Wondering, and need help.

Kitten1985

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I am new to this scene, and I greatly need some help and advice. I have been doing quite a bit of research, and I have finally decided to take a step through the door and into your world. If there is anyone out there willing to offer advice, I would greatly appreciate new friends that I can talk to. Any referece materials that you could suggest would be great help as well. I hope there is someone out there that can help me guid me through this world safely.

I just recently found this site through a friend. The stories are why I was origanally drawn here. As I explored more and read more, I found my self drawn to the BDSM stories. The experiences and feelings the sub's go though with their Dom's appeal to me greatly, but I have no one in my life that can explain it to me.

Please forgive my lack of knowledge, this is strange for me to be putting myself out here like this, but i honestly dont know what else to do. I am rather afraid of the chat rooms, I have heard too many bad stories from there.

I hope you can be helpful in my exploration of me and this new world

Ever Curious Kitten
 
In her book SEX TIPS FOR GIRLS, Cynthia Heimel notes, in her hilarious way, how the loss of control and lack of responsibility is erotic:

"Why, I looked up, and my arms were tied to this rose trellis! I don't know how that happened. I guess I'm just going to have let him have his way with me! All this has nothing to do with me. I'm just a helpless little lamb!"

But, reading Milton's PARADISE LOST, I noted another explanation. When Adam looks around Creation, and sees God in The Garden...while Eve looks up at Adam, and sees God in him.

Food for thought.
 
Welcome, kitten. Pull up a chair. Take off your shoes. Feel comfortable?

I suggest spending a little while her. Get used to this place. Try chatting online and playing online with some Doms, and see how well you can get to know their personalities online.

See if there's a D/s community close by you. There are two in Denver and one in Colorado Springs - I don't know about other states.

PM me for more info if you want. I'm happy to help.

Again, welcome.
 
Kitten1985 said:
I am new to this scene, and I greatly need some help and advice. I have been doing quite a bit of research, and I have finally decided to take a step through the door and into your world. If there is anyone out there willing to offer advice, I would greatly appreciate new friends that I can talk to. Any referece materials that you could suggest would be great help as well. I hope there is someone out there that can help me guid me through this world safely.

I just recently found this site through a friend. The stories are why I was origanally drawn here. As I explored more and read more, I found my self drawn to the BDSM stories. The experiences and feelings the sub's go though with their Dom's appeal to me greatly, but I have no one in my life that can explain it to me.

Please forgive my lack of knowledge, this is strange for me to be putting myself out here like this, but i honestly dont know what else to do. I am rather afraid of the chat rooms, I have heard too many bad stories from there.

I hope you can be helpful in my exploration of me and this new world

Ever Curious Kitten


:nana: WELCUMM :nana:

(and NICE ink ;) )
 
Thanks

Thank you all for all of your kindness. I appreciate the suport you have all shown. I do have one question though. Is there anyway to fend off the wolves in this place. I cant seem to shake them off of me. I actually had to uninstall my messangers to get them to leave me alone. Please Help!
 
Maybe you should take your messenger handles out of your profile. You can screen people to chat through the PM system here or by a private email, just for that purpose. I personally recommend gmail due to the enormous storage capacity. If you'd like a gmail invite, let me know, Kitten.
 
Yeah, you should take your messenger out of your profile, rather than uninstall.

You could also check out Bondage.com's forums too. They're far more "BDSM Help" related.

Or you could spend three months with and/or talking to me. I know all SORTS of stuff. ;)
 
Kitten1985 said:
Thank you all for all of your kindness. I appreciate the suport you have all shown. I do have one question though. Is there anyway to fend off the wolves in this place. I cant seem to shake them off of me. I actually had to uninstall my messangers to get them to leave me alone. Please Help!


thats why its best not to place any messangers or emails on your profile, sorry the advice came a little late, but hopefully it helps ya in the future.
 
Kitten1985 said:
Thank you all for all of your kindness. I appreciate the suport you have all shown. I do have one question though. Is there anyway to fend off the wolves in this place. I cant seem to shake them off of me. I actually had to uninstall my messangers to get them to leave me alone. Please Help!

Most messengers, including the PMs here at Lit, have Ignore options that block messages from people you'd rather not hear from anymore.
 
Thanks

Alright I have taken down my yahoo info, so for now if you wanna talk it goes through pm's first. We will talk that way for a bit and move from there.

Thanks again for all of your help guys.
 
Kitten1985 said:
Alright I have taken down my yahoo info, so for now if you wanna talk it goes through pm's first. We will talk that way for a bit and move from there.

Thanks again for all of your help guys.

Hey there K.. Sorry to hear you have gotten the wolves.. If you ever want to chat, feel free to pm me.. Ive been in D/s, B/d for over 20 years and love it.. We can chat if your interested.. Check out my STG thread so you learn more about me and if you want to chat, send me a pm babe..

Hope your stay in Lit gets better for ya!!
STG :cool:
 
CutieMouse said:
The BDSM Talk and BDSM Cafe forums are both full of helpful people (Trolls are few and far between, as well); the Library is full of good information, also.

What she said!

Welcome to Lit and to the world of BDSM.
If you want to chat and are awake at nights, shot me a message (I work nights so am awake all hours on my 'days' off).

Good luck in finding that which you seek.
 
Confusion

Ok seeing alot of posts with abbrviations in them. There isnt a dictionary for these kind of things is there? Can anyone explain to me what they are? ::sigh:: The learning never stops here does it? LoL well if someone can explain those then you are my newfound hero!

Kitten
 
Kitten1985 said:
Ok seeing alot of posts with abbrviations in them. There isnt a dictionary for these kind of things is there? Can anyone explain to me what they are? ::sigh:: The learning never stops here does it? LoL well if someone can explain those then you are my newfound hero!

Kitten

BDSM = B&D + D&S + S&M
B&D = Bondage & Discipline
D&S = Dominance & Submission
S&M = Sadomasochism

Oh, and STG = Sun Tan Guy.

:D
 
Ok i knew those, I meant more along the lines of:

CD
BBW
SWM


things of that nature, I have no idea what they mean. ::blush:: I am sure that shows how new I am to this. But even still I am trying to figure it all out
 
Nevermind

Thank you Molecular for giving me that site

Holy cow! There is alot of them.

Thanks again
 
Kitten1985 said:
Ok i knew those, I meant more along the lines of:

CD
BBW
SWM


things of that nature, I have no idea what they mean. ::blush:: I am sure that shows how new I am to this. But even still I am trying to figure it all out

CD-Cross-dressing (I think)
BBW-Big, Beautiful Women
SWM-Single, White Male.

;)
 
RawHumor said:
BDSM = B&D + D&S + S&M
B&D = Bondage & Discipline
D&S = Dominance & Submission
S&M = Sadomasochism

Oh, and STG = Sun Tan Guy.

:D


lol @ STG. I must remember that one :D
 
I've been wondering about "pyl". The link to the dictionary at Bondage.com seems to be broken at the moment or I would just look it up.

Anyone? (And, as was suggested earlier, the more commentary the better.)
 
TheRiverWild said:
I've been wondering about "pyl". The link to the dictionary at Bondage.com seems to be broken at the moment or I would just look it up.

Anyone? (And, as was suggested earlier, the more commentary the better.)

PYL= Pick Your Label
pyl= pick your label

Since Master/slave isn't as cut and dry as you would think, and some don't even use those terms at all. Just a way of defining a Dom and sub without getting into useless banter over the *exact* terms being used.

(Well at least that's how I understand it.)
 
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