Women - what if your SO came on your face while you were sleep?

[asian_sensation]

i had to reply to this post as i was talking to my friend about it only the other day. Really, really bad idea, she said that if she were to ever wake up with a guy ejaculate all over her face, she would bite off his cock. But i would like to see pics, sounds like a funny story. If not for its wrongness

 

[asian_sensation]

i had to reply to this post as i was talking to my friend about it only the other day. Really, really bad idea, she said that if she were to ever wake up with a guy ejaculate all over her face, she would bite off his cock. But i would like to see pics, sounds like a funny story. If not for its wrongness

 

[Phoenix Stone]

about my post (ot)

Phoenix...no warning was needed...Catalina's message was clear...as was the rudeness of yours...regardless of your stated unintention. Not that Catalina needs defending...I see her response...just thought your post was totally uncalled for.

hijack

No warning was needed -- By You. And the post was uncalled for -- By You. Luckily for me, I wasn't talking to you.
The warning is for people, including Kardon, who are reading this and not understanding where on the bell-curve of average responses the various respondents are coming from. Catalina's message was, in that sense, Not clear. It isn't just her openness and willingness to experiment that she mentioned in her post that is likely the full reason she responded positively when this was done to her.
And That is the reason for my post. In the 'your mileage may vary' scheme of things, it helps to know how far someone's journey may be from yours.

'Not that Catalina needs defending...' Catalina is quite capable of defending herself. I would have thought that the fact that I knew even a little about her would have told you that she knows a little about me, and would have some idea as to whether to be offended by me or not. YOU on the other hand, I knew nothing about. I do now, though, don't I?

May I return the favor and mention that I found your post both rude and uncalled for?

Catalina, the bit about not capitalizing was meant to be a silly sort of teasing, though I get it from your post that it didn't come off that way. Probably because of my peeve at that guy. I Do know the capitalize or not isn't a strict thing, and that you're no protocol-Nazi. (And in fact, someone I rather like and very much respect -- in case you didn't know. Can't say the same for Ms.Busy-Body, however )

/hijack

Btw, I stand by what I said that if my husband had done this before discussing it I would have thought he'd gone nuts. Since seeing this thread, however, he's been teasing me about doing this sometime. If he did it Now, it would just make me laugh -- because we've discussed it. Big difference.

 

[wicked woman]

Re: about my post (ot)

Originally posted by Phoenix Stone
hijack

May I return the favor and mention that I found your post both rude and uncalled for?

You are certainly entitled to your opinion, as am I.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: about my post (ot)

hijack


The warning is for people, including Kardon, who are reading this and not understanding where on the bell-curve of average responses the various respondents are coming from. Catalina's message was, in that sense, Not clear. It isn't just her openness and willingness to experiment that she mentioned in her post that is likely the full reason she responded positively when this was done to her.

I wasn't bothered, that is true, but I also don't believe in applying hindsight unrealistically. The event was long before my submissive days, so my current choice of lifestyle realy did not have any influence on my attitude at that time, but as I said, my openness to new things did. It is sad so many react in a éeeew' fashion to most things untried, though human nature which none of us can avoid 100% of the time I expect. Perhaps Kardon would be wise to raise it in converstion to guage the receptiveness of such an act without spoiling the surprise if it was favourably viewed in a fun or acceptable way.

Catalina, the bit about not capitalizing was meant to be a silly sort of teasing, though I get it from your post that it didn't come off that way.

I wasn't quite sure but not overly bothered...just tend to clarify automatically as I have been quizzed many times before about it. Actually he is more likely to use capitals for slave as well, whereas I usually stick with the boring expected norm of lower case for slave, upper case for Master.

Catalina

 

[Mary Hall]

Im going to try this with my girlfriend and see what she does.

Punches you in the balls before breaking both your legs and your arms i hope

How would you like it if some guy did that to you while you were asleep? You really are a scum sucking ass aren`t you?

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: Re: about my post (ot)

hijack


The warning is for people, including Kardon, who are reading this and not understanding where on the bell-curve of average responses the various respondents are coming from. Catalina's message was, in that sense, Not clear. It isn't just her openness and willingness to experiment that she mentioned in her post that is likely the full reason she responded positively when this was done to her.

I wasn't bothered, that is true, but I also don't believe in applying hindsight unrealistically. The event was long before my submissive days, so my current choice of lifestyle realy did not have any influence on my attitude at that time, but as I said, my openness to new things did. It is sad so many react in a éeeew' fashion to most things untried, though human nature which none of us can avoid 100% of the time I expect. Perhaps Kardon would be wise to raise it in converstion to guage the receptiveness of such an act without spoiling the surprise if it was favourably viewed in a fun or acceptable way.

Catalina

Hi Sweetie, I feel Much better now that i went and stomped around on the 'things that piss you off' thread for a while

Just wanted to clarify my position here, too. It wasn't the ewww factor for me, really. I mean I drink the stuff, for Gosh sakes! (Maybe a little. I never really got that whole facial thing a lot of guys seem to be into. Like it on my belly or in my mouth -- just seems like doing it on your face is meant to humiliate? Not sure. Not sure what the zing is about that for some guys. Rubbing your face on a guy's cock, and getting cum on it that way, I get, and like to do. LIke you are soooo into it. The other way, I don't know.)

But for me, it was about Why. Why he would want to wake me that way, and doing something without having a clue as to how I'd react. Kardon doesn't seem to have a clue. And doesn't seem to mind that he doesn't.

Guess that's what bothers me. It seems bratty in a way that is meant to humiliate. Maybe I'm writing the wrong things into his tone, just like Ms. Purple wrote the wrong things into mine. (Though I reserve the right to believe that I've written exactly the right things into hers! )
Also, there some things that are just on most people's list of 'don't go there without asking.' Doing things to you while you are asleep is one. I personally Love to have my husband do things to me while I'm asleep but that's me, and he Knows that about me. Just like your ex presumably knew you liked and were willing to accept a very wide range of sexual things.

Also the fact that he's coming here to ask (boy, i"m really driving this one into the ground, here ), tells me that he either knows she won't like it or hasn't a clue and was looking for validation and for us to say, 'go for it' the way people seem to frequently do about other things they know arent really ok.

Ah, that was a mouthful. Anyway, as usual, Catalina, you are a comfortable, non-defensive, expansive person to talk to -- which is why you attract such ardent, if misguided, defenders (I've noticed most people, including myself, who jump to the defense of someone who didn't really need it, feel undefended themselves or are just feel the need right then for a good, self-righteous stomping, so that they can feel good about themselves. Feel good, Ms.Purple. You're in good company.)


(edited to add paragraphing)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: Re: about my post (ot)

But for me, it was about Why. Why he would want to wake me that way, and doing something without having a clue as to how I'd react. Kardon doesn't seem to have a clue. And doesn't seem to mind that he doesn't.

The way I see the whole issue is sometimes people just want to analyse too much, and don't get me wrong, I analyse over and over and then some. By the time you analyse the erotic at times, the moment has passed and the fun with it. Sometimes it is better to not think too much and just feel, go with what feels good and what you think is going to be acceptable. If it isn't, you will soon find out.

Perhaps Kardon is trying to stretch his wings and does need or want a little validation....doesn't necessarily mean he is wrong or his SO won't enjoy it....or maybe it gives him a bit of an erotic thrill to share the anticipation with us which I figure most people on Lit are into anyway. There are so many ways you can look at most things, both positive and negative. I missed too many opportunities myself by stopping and asking why, or wanting to wait until someone told me it was OK, or worrying about what people would say if they knew when really it didn't even have anything to do with them....hopefully I have learned and won't miss as many in the future.

Catalina

 

[cyberangel69]

Here's an idea. Why don't you try mentioning it to her ahead of time to find her opinion on it.
This could be done in a number of ways.

Example:
"hey baby my friend Bob came all over his girlfriends face last night while she was sleeping"

Then listen to her reaction. If her reaction is "gross how degrading" I would suggest not trying it....

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: Re: Re: Re: about my post (ot)

The way I see the whole issue is sometimes people just want to analyse too much, and don't get me wrong, I analyse over and over and then some. By the time you analyse the erotic at times, the moment has passed and the fun with it. Sometimes it is better to not think too much and just feel, go with what feels good and what you think is going to be acceptable. If it isn't, you will soon find out.

Perhaps Kardon is trying to stretch his wings and does need or want a little validation....doesn't necessarily mean he is wrong or his SO won't enjoy it....or maybe it gives him a bit of an erotic thrill to share the anticipation with us which I figure most people on Lit are into anyway. There are so many ways you can look at most things, both positive and negative. I missed too many opportunities myself by stopping and asking why, or wanting to wait until someone told me it was OK, or worrying about what people would say if they knew when really it didn't even have anything to do with them....hopefully I have learned and won't miss as many in the future.

Catalina

You could be right about all that.

...But I still bet if he tries it -- spontaneously -- he gets his lights knocked out. That's one way to learn!
And, like most folks here -- I wanna see the pics (Sometimes being mean is really being nice in disguise, and vice versa. Guess it depends on what he wanted from us.)

 

[Hexxed]

Hmm, how would you feel if she came on your face while you were asleep? Well, ok not that easy to do per se. If she fingered herself and then rubbed her wet fingers on your face/lips? I don't think I'd mind thatunless I was having a really good dream .

I'd ask her in advance about the idea, like what cyberangel said.

 

[Blastasbird]

god help him if he even tried, I am the type of person who, if in a deep sleep likes to be allowed to wake up in her own time. But then again if he should like to put his tongue inside me then that would be nice but cumming over my face while asleep no way. I would hit so hard he would never even consider doing that again.

 

[Guest]

 

[sheath]

Re: Re: Women - what if your SO came on your face while you were sleep?

Might want to write out your will and obituary first, kid.

Chuckling,
K.

Absolutely, first things first.

Then take pictures, like everybody else said.

If he isn't dead when she's done with him, he can post the aftermath.

S.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

ITA with SM he would truly regret if he EVER did that

 

[acamstar]

pff. I'd be pissed if my man did that to me... kinda rude if you ask me. I wouldn't be very turned on either. Have fun.

 

[Mskey]

ummm lemme think....

I 'm not certain as my husband isn't mentally retarded and would therefore never think of trying such a ridiculous thing on me, but I think I can safely say that were he ever to try it I would hope he enjoyed it thoroughly as it would be the last thing he did in his life!

 

[SexyChele]

Do, uh, the words "Lorena Bobbitt" mean anything to you?

Seriously, if my S/O were to do something like this I would probably play along - at that time. But the next time I offer to give him a blow job? Extreme and excrutiating pain. Hey, if he can experiment then so can I? If he has such little regards for my feelings, then what do I care if I bruise his balls? What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Thing is....a goose can physically hurt a gander much, much more.

But then, I've seen your posts before and you seem to like trying to yank everyone's chain.

 

[Meat Whistler]

I am obviously in the minority, but I would LOVE this. I will say, most women wouldn't enjoy this type of thing and if you have never talked about this kind of thing, don't do it.

I've been waiting for someone to do this to me, though.

 

[incognito989]

I am obviously in the minority, but I would LOVE this. ...

It's ok, I've fapped to your avatar numerous times already. Does that count?









kidding, of course...


You seriously would like that though? Sounds like it might be related to a control-fetish (even if mild)?


Sorry, just sparked my curiosity

 

[Meat Whistler]

It's ok, I've fapped to your avatar numerous times already. Does that count?


kidding, of course...


You seriously would like that though? Sounds like it might be related to a control-fetish (even if mild)?


Sorry, just sparked my curiosity

The AV is not me; it's a painting.

As for the latter, yes. It has nothing to do with control. I find it extremely panty wetting that a man would jerk off while I slept and jizz all over my face. Imagine waking up to him sleeping and dried cum all over your hair and face. Sign me up.

 

[BrownEyes26]

Bad idea all around.
If I woke up and a guy (regardless of whether we were fucking or not) was jerking off on my face, I would nail him.
It is just so intrusive. I agree with Sheath, it is at about the same level as rape.

 

[Tooch McGroin]

I think you have go be a pretty sick fuck for this to even enter your brain as something you would like to do to a woman. If anyone did this to me, he wouldn't live to tell about it.

An extreme response. So, at your murder trial, your defense will be something like: "he shot his wad on my doll face while I was sleeping, and I HATE that!"

I agree with catalina on this. If you are in a good relationship, and this is a kink between the two of you, or a kink on one side which the other side complies with: I don't see a problem. My girlfriend asks me to cum on her face while she sleeps. She also asks me to wake her up by fucking her in the ass. She's kinky, and that's a good thing to find in a woman.

 

[SexyChele]

I agree with catalina on this. If you are in a good relationship, and this is a kink between the two of you, or a kink on one side which the other side complies with: I don't see a problem. My girlfriend asks me to cum on her face while she sleeps. She also asks me to wake her up by fucking her in the ass. She's kinky, and that's a good thing to find in a woman.

Just a few things:

1. A "good relationship" is not denoted by whether or not your S/O allows you to do things that s/he may not be in to but allows it anyway. That's a doormat, and I would think that is the poorest of relationships.

2. A kink between two people or a kink for one which the other is willing to engage in, is very different from simply engaging in something without seeing how your partner feels about it. I'm sure if a woman has a kink to paint her (male) partner's fingernails bright red, does it while he sleeps without verifying it with him first, then wakes him up with barely enough time to get to work, he might be just, um, a bit irritated? Especially if she doesn't have any nail polish remover....

3. Your girlfriend has asked you to do this - a far cry from the way the question was asked here. In other words....to simply surprise her.

4. A lot of the women who responded that they would not like a man to shoot their spunk while she sleeps and without having discussed it previously, would be considered kinky - in some cases, very kinky. Allowing a man to do whatever he wishes, without regard to how his woman feels and having her "put up and shut up" is not necessarily considered kinky. It's considered oppressive and demeaning to a lot of women.

 

[Bobmi357]

4. A lot of the women who responded that they would not like a man to shoot their spunk while she sleeps and without having discussed it previously, would be considered kinky - in some cases, very kinky. Allowing a man to do whatever he wishes, without regard to how his woman feels and having her "put up and shut up" is not necessarily considered kinky. It's considered oppressive and demeaning to a lot of women.

And yet Chele you must remember that this board hosts an international set of members, and in some countries women are oppressed as a matter of routine. Even in some westernized nations once a woman marries she's expected to bow to the wishes of her husband. Sometimes we need to know more about a posters location before we blindly pass judgement over them. Which, mind you, I am not saying we are doing. We have all told Kardon its a stupid idea, well most of us. But he could be coming from one of those countries where men care little about the feelings of their women. This thread and his other about wanting his girlfriends mom to watch them making love certainly suggests he cares little for her feelings.

Personally its a repugnant attitude to me, but thats the way it is in some places. Kardon's original post and his subsequent followup post suggest that he is very immature.

What your partner does while sleeping is not an invitation for you to engage in sex with your partner. My wife does something that drives me absolutely bonkers while she's asleep. She grinds her beautiful ass against my knee. I know she's asleep, I know she hates being woken up before she's ready to wake up, I know she's doing it totally innocently. That doesn't stop me from wanting to take a little lube and my dick and replace my knee with my dick. But I know she'd be pissed beyond belief and I'd end up spending the rest of the year sleeping on the couch.

Kardon, for christ sake, leave this girl, forget about women until you can grow up enough to actually take someone's else feelings into consideration. If you're really not a troll and these are your true feelings, go join the navy or something, get away from women for a couple years.