womens masturbation

[fencedude]

I have yet to get or see my wife masturbate herself. I have done it for her many times and when I told her i thought it would be hot to watch her she said "I don't do that!" Now I know that 80% of the women in the worl get themselves off and admit it and the other 20% lie and say they don"t.

She never complains when i get her off that way but I may still be missing something that she could show me. Any suggestions on how to sweet talk her into get herself off while im present, or we both get ourselves off?

 

[Monazwx]

If you've never caught her, she may actually not have done it before.
Some women never have, (very rare). Was she brought up in a religious environment?
That may have something to do with it.

But since she allows you to finger her, she must be okay with it somewhat.
It may help if you tell her that if she showed you what she likes,
then you can pleasure her properly (or better rather).

Maybe you can start with her "guiding" you around the areas she likes most with the hands.
A little stroking goes a long way.

Mona

 

[Rosamund]

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[lovetoread]

Sheesh...its taken me forever to be able to masturbate in front of anyone.

Keep talking about it, make it sound non threatening, then she will at least try it, hopefully.

 

[Lust Engine]

She never complains when i get her off that way but I may still be missing something that she could show me.

Did I miss something here? You say you get her off by masturbating FOR her?

While I'm sure she enjoys you in the throes of an orgasm, how does she get off during this??

A little clarification & I might be able to come up with some sort of advice... maybe.

 

[fencedude]

Sorry if I was confusing Lust.

During foreplay, we sometimes mutually matsurbate (she strokes me and I rub, finger, flick her) and she really gets off on it. I would love to see her do herself.

By the way, You need to get a better fire engine pic for your screenname. Go to Pierce Manufacturing and get a pic of a Sabre or Lance. The pic you have is I believe a Quality Manufacturing truck. I used to sell Pierce firetucks

 

[Meat&Potatos]

Odd how most men will masterbate from the first time they get an erection and be okay with it...well, as long as their buddies aren't around...UNLESS there's a hot chick they're going to share.

Women, for some reason, just seem to be afraid of their bodies. Do they make you all (women) afraid of what you will become or is it mostly upbringing?

 

[lovetoread]

Sorry if I was confusing Lust.

During foreplay, we sometimes mutually matsurbate (she strokes me and I rub, finger, flick her) and she really gets off on it. I would love to see her do herself.

I see that obviously she is trying.

Give her time, send her to Lit.

She'll enjoy it.

 

[kay1eigh]

She could be just embarassed about it. Yeah, she probably has done it before but it can be embarassing to do it in front of someone. Is she a shy person normally? Try easeing her into it.

 

[Guest]

maybe an idea

How does your wife like her own body? Tell her how beautiful she is and perhaps entice her to allow you to place a mirror in an advatageous position. She needs to see herself through your eyes. Be gentle and warmly encouraging. Perhaps discuss her fantasies, read erotic literature, make her fell very loved, touch her nonsexually, massage her all over, kiss her eyes and face. It is a matter of trust and for you to be non-judgemental. It can be scary , very, if you don't feel comfortable in your own body. Be patient, most of all, and don't rush her, and don't concentrate too hard on that one fantasy.

 

[flirtygirl]

I have some advice for you. I have recently gotten over the hurdle your wife is facing. What my boyfriend did was during foreplay, he stopped playing with me and put my hands there and asked me to please try this for him. I'll admit, I was very shy about it and do this for him sparingly. He would get me to the point that I was too revved up NOT to continue myself. He made me feel at ease by joining in himself and played while I was playing as well. My personal fears about masterbating in front of him was I didn't like the idea of "performing" persay. I am a very passive woman and usually let him lead, so it was out of my "norm" I don't know if any of this will help, but perhaps with the lights out and a little encouragement, you will help her experience something new. Good luck!

 

[bhambabygirl]

me...

i feel very self-conscious sexually sometimes with my fiance. he gets me to masturbate when we are doggy style and doing anal...not only does it relax me, but i concentrate on me more than what he is doing so it brings more pleasure...i get the most orgasms that way...and i dont feel like im performing - and he loves it as much as i do, because he can feel the orgasms more strongly too. i think that is the biggest thing. if you are just sitting there watching, we feel like we are performing, and hell, i get self-conscious about the neighbors hearing me when im there alone....if it is in a manner where you can enjoy her doing it without just staring, it will ease her into it a little. Then she can get used to the idea of masturbating in your presence until she can "perform" for you. Another I like to do is blindfold him and masturbate while i ride...

best of luck!
BBG

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Mysticcal]

I think you have received some great advice here. Many women are quite shy about their bodies and upbringing can definitely have an effect in this area.

One thing that worked for me when I was most shy was a very patient lover that kept telling me over and over how sexy I was.....how much he loved looking at me. After finally seeing that he was excited just looking at me, he turned off the lights one night, and while just running his hands lightly over my body, he asked me to please myself. The darkness, and the feeling of love and caring from him made it possible for me to do so.

I do remember feeling so nervous and shy, and not sure I could do this, but the constant reassurances from him, his hands letting me feel how much he wanted me......made it possible. We eventually worked up to me being able to masturbate openly in front of him LOL! especially was great when I realized no matter how tired he was etc....if I started masturbating next to him, he would soon join in LOL! I loved that ability to turn him on.

 

[jen72]

Odd how most men will masterbate from the first time they get an erection and be okay with it...well, as long as their buddies aren't around...UNLESS there's a hot chick they're going to share.

Women, for some reason, just seem to be afraid of their bodies. Do they make you all (women) afraid of what you will become or is it mostly upbringing?

Men make jokes about having good wank, watching porn.
They are expected to masturbate.
Most women hate to admit that they do it, it is still taboo.
And jokes about it a Woman that gets herself off, is either sad, dirty or a tramp.
For a woman it can be a deeply private thing, we don't talk about it to each other, while men can get hard and joke about it to their mates.
Think of it, when men do it all the have to do is unzip, they can do it behind a bush. Women have usually undress and lie down. They may creat an atmosphere for themselves, take a bath, cover themselves in lotion, have a glass of wine. Some women put time an evening aside purely to make herself cum.
It isn't just the act that embaresses Women it is being caught doing something so self - indulgent.
Women are not supposed to do behave that way, too many people even in this day and age.

 

[steffy]

The first time I masturbated in front of someone was with a female friend at her house. I was staying the night, and almost always when we were alone, our talk was of sex. We always joked that if I had her boobs and she had my ass, we'd be dangerous. Our conversation got a little intense one night when she admitted that wishing her ass looked like mine got her turned on sometimes. I, in turn, told her that I had masturbated thinking about her boobs. We had been naked in front of each other many times. She acted like, although the thought of me masturbating while imagining her turned her on, she really didn't believe me. I told her that what I would really love to do was actually look at them while I got myself off. Her nipples were hard under her t shirt, and I said seeing her nips was making me wet. She still didn't act like she believed me, so I put my hand down my panties and began rubbing my clit. She said if I would take off my panties and let her watch, she would take off her shirt. Needless to say, we were both naked in an instant, masturbating furiously. Was an awesome experience! I love being watched when I masturbate.
<kisses> Steffy

whoo ha, steffy hits 100!

 

[steffy]

The first time I masturbated in front of someone was with a female friend at her house. I was staying the night, and almost always when we were alone, our talk was of sex. We always joked that if I had her boobs and she had my ass, we'd be dangerous. Our conversation got a little intense one night when she admitted that wishing her ass looked like mine got her turned on sometimes. I, in turn, told her that I had masturbated thinking about her boobs. We had been naked in front of each other many times. She acted like, although the thought of me masturbating while imagining her turned her on, she really didn't believe me. I told her that what I would really love to do was actually look at them while I got myself off. Her nipples were hard under her t shirt, and I said seeing her nips was making me wet. She still didn't act like she believed me, so I put my hand down my panties and began rubbing my clit. She said if I would take off my panties and let her watch, she would take off her shirt. Needless to say, we were both naked in an instant, masturbating furiously. Was an awesome experience! I love being watched when I masturbate.
<kisses> Steffy

whoo ha, steffy hits 100!

 

[perryhotter]

what part of wv? i'd love to see a steffy masturbation show
ph

 

[steffy]

Ooooh, sorry 'bout the double post. Must have used my clit finger. It double fires occasionally. Perryhotter, I live on the west coast of wv, near the ky line. And you?

And why would you want to see a Steffy show?

<kisses> Steffy

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[jen72]

I'm going to have to disagree with this one. One more than once occasion I've been quite horny and haven't been able to make it home, so I've quickly gotten myself off in a stall of a public bathroom, my car, or the shower at the gym (plus some others I won't mention here ).

Oops, didn't know I wasn't supposed to behave that way. And now I'm just too damn old to change my evil ways.

Let me clarify my comment.
I meant that society says that Women are not supposed to behave that way. There are many people that are disgusted by Women masturbating, it is still taboo.
That is why is it so hard to talk about it, to most of us it is a secret.
That is not my opinion, I think it should be less taboo, it should be a subject that isn't for ridicule. I have also done it in public bathrooms many times. Not is the shower because I can't come that way.

 

[pw27]

My dh likes me to masterbate when we're having sex, I always do. It was a little uncomfortable at first but he encouraged me and made me feel sexy about it. Now I have no inhibitions!
Just keep telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy, try it when you're having sex she may feel more comfortable.

 

[perryhotter]

Ooooh, sorry 'bout the double post. Must have used my clit finger. It double fires occasionally. Perryhotter, I live on the west coast of wv, near the ky line. And you?

And why would you want to see a Steffy show?

<kisses> Steffy

I live very near you, and perhaps we have some mutual friends. And why would I not want to see a Steffy show? I think a woman masturbating is one of the sexiest things on the planet. To be held captive by the vision of you indulging in self pleasure would be more than one could ask for, yet I must ask for that very thing. I love a woman who is confident enough and comfortable enough with her own body to share such an intimate act as masturbation with her partner. I'm also thrilled at the thought that we may know each other, and if it be true, I find you incredibly sexy! Maybe we should pm and discuss the issue.......?

ph

 

[sheath]

Here's an idea...

Sounds like she's what is horribly referred to as a 'good girl', one who doesn't do certain things because they feel 'wrong'. I used to be like that...imagine, haha.

Anyway, when you are in bed, take her hand in yours and pull it slowly down. Guide her fingers so that she touches herself the way you touch her. Do all the work, just hold her fingers under yours. Tell her this is what you want and then show her how hard you are, how much it turns you on, just the idea of her touching herself. Ask her to do it for you. If she isn't comfortable with it, then don't watch the first time. Just bury your face in her neck and feel what she is doing. Hold her wrist lightly so that she can stop if she wants, but she knows your touch is there and it is encouraging her.

I like that Mysticcal's suggestion of turning the lights out. She knows you can feel her but you can't see her, and that is pretty liberating when you are shy.

Don't EVER force her to do it. When she is in an especially hot mood, try moving her hand down there. And be patient. She will open up about her sexuality, the more you tell her and show her that you simply adore her and her beautiful body.

S.

 

[jen72]

Re: Here's an idea...

Sounds like she's what is horribly referred to as a 'good girl', one who doesn't do certain things because they feel 'wrong'. I used to be like that...imagine, haha.

Anyway, when you are in bed, take her hand in yours and pull it slowly down. Guide her fingers so that she touches herself the way you touch her. Do all the work, just hold her fingers under yours. Tell her this is what you want and then show her how hard you are, how much it turns you on, just the idea of her touching herself. Ask her to do it for you. If she isn't comfortable with it, then don't watch the first time. Just bury your face in her neck and feel what she is doing. Hold her wrist lightly so that she can stop if she wants, but she knows your touch is there and it is encouraging her.

I like that Mysticcal's suggestion of turning the lights out. She knows you can feel her but you can't see her, and that is pretty liberating when you are shy.




Don't EVER force her to do it. When she is in an especially hot mood, try moving her hand down there. And be patient. She will open up about her sexuality, the more you tell her and show her that you simply adore her and her beautiful body.

S.

That is first class advice. Take it.