Worried about getting pregnant?

[Noneyabizness]

Actually, there is a medical condition in which the uterus starts to "fall out" of a woman's body. I don't know how this relates to the injection (if there even is any connection at all). If I remember correctly, the "condition" tends to affect menopausal/post-menopausal women. This is NOT to say that when you hit menopause you're uterus will fall out. It just seems to be when it's most likely to happen.

You can have prolapse following childbirth. Women that have gone through menopause have also had this happen. They can actually feel the uterus bulging in to the vagina. From all I have read, the uterus doesn't actually fall completely out...it may feel like it is going to, but that does not occur.

 

[Noneyabizness]

Just a quick response but as for birth control choices as far as I was taught by the local health nurse in high school an IUD is probably not a good choice unless you've already had children. Women who haven't had children have far more complications with an IUD than those who haven't.

Also, I've spent most of my life saying I NEVER want to have kids. I'm still really iffy on the subject (I'm 22) but I know the man I'm with now wants to have kids someday. Funny how it now seems "well, if they're his kids than maybe I might consider it." Kids are still a long ways away for me and my life plans since I have 5 more years left for school and I'd like to get a career at least partially started before I even consider starting a family but a lot can happen in that time. I would never have a child just to please my partner the older I get the more I think I'd like to have a legacy. Unfortunately, I can skip having kids and go directly into the grandparent stage!

There are some newer IUD's on the market that while not ideal for a woman that has not had children, are still safer than the older ones on the market. I think the one called Mirena is used with women that have not had children (it's also used for women with Endometriosis, and many of those women have not had children...either because they haven't tried yet, or have tried and can't get pregnant due to the disease).

 

[DuckLover]

Nothing's absolute...

Pill + a condom sounds about a surefire a way there is of preventing pregnancy

This combination is what I use also, but remember, there IS still a failure rate, no matter how small. I have a friend who was conceived despite the pill, a condom, AND an IUD!!

Originally posted by Noneyabizness(Heck, look at all the guys when they were young that said they'd never kiss a girl....see how that changed?? ).

LOL. We learned the error of our ways! Y'all are helluva fun to kiss! (Go read the "Do women get turned on by kissing thread.) And some of us even learned to like eating vegetables.

 

[PixieSteph]

After looking at one of the websites Abie provided, I decided not to opt for the surgery, since there does seem to be a wide selection of other B.C choices.

I -know- that I'll never, ever want children. I realize that some people say the same thing at an age as young as mine, but honestly... kids are not for me.

I'm 29 now but when I was your age I asked my family doctor if I could get the surgery (I wasn't completely serious but I wanted to ask. I could not imagine wanting kids). He said it's easier for the guy to get a vasectomy at that age since it's reversible and it would be quite difficult for me to convince a doctor to operate on me . . .

Also, my clock is ticking faintly now. Your ideas and philosophies will probably change a lot in your 20s . . . never say never!

On the IUD front - a 40-year-old pal who was using one just found out she was pregnant . . . her only child is 18. Yowzas!

 

[lovechild27]

I know this was said...but at 21 you DONT know what you want for the rest of your life...there isnt a doc out there that will give you that surgery. The thing with birth controll is human error. Most methods have VERy low failure rate if you look into it. The Neauvo ring is supposed to be VERY good and basically fool proof. I have been on the pill for four years...have had sex w/o condom...and never been pregnant. I take my pills like I shuold and dont smoke. And if your really THAT paranoid about being pregnant..DONT HAVE SEX! If you couldnt handle the consequences, then dont even mess with it.

 

[God of Threads]

Classic

The "rhythm" method works perfectly well but is still not considered by enough people as a viable option.

This classic fertility awareness technique of keeping track of the menstrual cycle works. My parents swear by it and have taught all eight of their children this timeless method.

Avoiding intercourse all-together is the most surefire method but very dull.

 

[Guest]

Re: Classic

The "rhythm" method works perfectly well but is still not considered by enough people as a viable option.

This classic fertility awareness technique of keeping track of the menstrual cycle works. My parents swear by it and have taught all eight of their children this timeless method.

Avoiding intercourse all-together is the most surefire method but very dull.

Um, I'm sorry. EIGHT children?

The rhythm method can never be truly effective because every woman's cycle is different. You are only estimating number of days before ovulation occurs based upon previous cycles - and that can easily change due to stress or illness (last month, for example, I ovulated almost three weeks late due to tax stresses - lol).

Some people do swear by this type of method, but it isn't anything I would wish to use to chance a possible pregnancy.

 

[BirdsWife]

Yup. Count me in that 1% who conceived with an IUD.

I was on an experimental drug at the time that could cause birth defects, so since my insurance didn't cover birth control hubby and I coughed up the five hundred bucks on our own. Three months later I was pregnant. I'm glad to say that little one was a fighter. She survived the IUD and its removal, the experimental drug, and a quack doctor who caused her to end up in NICU for a week to become a very happy, healthy, smart little girl and the best blessing I ever could have asked for.


Anyway, I heard recently that they are bringing back the TODAY sponge (made infamous on Seinfeld) to the US within the next few months. It is currently available in Canada. You may want to consider adding that to you BC pill and condom regime.

 

[sheath]

I'm wondering the same thing that a few other have wondered...

If you are THAT afraid of pregnancy, why are you having sex?

Taking responsibility for your sexual health is absolutely necessary. But even so, mistakes do happen, as BirdsWife just clearly illustrated. Whether or not it is human error, or failure of the method (as shown in the post above), you are going to have a risk anytime you have sex.

It's wonderful that you are taking precautions. But you go into that encounter knowing full well a child could be the result. If you aren't prepared to deal with a child, then you aren't mature enough to be having sex, period.

My two cents...

S.

 

[Guest]

Brilliant post, sheath.


Best advice given!

 

[Guest]

If you aren't prepared to deal with a child, then you aren't mature enough to be having sex, period.

While I appricite your two cents, Sheath, I full-heartedly disagree with the above statement.

Do -you- have sex just to pro-create? How many people do? I think it's a very ignorant thing to say that just because I'm not ready for a child doesn't mean I'm not mature enough to be having sex. Personally, I think that I'm -very- mature, and even more so because I'm taking -responsibility- for my actions, unlike so many others.

By saying what you did above, that leaves room for me to assume that every time you have sex that you're hoping for a child. Do you want children? Pretending that the answer is no, then does that mean you shouldn't be having sex at all, just because you don't want children? That you're not mature enough to handle it?

I'm sorry. I don't mean to flip out on you, but I am extremely offended by your comment.

I realize that there is room for error, and yes, I am taking precautions. And, while I appriciate your praise on telling me good job, I think you're going to have one hell of time convincing however many other hundreds of thousands of women who are on some sort of birth control that if they're not ready for a baby, they're not mature enough to be involved in an act that everyone has a natural born right to.

Just... my two cents.

 

[Needssome]

I could be completely wrong here, but Sheath isn't saying that not wanting a baby means you're too immature to have sex, she just means that you have to be able to deal with the fact that having a baby is one of the possible consequences of having sex. No I'm not "ready" to be a parent, nor do I want a child anytime soon, and I'm taking the responsiblity to hopefully ensure that it doesn't happen but if it does happen it won't ruin my life, I'll be able to deal with it. I've graduated high school, I'm about to graduate from university so ecucationally wise I'm set. As well, I've discussed with my partner what we would do if a baby ever came along. If you can't deal with the fact that the threat of having a baby is ever-present and chances are getting pregnant could seriously ruin your life then having sex isn't what you should be doing.

 

[Guest]

If I misunderstood what Sheath was saying, then I misunderstood. Sorry if that's true, but being the person I am, I felt compelled to defend that I thought was right.

Of course I realize that there is the ever-living risk of bringing another life into this world. If I didn't, then I wouldn't even be bothering with birth control, yeah?

Responsibility and maturity wise, I could handle a baby if I ( by no one's fault but my own) was forced to living with, raising, and even loving one. But with a plausible choice, I don't -want- a child. Not now, and not ever.

Hence, I'm looking for good ways to prevent that from happening.

I appriciate everyone's opinions, and again, sorry I flipped.

 

[SexyChele]

Sati -

Sheath meant no disrepect. She's just not that sort of person. You did present your situation as being one that you desperately don't want children under any circumstances and the it did beg the question that if you were that concerned, then why have sex at all? Try reading it as though some one else had written it.

However, onwards.... When I was 18, I swore I wanted no children, and truly wanted tubal ligation when I was 25. I gave myself a few more years than you do. I could not find one doctor willing to even consider this unless or until I had children within that time. Even if you do have kids by your mid-20s, it is difficult to get a doctor to go along, unless it is a medical emergency. (Think of the woman who lost her 2 little boys in the Oklahoma City boming - she had had a tubal ligation, lost both her children, and wanted a reversal. It worked, thank the gods, but that is a rare instance) I am currently 42, and guess what? I've never had any kids. Go figure. Anyway, I am glad I did not find a doctor who was willing to do what I wished. It would have taken away a choice that I might have wanted to make later on.

Now that I am 42, I'm more in the position of - "Dear gods, please! No kids now!" Does this mean no sex for me? Nope. But everytime I have sex (and I am on the pill, and unless my partner is a long term relationship, I also use a condom), I know full well there is a "maybe" involved. It's one of the risks I take, and I take it willingly and with full knowledge.

Just for informations sake, a tubal ligation is not "major abdominal surgery." My mother had it done in the 70s, and it was considered minor surgery even then. Of course, anytime one goes "under the knife" it is not a decision to be taken lightly. However, from what I can remember (I was 12 at the time - you do the math), she had two tiny incisions right around her belly button. They inserted some sort of gas to illuminate her abdominal cavity and then, with a laproscope, basically "burned" the center of the fallopian tubes. She didn't feel so good that night. I remember her coming home from the hospital and just staying in bed. But it was more from the anesthesia and the bloated feeling from the gas they inserted. She was fine the next day, and I believe she returned to work within a matter of a few days. Now, that was 30 years ago, and I'm sure they've perfected the technique within that time. (Or I hope so, anyway!)

I did a search because I remembered a thread from a couple of years ago, and I was able to locate it. I hope this helps you and anyone else thinking of alternatives in birth control. The woman who put this together spent a lot of time researching her information and assembling it and posting it. I think she did a great job, and I believe she covers just about every major form of birth control - and I few I hadn't heard of. I hope this helps you make an informed decision. But, as so many others have stated, only your doctor can really help you decide what is the best form of birth control for your body and lifestyle.

Forms of Birth Control

Good luck!

 

[sheath]

If you aren't prepared to deal with a child, then you aren't mature enough to be having sex, period.

While I appricite your two cents, Sheath, I full-heartedly disagree with the above statement.

Do -you- have sex just to pro-create? How many people do? I think it's a very ignorant thing to say that just because I'm not ready for a child doesn't mean I'm not mature enough to be having sex. Personally, I think that I'm -very- mature, and even more so because I'm taking -responsibility- for my actions, unlike so many others.

By saying what you did above, that leaves room for me to assume that every time you have sex that you're hoping for a child. Do you want children? Pretending that the answer is no, then does that mean you shouldn't be having sex at all, just because you don't want children? That you're not mature enough to handle it?

I'm sorry. I don't mean to flip out on you, but I am extremely offended by your comment.

I realize that there is room for error, and yes, I am taking precautions. And, while I appriciate your praise on telling me good job, I think you're going to have one hell of time convincing however many other hundreds of thousands of women who are on some sort of birth control that if they're not ready for a baby, they're not mature enough to be involved in an act that everyone has a natural born right to.

Just... my two cents.

Thanks for those two cents, Sati. I certainly didn't mean to offend you. It was an honest question.

To answer those questions: No, I don't want more children right now. I have two already, and those are enough to handle. I do take precautions. But every time I lie down with my man, I am fully aware that nine months later, I could be having his child. If I wasn't ready to face that responsibility head-on and raise that child to the best of my ability, then I'm not ready to be having sex, no matter how much I might want to do so.

I have always believed that one should be at peace with their choices. I think that before someone has sex, they should be prepared and at peace with all the possibilities. Precautions are good...from making sure your partner is completely free of disease, to using the pill, and condoms, etc. But every precaution CAN fail, and then you have to be at peace with what you knew could happen. You obviously are not at peace with the possibility of a child, which is why I posed the question.

My personal story might help here?

My first child was planned, and took four long years to conceive. I cannot tell you how thrilled I was when that test was positive! But my daughter...well. Let me explain what my life was like then. I had just been diagnosed as a diabetic, and became dependent on insulin. My now-ex husband had just revealed his gambling problem, along with a series of affairs. Those all came out when I discovered my savings was gone, and I confronted him with it. No money, a house in foreclosure, a six-month old child, medical problems, and I was separated from my husband. I had sex with him ONE TIME, while trying to reconcile. I was on the pill, taking it religiously, responsibly.

I got pregnant anyway.

When I realized I was pregnant, there was no moment of hesitation. There was no whining about my situation. I had made the choice to have sex, and it was my body, my decision. My consequence. That doesn't mean I wasn't apprehensive. I was. But I had a child inside me, and I had a new life to prepare for. So I did it. It was a hardship, no doubt. But I was ready, and at peace with what had come of my night with him. And my two children are the lights of my life.

Life is more stable now, thank God. I am seriously considering another child, but not quite yet. However...if it comes along, I am more than ready.

I am sorry that I offended you. I suppose I'm asking...If you aren't at peace with your actions and the possible consequences, then why are you doing it?

S.

 

[Gil_T2]

Okay, boys and girls.

I'm 18 years old, and have had four sexual partners in my life. I always make the guy wear a condom, and I'm on the pill, but I've heard of the pill not working, and obviously condoms break.

I'm really scared about getting pregnant. Not only for the obvious reasons, but I don't want kids. I mean like... ever. Ever. Ever!I've heard all of the horror stories, and I'm think that once I'm 21 I'm going to get "the surgery."

Is there anyone here who has had it? How did it turn out? Did it affect your sexual drive? Sensations the same? Less-- better? Any complications?

I'd love to learn more about it.

Also, does anyone have any other birth control methods I should consider? I've also thought about a diaphragm, but am not sure about it. Any advice? Pros? Cons?

Thanks guys!

Eagerly awaiting a response,

Sati

My daughter is 26 & just gavebirth to her second child who just about killed her,the result was she was told no more kids but they refused to do the op because ofher age.

The mother of my daughter had a fairly new IUD so don't trust them either.

The only real idea I can come up with is lots of anal & oral sex no preggo there.

 

[ReadyOne]

This may be obvious, but what about female lovers and/or males with vasectomies?

I do admit a problem that if you married a guy with a vasectomy and then wanted to have his baby.... but many have been successfully reversed.