Women with rape fantasies

[Taboohubby]

My wife has a rape fantasy. I realize this is normal however my wife was actually raped as a teen abd I get turned on by it. When age talks about her fabtasy it’s not about what happened when she was young but I try to get her to tell me details cuz I get very turned on by it should I feel guilty

 

[screwher]

My wife has a rape fantasy. I realize this is normal however my wife was actually raped as a teen abd I get turned on by it. When age talks about her fabtasy it’s not about what happened when she was young but I try to get her to tell me details cuz I get very turned on by it should I feel guilty

No you shouldn't. Your wife being raped is a fantasy you both share. Your fantasy of her being violated just happens to be based on a real incident.

I remember when my wife confessed to fantasizing about being raped. The conversation got us both aroused and soon we were giving our bedroom mattress a workout! That sparked my own fantasies of her being raped.

 

[Jada59]

No one should ever feel guilty. Guilt is something foisted off onto us by well meaning adults in our formative years. Do right and you won't have anything to feel guilty about to begin with.

As for fantasies, whatever happens between two adults is fine provided they're not doing anything illegal or that could harm the other person.

 

[ukcouple4play]

I obviously don't know for certain but I get the impression rape fantasies are as common among women as, say, wife share fantasies are among men. My two most significant long term partners both loved using the word rape in bed and got off on talking about their fantasies. With my wife role-playing rape has led to some of the best sex we've ever had. It's a confusing one because I think we both feel guilty in equal measure how much we get turned on by it but the key point is, it's fantasy, we're consenting adults and it's hot.

 

[LupusDei]

I have had to deal with two women who have had rapey experiences. Fantasise away all you want, but the real memories are likely extremely painful and should not be touched without necessary caution. If she suddenly goes there be ready to comfort her in explicitly non-sexual and non-threatening way.

Even in a middle of a play, if you accidentally guess the "wrong" thing it may suddenly collapse in a bundle of tears. If she trusts you completely, she may go closer and closer to those memories to rewrite them, but you have more chance to learn the real details through things that should not be mentioned than directly. And no, the censorship has nothing to do with you, even her own conscious record may be edited.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I have had to deal with two women who have had rapey experiences. Fantasise away all you want, but the real memories are likely extremely painful and should not be touched without necessary caution. If she suddenly goes there be ready to comfort her in explicitly non-sexual and non-threatening way.

Even in a middle of a play, if you accidentally guess the "wrong" thing it may suddenly collapse in a bundle of tears. If she trusts you completely, she may go closer and closer to those memories to rewrite them, but you have more chance to learn the real details through things that should not be mentioned than directly. And no, the censorship has nothing to do with you, even her own conscious record may be edited.

under the right circumstances even the MOST benign gesture, phrase, could set them om the path to a psychotic break of unmanageable proportions...
'be careful what you wish for'