Would you have sex with someone you can't stand?

[Monazwx]

The girls and I were talking and one said that she recently had sex with a co-worker she hated, I mean hates. We asked her why and she said 'cause she wanted to, and something about her dislike turning into passion for that one brief moment. They're back at work, still hating each other (yes, it's mutual), so I say what's the point?

So, the question is, would you sleep with someone you didn't like? Not because of blackmail, coersion or anything like that, just for the sex.

 

[Silverlily]

thin line between love and hate

I've had sex with a hated rival twice. Both times, it was incredible, not something I'd recommend on a daily basis, but definately worth the ride.

 

[pabloback]

if men are prepared to have sex with goats , they will obviously have sex with a woman they despise
over here it is technically known as a "badness job"
ie: not having sex because you like someone but having sex out of badness

 

[truegentleman]

I have had sex with an ex once. The physical pleasure was intense and fast paced.

But afterwards there was nothing. It's kind of hard to explain.

 

[Monazwx]

Wow

Thanks guys, so it seems pleasure for the time and then it's back to business as usual.

Pablo, are you comparing women to goats? Baaaaaaad!

 

[PrincessSalome]

I think it depends by what your definition of hate is.

Usually the people who I "hate" are people that I have a lot of positive feelings about and one big glaring disagreement/fault. Hate is such a strong emotion that I don't waste it on people who have no redeeming qualities. So with me, hate is usually a cover-up for my anger at fact that I really care about someone and something major is between us. So yes, I've had some fucking good sex with people I hate. It usually makes the problem worse, but it reaffirms that we view each other as worth the emotional energy to be having the fight/rivalry/conflict in the first place.

So I'd ask your friend why she hates this guy so much. Why is he worth the effort of such an exhausting emotion? My guess is that the passion is always there and on this rare occurance, they put aside what ever the issue is that usually brings them to battle.

Just a thought. I really don't hate very many people and I'm sure there are other kinds of hate out there.

 

[Ice Cold]

I might have sex with them, but make sure they didn't enjoy it.

Seriously I don't think I could get past the feeling, to even want to be physical on any level with them.

 

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[nasty]

Nope. I may want them,(if I based it on looks, alone.) But. To be 100% in NEED of someone, I MUST love their personality.

 

[LukkyKnight]

So, the question is, would you sleep with someone you didn't like? Not because of blackmail, coersion or anything like that, just for the sex.

Nope.

There is a degree to which some people see all passion as the same sort of energy. You cannot hate somebody you don't care about. The opposite of love is not hating, it is indifference.

But for me: nope.

 

[sigh]

i can't imagine having sex with someone i hate

but really, i only hate one person, so i'm not exactly limiting myself...the other six or seven billion of you are fair game

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Sheesh !


Hell ... no...


Yucky !

 

[cymbidia]

Sometimes sex is, for me, a matter of the incredibly pleasureable release of tension. Sometimes it's far more, as it for all of us, i think. Sometimes it's a thing of need and want and sobing longing, or raging need, or soft love.

I'm pretty sure that i've never had voluntary sex with someone for whom i didn't feel at least the basics of respect and genuine caring. Even having wild sex when you're pissed off at each other, well, that can have rough edges but you still care for the other person, below the surfface mad.

Lukky is correct: the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Someone you *hate* still engenders strong emotions; you could use that, i guess, in an intimate situation. But why would you even put yourself there, so open and vunerable to someone you so greatly dislike? Even for good sex, the potential for trouble later doesn't seem worth it, you know? One can get good sex almost anywhere...

It would be exceedingly difficult to be intimate with someone to whom i was physically and emotionally indifferent. I don't even think i could get wet for someone like that. Man. It must be an ugly and sad feeling, too, getting ready to fuck someone who doesn't even make you wet. How do prostitutes do it? (Yeh, yeh, lots of lube, i know. Still. How sad for them, and for their customers.)

 

[Ishmael]

No.

Ishmael

 

[Juspar Emvan]

If you're talking hate - I think I could, it's a short step from love to hate, and they both involve a great deal of passion. If you're talking someone who physically disgusts me, not a chance in hell. The biggest turn off in life is bad oral hygene.

 

[Oasis690]

Sure...

If there was an underlying attraction it would likely be very hot. I once worked with two people who absolutely hated each other and couldn't get along at all. A few months after I left they started a torrid affair with "destroy a hotel room" type sex.

I once worked with a woman that I did not get along with at all, and we pretty much couldn't stand each other, but I felt oddly attracted to her and I bet it would have been some great sex had the opportunity arose.

The best sex I have ever had has been with women who I did not have a lot in common with. (other than our parts fit nicely together!) Sex, unlike making love, doesn't have to have a deep connection to work.

 

[Throbbin_Rod]

So, the question is, would you sleep with someone you didn't like? Not because of blackmail, coersion or anything like that, just for the sex.

Only if she's hot.

 

[SexySlut2]

I have never slept with someone that I hated, but I have slept with a few that I disliked a whole lot.

 

[Lost Cause]

Been there, done that! It turned into sort of a "grudge fuck" which was great for her, and good therapy for me!
(It was my ex-wife a few months after she left me for my supervisor. The sex happened a week before their marriage!! Life is good!)

 

[Samael]

I don't know if I could or not. It would all depend on if she initiated it or not.

 

[Fairytat]

Re: Re: Would you have sex with someone you can't stand?

For nearly a year I had sex with my (now ex) boyfriend and I hated him as much as I loved him. It was great sex because all the emotions in our relationship poured through us and drove us higher in search of sexual release. Yet, it never solved or changed anything once the sheets cooled. So, IMHO, it's not worth it.

 

[VanB]

I have once with someone I didn't like and she didn't like me - started with an argument and ended with the most intense sex. Whilst we weren't friends afterwards we did get on much better.

I don't think I would make a habit of it!

 

[cherrylips_au]

Never have with someone I hated but did with someone I felt sorry for. Certainly wouldn't do that again.

 

[MechaBlade]

Yes. I need some good angry sex, like in that horrible movie "Love Stinks"


MechaBlade

 

[sch00lteacher]

No, I couldn't do it. Wouldn't do it.