Women, thought's on married men?

[LuckyDragon]

Well the question is this, what is the first thing that you think when a married man is hitting on you, or posting somewhere like the personals? Do you think what a dickhead, Why is he doing that , Or Mmmmmm no strings.

Basically I was wondering how many women would actually try and find out more compared to how many would just shut him down or not even consider it.

Well let's start with that and see were it goes.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[redrider4u]

Never considered a married man, never will.

And if one hits on me, it really pisses me off. I feel like he's putting me in a bad position, and he's being disrespectful to all three people involved.

If he wants to fuck around, he shouldn't be married.

And if he lies to me about it, he had better be prepared to deal with the consequences.

Sorry to sounds so harsh, but I feel very strongly about this.

What about a married guy whose wife walked out on him?

Or a guy whose wife is hopelessly lost in a coma for years?

Or a guy separated for years, and his wife is living with another man?

Or a guy whose wife is in prison for many years?

Not all things are simple.

 

[SexyChele]

Pardon me for interjecting, but I feel just as strongly as Pink Orchid does...

What about a married guy whose wife walked out on him?

Hmmm...and he's not heard the word "divorce" yet?

Or a guy whose wife is hopelessly lost in a coma for years?

I love how married guys always throw this one out. Exactly how common is this phenomenon? Also, the "my wife is too ill for sex but I have her permission for sex with another" routine? Did he not marry in sickness and in health? For better and for worse? If his wife were in a coma for years and years and years, it might be something to consider. But then, as I stated: just how common is this?

Or a guy separated for years, and his wife is living with another man?

Uh, divorce, again?

Or a guy whose wife is in prison for many years?

Depending on what she's in for, he might really want to consider divorce! And, of course, it would be a healthy thing for the next vict-er-woman to know exactly why his wife ended up in prison. Murder? Assault and battery? Theft? This character might be better left alone to begin with.

Not all things are simple.

Yeah. When it comes to one being married or not, it's very simple. You either are or you aren't. And if you are, in my opinion, you do not have the freedom to fuck around. If you want to, then you need to end the marriage and screw whoever you want to. Simple.

 

[Native Alien]

I don't worry near as much about the ones that tell me that they are married. It is the ones that tell me that they are single that I worry about.

I have a different view than Pink and Sexy. I would at least ask questions. One of the things that I have found is that I can talk with them and sometimes make a difference. I don't shut anyone down right from the get go. I at least hear what they have to say about the situation.

Okay so throw things at me now. lol.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[redrider4u]

Originally posted by redrider4u

Pardon me for interjecting, but I feel just as strongly as Pink Orchid does...

What about a married guy whose wife walked out on him?

Hmmm...and he's not heard the word "divorce" yet?

Or a guy whose wife is hopelessly lost in a coma for years?

I love how married guys always throw this one out. Exactly how common is this phenomenon? Also, the "my wife is too ill for sex but I have her permission for sex with another" routine? Did he not marry in sickness and in health? For better and for worse? If his wife were in a coma for years and years and years, it might be something to consider. But then, as I stated: just how common is this?

Or a guy separated for years, and his wife is living with another man?

Uh, divorce, again?

Or a guy whose wife is in prison for many years?

Depending on what she's in for, he might really want to consider divorce! And, of course, it would be a healthy thing for the next vict-er-woman to know exactly why his wife ended up in prison. Murder? Assault and battery? Theft? This character might be better left alone to begin with.

Not all things are simple.

Yeah. When it comes to one being married or not, it's very simple. You either are or you aren't. And if you are, in my opinion, you do not have the freedom to fuck around. If you want to, then you need to end the marriage and screw whoever you want to. Simple.


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I am losing on this post, and it really grates me. Sexy and Pink have made pertinent comments, but, damn , it's not that simple.

aaahh..........going out for ice cream. What's your flavor, sexy and pink?. It's on me.
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[alltherage]

I think potential dickhead, potential problem and more than likely a bore.

 

[LuckyDragon]

Back from my nap

Pink , you never considered a married man for what? a one night stand, friends with benifits, or a long term relation ship. What exactly were they out of the running for. Are LTR all that you look for, not that there is anything wrong with that, or did you ever think "Man I don't need a guy in my life right know but I'd like to roll around with him for a while"

Sexy, your absolutly right married or not married and all marriages should be exactly the same with the same rules and expectations for ever..HAHAHAACKGAGG. Sorry the sarcasm was a little thick even for me. Perhaps you think that we should codify exactly what marriage is. Because people couldn't possibly come up with their own rules for a respectfull loving union.
(could someone pass me a napkin I dribbled sacasm on my desk)
Native, would you just try to talk them out of doing something outside the bounds of marriage, or if they had a good story would you give it a go.

 

[Roy Kay]

Married, poly guy here.

Wife is healthy, loving, and as free to play or love as I am. Been that way for 30+ years.

Oh, and understands me more than is convenient sometimes. Really kills the "My wife doesn't understand me." line. Ah well, it wasn't like I needed or wanted it - except in jest.

 

[Native Alien]

Okay Lucky Dragon, where did you go?

 

[LuckyDragon]

right here

I didn't go anywhere, but I need to now, I need to eat. Native I did get your pm. I'll tell you my story in a bit.

Be back later.

 

[Jenny _S]

Hmmm...

I have this feeling someone is missing the point here. Men and women are different. Men want to sew their seed anywhere, anytime and with as many women as he can get away with without getting caught.

Women want home, family, TRUST, COMMITMENT (do you hear me?) and other things equally mundane.

If he already has a wife, where does that leave me? A hot fuck and "So long, Sister?"

 

[Native Alien]

Damn sure takes a dragon a long time to eat.

 

[pinkladyzz11]

At the risk of having to duck and run, I have to go with the there is no one size fits all answer.

 

[Roy Kay]

>If he already has a wife, where does that leave me? A hot fuck and "So long, Sister?"

It depends. I have formed loving and supportive relationships with my OSOs. Many have met my wife and gotten on well with her.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Native Alien]

Well in any case, someone never came back to give us the rest of the story....

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[waverlysgirl]

EVERYTHING CHELE SAID

The same goes for married women.

 

[mbb308]

His wife must be around.....

I sorta thought the same thing.

With all the guys out there who are single or divorced, why would a healthy woman want anything to do with a married guy? The same goes in reverse, too.

If a person is married, acting like it would be a nice and fitting detail. Marriage is a hard enough contract to get right without interjecting third parties into it, unless both partners have agreed to an open polyamorous arrangement in advance.

But, Hell, what do I know? I have never been in a marriage that lasted very long.

 

[Bandit58]

Of the 4 people I've been with in the last year, 3 of them are married (one is female btw). The first one, I fell really hard for.....I knew he was married, because he told me the first time we chatted online. We had an online relationship for just over a year, and were together a handful of times, before he called it off a month ago (it's been 6 months since I've seen him).

Another is a guy I've known since we were kids, we just got together one night back in May, and he visits me now and again. I know his wife, but we are not really friends, we move in different social circles. He is bi, and she does not know. It is a release of sorts for him, because she is not very adventurous in bed.

The lady was part of a 3some I had with an older male friend (divorced). He met her on a personals site and organised the whole thing, it was a one night stand (so far, he still is in contact with her and it may happen again). Again, her husband does not know she is into women or that she has sex with other men.

And this is just in my sheltered little corner of the world.......

 

[Ginger_grl]

Married Men

It's easy!!

10 foot barge pole springs to mind.

To answer all the unsimple questions, I would simplify it. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you're unhappy in your relationship then either work on making it better, or move on and make yourself free for looking for a new relationship.

I've heard all the reasons for staying in an unhappy relationship (I'm a counsellor) like the kids, finance, and many more. But the reality is, it's a cop out to start a new relationship without sorting the first out first, but so many do this creating havoc and heartbreak in the process.

Honesty for me is the only policy, if your sex life is crap then talk about it, with your wife/husband is probably best, but perhaps a friend or a counsellor.

For many men and women they would say I love my wife/husband I don't want to leave them, I just like the thrill of the new, the excitement of the chase, or the flirting. My question would always be, if you're in such a great relationship then surely your partner knows all this then? The answer is often no....and the thought that goes with that is 'what they don't know doesn't hurt them' ahhh how sad and deceitful is that?

If I can't tell my partner honestly what I'm doing, then I'm doing something that would potentially hurt them, which means that I am not loving, valuing or respecting them, simple or not so simple, if we are taking responsibilty for our actrions, then honesty would be the road we always choose.

Personally I'm happy to be friends with anyone, married, single, divorced, male or female. What I'm not happy to do is anything that I feel is dishonest.

So basically shagging married men is out, but then they should avoid me because I'm a married woman.

I'll answer now, yes, my hubby knows I chat and flirt on here.

 

[Native Alien]

Maybe I am just wired different, or maybe it is the way that I grew up.

But, I would honestly rather have a man tell me that he is married upfront. If I am interested, and if he is honest about the situation, then I will at least listen to what he has to say. I know that in several cases, because of the listening I have prevented men from doing something that they would regret later.

In some cases I haven't. There are reasons that people can't or won't get divorced. I have heard about 90% of them. I know that with me personally, it took a while. It is not as easy to get divorced as some people thing in certain cases.

 

[LuckyDragon]

Can I get off the couch now?

Alright now, if I tell my background can all of the amateur Therapist's can relax and answer a simple ?

Quick rundown 27yo married nearly 7 year with two kids.
Wife is the love of my life and things are great. I am not looking for something more exciting, interesting or attractive. she is a 5'10"blue eyed brunette that used to be exotic dancer and let me say, she is SMOKIN HOT! We don't really have any problems.

What started this thread was we were talking about women flirting with her and I realised she has more women flirt with her than I do with me. Well she didn't believe me(she is of the idea that I am smokin hot, I'll take her word on it). She thought that most women won't flirt or hookup with a married man because thay don't like the Idea of it happening to them. So I thought I would see what you all thought.

Am I looking to hook up with someone, yeah I wouldn't mind going down on a pretty woman, but so would my wife. See she is Bi so the idea of me and another girl is not really a bad thing. She would dig having a threesome or just watching.

So did I leave last night when she came home? Yeah, we had dinner gave the kids a bath put them to bed. At that point I had a choice of typing this or well, getting in bed with my wife. I choose option B, thats why we don't have any problems, we both know that the other one come first( thats good advice too, make sure she comes first ).

So can we get back to the question or should I get back on the couch.