying to get some help but everyone was just to busy to help her, she looked so lost. I offered my help and walked her to the Dept. she needed to go, and made damn sure they helped her.

She even give me alittle kiss on the cheek. She was so sweet.

 

[Bigdog]

Yes, I would have helped you or anyone else in that situation. I would have made you sit down somewhere and found you a band-aid, even if I had to browbeat an employee to get one. I would have also put something over the missing paver so no one else got hurt and reported to someone in charge. I'm not good at taking "NO" for an answer.

My personal mandate: You are part of the problem or part of the solution.

Standing by while someone was in distress would not sit well with me. I hope you are feeling better.

 

[Nicole]

And I bet it felt good too, Roll One.

I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm Mad cause we always here people wanting World Peace, well if you can't help someone off the floor in front of you, then hey you don't really want World Peace at all.

I just find it hard to believe that people don't care any more, when did all this happen?

I still hand in money if I find it on the floor for gods sake. I guess it just saddens me that's all.

 

[Nicole]

Bigdog I feel fine, more my temper that is not good at this point. I'm a little bruised but, more in the ego than on my body, Like I say pain and I are friends, I like pain, but this really did hurt.

I didn't want anything out of them, I didn't want to report it, but a little sign on the steps saying "Watch your step" would have helped, one of the guys that helped me said he fell there just last week, so how long has the problem been there? Why wasn't it fixed?

Thanks Bigdog, your great

 

[Roll-One]

Not looking for Sympathy

I know you wasn't, but i want to give it to ya anyways...k

People not caring, I don't know when this started happening.

I care, always have and always will.

 

[Nicole]

And that Roll One is why you and I get along so damn well, cause we do care.

You are such a sweetie

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ROLL ONE}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thanks Babe

 

[Roll-One]

Awwwwwww

Thank you

(((((((Nicole)))))))

 

[CreamyLady]

I hope you aren't going to feel this tomorrow.

I'm definitely a klutz. I can't walk and chew gum, and have taken several spectacular falls in various places. The worst was in a building owned by a bank, where the janitorial service -- notorious for this -- had left a puddle of floor wax to dry without either spreading or buffing it.

I went down like a rock in the middle of the lobby, at noon on a payday, in front of hundreds of people. I wanted to die; instead, the guard helped me up and I was immediately taken for an X-ray of my wrist and ankle.

They were very helpful, very concerned, and I just wanted everyone to go away and let me lick my wounds in peace.

I didn't sue the bank, nor the janitorial service (they were dismissed). I wanted, however, to put out a contract on the bozo who left that puddle. My most vivid memory of the incident is the insane tap dance my feet did -- independent of the rest of me -- when they hit the wax. It still makes me blush.

 

[Nicole]

Oh not too hard, my arm is bruised and my back hurts (LOL)

Thanks you always know how to make me smile

 

[naudiz]

Naudiz, Thank-you for answering me YOU are a wonderful person.

Aw shucks, t'weren't nothin'.

And you are a total sweetie, Roll One.

 

[Nicole]

They were very helpful, very concerned, and I just wanted everyone to go away and let me lick my wounds in peace.

That's all I wanted to do too, but this lady in her 50's I say, and a lovely lady too, was so concerned about me.

I am feeling it now, but the way I look at it ... There is ALWAYS someone worse of than me, I am lucky to have all the things I do.

Thanks Creamy Lady at least you have made me realise that it isn't just me that does these things

 

[CreamyLady]

Well, I hope it all feels better soon. Really, the worst part is the whack to the dignity. There is nothing quite as painful as an injured dignity.

 

[Nicole]

I Totally agree, apart from being red all over people were looking at me, and I don't like that *blush*.

I just get mad that people don't seem to care anymore, and I don't know when all this started to happen. I still give a stranger a smile as I walk past, hell it doesn't cost me anything, and do you know how many weird looks I get for doing this? WHY? I'm not that bad to look at am I?

Oh well the world in the 20th century eh? What can we all do? I know I'm still going to be caring and teach my son the same way.

Thanks everyone you are all fantastic people You really are.

 

[Beebeeblue]

Nicole, if you really want to have fun...take pictures of where you fell. The bruises on your body too if there are any. And go to the owner of the building then, and ask them what they plan to do about it.

My motherinlaw fell once at a restaurant in the parking lot. She told them when we got in there, that there was a problem with the lot. Immediately, they gave her a number of a dr to call if she needed to be seen, and the next day they called to offer her a check. It wasn't the largest amt, but they did care enough about her pain to offer something. Im not saying SUE THE BASTARDS!!!!!, but I wouldnt let it go unnoticed.

 

[teresafannin]

I agree with the idea of taking pictures of the accident place. I will always offer assistance if someone needs it & I taught my son to do the same. One of the nicest things that anyone said to me after he died was when an elderly neighbor came by my apartment & told me that Justin had often carried her groceries in, took the trash out & other things like that. I think it is just a matter of being polite, there isn't enough courtesy in the world today. ZI hope you get to feeling better.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

What he said

Of course I would help.

Then again, beneath the gruff exterior, I'm a sucker. I help lost tourists get where they're going. I rescue kittens from trees. I help little kids put their bike chains back on. I stay with the old couple on the scary street at night till the tow truck comes. I even put my shopping basket back on the stack after the cashier is done ringing up my groceries.

Doesn't even seem like an option to me. It's just the thing to do. I don't get what's with the kind of people who walk away. Other people's kids. What can you do?

Exactly what he said. I have, and will again drop everything I am carying to assist someone in need. It makes me sick that people can ignore others when they need or deserve help.

 

[naudiz]

I'm a she, but it's a common mistake. But thanks for being a good guy all the same.

I think if/when I reach 1000 posts, my title will be: I'm a girl!

 

[Ksss]

Yes, I would be one of those people that would have helped you out. Offered to help you find a restroom to clean yourself up or whatever. It's true that many elders except respect from the younger generations, but do not offer the same considerations, almost as if it is a given that they should be respected. Respect is something earned, not given freely. Common curtesy is different. Wonder if those people realize it, they put themselves on the line with a lawsuit. As you had several people help you, you had witnesses. Negelct to keep the entrance way (whether it be steps, sidewalks, etc.) someone is responsible for keeping it in good passable shape. i hope you are feelig better Nicole..spills like that can be nasty. Encourage your son to remain polite, I for one, congratulate you on teaching these things to your child.

 

[Topps]

Makes me angry just to think about it. What has happend to the good old, human compassion. Is'nt it in it's right place to help the ones in "need". I mean if that should happen some where around I would offer my help.

I surely can understand why you are upset. I would be to.

Hopefully you are feelin' better. *S*

 

[*Lazer*]

I can think of all kinds of explanations about why people did not try to help you but none of them are good ones. In the end analysis it boils down to whether or not you are a drone.

A drone rushes about noncaring and nonfeeling on their own little mission. I look at these people with a kind of sad realization that they are missing all kinds of opportunites.

I am sorry you had the misfortune to be in a swarm of drones . I know that you like most people would have done the humane thing and stopped to help. I am glad you are teaching your son the higher way. We have all too many drones not enough individuals.

 

[Nicole]

Thank-you each and every one of you that has responded to this thread.

I've just woken up, and I do feel fine, bruised but fine, and the way I look at it ... Bruising heals.

My ego was pretty much damaged yesterday, I think that takes longer to heal than physical damage. I just can't understand where compasion has gone in the world. I think I must have been sleeping when we started to loose it all.

I rang the council in the area where it happened, (well my Mum did cause I rang her in tears after it happened, again the fact that no-one seemed to care upset me more than the fall), and when they got back to me on the matter they were actually on their way to look at it. I'll ring them again today and find out what has been done, if I get told nothing at all, then I'll go take some Pics. Like I said this happened in a Building where Social Security is taken care of (Social Security being a Very goverment owend thing), and a lot of our older generation frequent this place. I don't want compensation, I don't want sympathy, I want them to fix the problem and not have it happen to someone else, I'm not asking much at all.

Thanks again everyone, and yes I will teach my Son right from wrong, no matter how much I have to force it down him. I've never had to do that because he seems to be one of those kids with a natural heart of gold, that cares no matter what. I guess I'm lucky there.

Thank-you and please each and every one of you have a great day/evening/night

 

[Juspar Emvan]

naudiz

a girl?

Oh good, I like girls