Won't tell parents he is dating me!

[Guest]

Been dating, exclusively, having sex, spending time with an Indian man ( 25 ) for the past 3 months. He's kind, considerate, ok looking, and attentive. His mother is visiting from India, and he will not tell her/his family that he is dating. He says it wouldn't do any good to tell them he is dating, because they would not understand what dating meant. Here is the dilema: a part of me is relieved, because I don't want to meet his family, too much pressure. Another part of me has serious concerns about his motives. I have thought that

1. He is a coward
2. He is not looking for a long term relationship with me, i.e. is not responsible for my feelings
3. Will never have an honest dialogue with his family
4. There will be parts of his life that I am not allowed in.


While these are valid concerns, I also think it is rather soon to be so presumptous. We aren't engaged! but I think if he was sincerely caring and serious about being honest, he would have told them weeks ago, about us dating. I am getting mad, and have almost decided to break things off. There are plenty of people who aren't so judgemental, and have such adverse cultural differences, but then am I being too hasty? He is a good Indian boy, from a good Indian family, from India (born and raised).

any suggestions? similar situations?

 

[RawHumor]

Didn't you say that you're leaving?

 

[Lancecastor]

I've seen this before.

 

[sunstruck]

*sigh*

Please explain Raw. This guy may rub me wrong, but he's still food.

 

[lovetoread]

Yayati,Do you still hate me?

 

[RawHumor]

I've seen this before.

That's because he posts it about once a week, give or take. It's Yayati, or whoever is behind Yayati.

He's even admitted it once.

 

[sunstruck]

That's because he posts it about once a week, give or take. It's Yayati, or whoever is behind Yayati.

He's even admitted it once.

Thank you, you luscious little Beefcaky wonderslut.

 

[RawHumor]

Thank you, you luscious little Beefcaky wonderslut.

My pleasure, snookums.

 

[lost]

Been dating, exclusively, having sex, spending time with an Indian man ( 25 ) for the past 3 months. He's kind, considerate, ok looking, and attentive. His mother is visiting from India, and he will not tell her/his family that he is dating. He says it wouldn't do any good to tell them he is dating, because they would not understand what dating meant. Here is the dilema: a part of me is relieved, because I don't want to meet his family, too much pressure. Another part of me has serious concerns about his motives. I have thought that

1. He is a coward
2. He is not looking for a long term relationship with me, i.e. is not responsible for my feelings
3. Will never have an honest dialogue with his family
4. There will be parts of his life that I am not allowed in.


While these are valid concerns, I also think it is rather soon to be so presumptous. We aren't engaged! but I think if he was sincerely caring and serious about being honest, he would have told them weeks ago, about us dating. I am getting mad, and have almost decided to break things off. There are plenty of people who aren't so judgemental, and have such adverse cultural differences, but then am I being too hasty? He is a good Indian boy, from a good Indian family, from India (born and raised).

any suggestions? similar situations?

May I suggest a few things- maybe its not serious enough for him (yet) to go through the possible drama of explaining this to his family. His parents may be dead set against him marrying outside their race or religion. Maybe you should give it sometimes, three months isn't real long. If we were talking about a year i would be concerned. Just be aware that if you put pressure on him, you may be the one who gets it. Hope its helpful.

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Re: Won't tell parents he is dating me!

May I suggest a few things- maybe its not serious enough for him (yet) to go through the possible drama of explaining this to his family. His parents may be dead set against him marrying outside their race or religion. Maybe you should give it sometimes, three months isn't real long. If we were talking about a year i would be concerned. Just be aware that if you put pressure on him, you may be the one who gets it. Hope its helpful.

Doll,this is not a serious post.

Its just his idea of having a good time.

 

[Freya]

Happy Tuesday yoyotwat!

 

[brokenbrainwave]

cv the yayatwat is at it again, eh guys?

 

[Guest]

 

[MissTaken]

IF I were dating yayati,

I would only tell my therapist and parole officer.

 

[penguindance]

Re: IF I were dating yayati,