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I am a male who recently got out of a long term relationship. I have some female friends of mine who have become extremely outgoing and aggressive with wanting to get together. A few of which we have had a physical relationship in the past that was great and they have all said were extremely fulfilled. I have had all of them mention my caring manor in general and also to be honest and not sound like a jerk they all refer to how large my cock size is and how over the years they haven't found a man who was near as well endowed as me. I am not writing this to toot my own and horn and hope you don't take it that way. My question to you women is that, now that I am out and about free to do as i want for the first time in a long time, what is the best way to go about maybe seeing a few different girls at the same time? I don't want to hurt anyone or mislead anyone or make anyone jealous. I will probably have sex with all of them as they have all indicated they are willing without a label to the relationship or wanting anything more. It all sounds great at the beginning but if you are listening to this situation, what do you think is best here? I mean what if i am in bed with a woman and we have amazing sex all night and while we are curled up in bed she asks if i'm seeing anyone else? I don't want to lie and say no, but I also don't want to talk about maybe having sex with 2 or 3 other women as well. I was just wondering if you had any advice as I just want to let out some sexual frustration without anyone getting hurt. Thanks to anyone who replies.
 
I am a male who recently got out of a long term relationship. I have some female friends of mine who have become extremely outgoing and aggressive with wanting to get together. A few of which we have had a physical relationship in the past that was great and they have all said were extremely fulfilled. I have had all of them mention my caring manor in general and also to be honest and not sound like a jerk they all refer to how large my cock size is and how over the years they haven't found a man who was near as well endowed as me. I am not writing this to toot my own and horn and hope you don't take it that way. My question to you women is that, now that I am out and about free to do as i want for the first time in a long time, what is the best way to go about maybe seeing a few different girls at the same time? I don't want to hurt anyone or mislead anyone or make anyone jealous. I will probably have sex with all of them as they have all indicated they are willing without a label to the relationship or wanting anything more. It all sounds great at the beginning but if you are listening to this situation, what do you think is best here? I mean what if i am in bed with a woman and we have amazing sex all night and while we are curled up in bed she asks if i'm seeing anyone else? I don't want to lie and say no, but I also don't want to talk about maybe having sex with 2 or 3 other women as well. I was just wondering if you had any advice as I just want to let out some sexual frustration without anyone getting hurt. Thanks to anyone who replies.

I am not a female but I have been down your road before and my adavice is simple, be honest, don't lie to them about not looking for anything serious and dating other girls. When I was in your situation, I told them all what I was coming out of, and that I wasn't looking for anything seriously. They understood and they were cool with that, actually respected that I was honest with them. But I also knew they didn't want anything serious either, so that helped. In any matter I made sure they definitely thought of me as a piece of meat. And once they thought of me as such they treated me as such, which was more than fine with me. One other big bonus of being viewed as a piece of meet by them is that they will actually do things sexually that they wouldn't do with a boyfriend. The relationship is totally sexual, hence they want to do everything they have always wanted to do sexually but were too good of a girl to do it with a significant other. God, I miss those days.
 
You really should never screw the crew as you will end up losing some of their friendships. Feelings do change and some of them will end up getting hurt even if they agree that its just sex so you need to be prepared to deal with that.
 
You could definitely run through the whole crew if you know what you are doing. You have to be extremely casual and up front about not needing a relationship right now. Thats great that you are hung, but your question leads me to think you are not going to able to pull it off unless you change your mindset

You are not in "caring" mode. So get out of that. Just be nice and up front and cool. But don't get super honest with everyone, there is no need. It is none of their business who else you are fucking unless you make it their business. They come in knowing that it is just a friends thing, so you have to keep it that way.

The fact that you are asking girls for advice is a huge sign to me that you are already screwing up or this is a covert brag thread. Anyway, good luck with it.
 
There is no problem , there is nothing wrong. I am not bragging. And I know the male point of view is going to be a little different than the women. I was looking to hear more from the women. I just want to be a good person and yes I do care about these women they are great people. I understand some of you eluded to turning off the feelings and just enjoy the sex. It's pretty clear that is something that isn't a problem. I was just simply looking for a woman who is unattached to the situation to offer her feelings on maybe having a man in her life that they from time to time get together and have amazing sex. Thanks and hope everyone is doing well. This is very highly sexual outlet and kind of cool to be able to communicate like this in such a forum where this is why this exists.
 
Obviously be honest about wanting to be nothing more than friends with benefits... But to tell you the truth, even if these women agree to that initially, very few girls are able to have sex repeatedly with a guy and not develop feelings. It is risky...Some of your girl friends may be able to handle a no-strings-attatched agreement, but inevitably, some will catch feelings and get hurt.
 
Obviously be honest about wanting to be nothing more than friends with benefits... But to tell you the truth, even if these women agree to that initially, very few girls are able to have sex repeatedly with a guy and not develop feelings. It is risky...Some of your girl friends may be able to handle a no-strings-attatched agreement, but inevitably, some will catch feelings and get hurt.

Agreed. If you're just looking to get laid why don't you find a woman/women willing who aren't friends? And like someone said use protection.
 
I am a male who recently got out of a long term relationship. I have some female friends of mine who have become extremely outgoing and aggressive with wanting to get together. A few of which we have had a physical relationship in the past that was great and they have all said were extremely fulfilled. I have had all of them mention my caring manor in general and also to be honest and not sound like a jerk they all refer to how large my cock size is and how over the years they haven't found a man who was near as well endowed as me. I am not writing this to toot my own and horn and hope you don't take it that way. My question to you women is that, now that I am out and about free to do as i want for the first time in a long time, what is the best way to go about maybe seeing a few different girls at the same time? I don't want to hurt anyone or mislead anyone or make anyone jealous. I will probably have sex with all of them as they have all indicated they are willing without a label to the relationship or wanting anything more. It all sounds great at the beginning but if you are listening to this situation, what do you think is best here? I mean what if i am in bed with a woman and we have amazing sex all night and while we are curled up in bed she asks if i'm seeing anyone else? I don't want to lie and say no, but I also don't want to talk about maybe having sex with 2 or 3 other women as well. I was just wondering if you had any advice as I just want to let out some sexual frustration without anyone getting hurt. Thanks to anyone who replies.
Use protection, have fun, tell them the truth, and you might be surprised to find out that you are not the only one they are doing... If they have a problem with you doing other girls they will let you know.....
 
Yes I should definitely make a very big effort on getting condoms in my gym bags, car, jacket pockets, etc. It's hard to plan for a time where things just happen. Where you're just so used to just having sex with someone or people you know are clean and on the pill. But at the end of the day, you never really know 100%
 
I would definitely suggest that you look outside of your circle of friends for fuck buddies. Sooner or later, if they know one another, they'll know what's happening, and if you've been even slightly shady with the truth it might bite you, and them.
 
that's how we kind of became friends in the first place by hooking up. It wasn't like we were are long term or close friends. Just had a good experience and just kept in touch and would do it again here and there. It hasn't been recent but I mean I guess I should've made it more clear. These aren't really truely close friends or people I go out with often. I mean let's say I meet someone I have never met before and we have a sexual attraction and it's really good. We get together maybe ever few weeks or every other month. Something like that. I mean you wouldn't really consider them friends but maybe just i guess fuck buddies then huh?
 
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