would like to talk to sub females

[SumDaySoon]

I am newly discovering my sub tendencies and desires. I've never in my life realized there were other women, and men that had these same cravings and desires. I'm not limiting it to sex only, but throughout the entire relationship with your partner. I'd like to discuss what it was like discovering what it was like for other subs, if you knew for your entire life, if you have been successful in finding your other part, and anything else that pertains to learning about this part of ourselves. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and consider responding.

 

[wsidersbaby]

Answers

I did not discover these tendencies until much later in life. I had recognized that I enjoyed the thought of spanking, but thought there was something wrong with me for wanting that treatment. I never explored it, but moved on and got married.

Now these feelings still resurface, and I try to get what I need, but I have been mostly unsuccessful.

I am glad you are trying to learn and are not ignoring this side of yourself. I wish I had been that smart.

 

[loveya10]

I am youngish (21) and I have found more and more as I come into my sexuality that I crave the submissive. I am very shy and have no way to meet people around me that like the dominate side (it never comes up in conversation hehe). Online I feel as if I can’t connect to anyone. I find myself hiding the cravings more and more.

I wish they could find me. hehe

 

[dollfla]

I was in my late 30's when I realized that what I'd been hiding all my life was not 'perversion'; it was my need for submission. I've explored much in the past few years and have finally found peace, knowing who and what I am, and being comfortable in my submission. It's not something I display on my sleeve on a daily basis or for the whole world to see. It is reserved for when I am with those Few that know me well. It give me a true sense of well-being when I know that my submission has pleased the One I am with.

 

[annieq]

*****

 

[wsidersbaby]

Ditto

Wow, as I read this, I recognized my own thoughts on the subject. My husband is "vanilla," or just not into what I need, so i find myself looking elsewhere. You cannot change who you are, I guess, even when you are vanilla. I need this aspect of sexuality in my life, but know with my partner I won't get it, so I am struggling, too. I know how you feel.

 

[Dirtco]

The other side

I am older than most but I find As I age that I am more sub. The driving force is to please my wife in more and more diffcult and demanding ways. I would like for her to keep raising the bar on the standards for our sex life but she is happy as is. I would not turn down the chance to please a strong will woman

 

[CutieMouse]

Resources abound.

*gently points towards the BDSM forums... *

 

[SumDaySoon]

I'm so happy to hear from others that discovered later on in life, especially after being married that they are sub. It's heartening to hear different stories from everyone. thank you all.