Women only Please!!

[RedKittyKat]

This may be long, so please excuse me. I would like women's opinions on something. Background first tho. I'm 39 (female) divorced for a year next month. I was brought up in a very, very conservative household. An example is that I have a brother 9 years younger than I am. My dad refused to let me in the same room as my brother when he was changed or given a bath. I've had two lovers entire life time. I admit I have conservative views on sex, but I am trying to explore. Here is the main question. I met a couple online, and they were discussing about sharing the husband with someone. I was very interested in it, to the point of going to meet up with them for lunch to see how the chemistry was and then make a date for it if we got a long to do it later. My conscience was starting to get to me and I backed out of the lunch date.

Here is the question...Should I try to push myself and branch out and try to do new things or follow my conscience and only have sex whenever I get back into a serious relationship? I feel like I want to try to new things and I am missing out, but then on the other hand I freak out at actually doing it..

 

[Anastasia1999]

Go for it

 

[Disgustipated]

This may be long, so please excuse me. I would like women's opinions on something. Background first tho. I'm 39 (female) divorced for a year next month. I was brought up in a very, very conservative household. An example is that I have a brother 9 years younger than I am. My dad refused to let me in the same room as my brother when he was changed or given a bath. I've had two lovers entire life time. I admit I have conservative views on sex, but I am trying to explore. Here is the main question. I met a couple online, and they were discussing about sharing the husband with someone. I was very interested in it, to the point of going to meet up with them for lunch to see how the chemistry was and then make a date for it if we got a long to do it later. My conscience was starting to get to me and I backed out of the lunch date.

Here is the question...Should I try to push myself and branch out and try to do new things or follow my conscience and only have sex whenever I get back into a serious relationship? I feel like I want to try to new things and I am missing out, but then on the other hand I freak out at actually doing it..

Dude.

Bro.

 

[yossi]

If you want to branch out sexually, keep trying until it stops making you freak.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Get out there, try new things, give yourself permission to let your freak flag fly (you probably have one).

Also, expect this thread to derail. They nearly always do.

 

[Aella_]

I don't judge others for doing it. None of my business.
But given your upbringing, you might start feeling ashamed at some point in the future. So one hour of pleasure for a lingering sense of shame - not worth it, imo.
I'd go for other avenues and sigle guys, if I were you.

EDIT.
Given the poster's answer (following mine), I'm starting to agree -shocker!!!- with Disgustipated.
I suspect that this is a baiting thread.

 

[RedKittyKat]

lol...thank you for the heads up Babbling Brooke...
yossi...how do I keep trying? I don't really have much opportunities to find that out..oh I have 2 kids at home too btw...so makes it hard for me to just randomly go out

 

[BabblingBrooke]

lol...thank you for the heads up Babbling Brooke...
yossi...how do I keep trying? I don't really have much opportunities to find that out..oh I have 2 kids at home too btw...so makes it hard for me to just randomly go out

What about just going out with friends first? Hanging out, having fun, and being an individual? Do you have anyone who can babysit for you? Can you trade off with another friend and watch each other's kids?

Jumping into bed with another couple might be a too big a first step. Finding a way to relax, have fun, and be yourself (outside of being mommy) may help you open up to more.

 

[lynn-23]

I would say take it slow. Reschedule the lunch date iwth the couple, but let them know your situation and you need to see how you feel and that its just lunch. Then just see how you feel about it. It may take a time or two to relax, but thats perfectly normal. No reason to rush things.

 

[RedKittyKat]

somehow when I was married my friendship circle got very very small..being shy was part of that I believe..and its hard for us to meet up because of jobs and kids...but..yeah I think the married couple thing reason I was so interested was because started to be friends online first...and it was almost like I wanted to help them out....does that make sense?

 

[Queersetti]

The other couple thing was a good twist.

I thought for sure this was going to be about fucking the brother.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Dude.

Bro.

The other couple thing was a good twist.

I thought for sure this was going to be about fucking the brother.

Part of women only you two don't understand. Queersetti you might be a exception, because you are a diva at heart. Ugg Mug what's your excuse?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Part of women only you two don't understand. Queersetti you might be a exception, because you are a diva at heart. Ugg Mug what's your excuse?

Are you an exception, then?

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Its always wise to go with your feelings. Your conscience part is alerting you that all of you isn't onboard the big adventure.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Are you an exception, then?

Just like to fuck with people.

 

[lovetoread]

I'd say theres a 50/50 shot at some of these people posting being women.

 

[pensivepoet]

As a woman, I feel comfortable here.
*knits and rocks*

 

[Debbie]

You have kids. Please be careful. Sometimes people online are crazies.


I would consider seeing if there is a swingers group or something like that in your area. Go check them out with a friend and if and when you feel safe and comfortable and over time think you have found a couple you have gotten to know a little bit and then get your freak on. In a safe environment and not on your own.

 

[lovecraft68]

I'd say theres a 50/50 shot at some of these people posting being women.

Glass half full kinda gal I see, I usually figure 3 out of ten women here are women.

 

[Disgustipated]

Are you an exception, then?

He's not even that.

 

[neci]

This may be long, so please excuse me. I would like women's opinions on something. Background first tho. I'm 39 (female) divorced for a year next month. I was brought up in a very, very conservative household. An example is that I have a brother 9 years younger than I am. My dad refused to let me in the same room as my brother when he was changed or given a bath. I've had two lovers entire life time. I admit I have conservative views on sex, but I am trying to explore. Here is the main question. I met a couple online, and they were discussing about sharing the husband with someone. I was very interested in it, to the point of going to meet up with them for lunch to see how the chemistry was and then make a date for it if we got a long to do it later. My conscience was starting to get to me and I backed out of the lunch date.

Here is the question...Should I try to push myself and branch out and try to do new things or follow my conscience and only have sex whenever I get back into a serious relationship? I feel like I want to try to new things and I am missing out, but then on the other hand I freak out at actually doing it..

http://36.media.tumblr.com/4d5d70a45c9e4a57609f37801cbd9623/tumblr_nlhelpOB0n1s6dcs3o1_1280.jpg

 

[jezzilee]

As a woman, I feel comfortable here.
*knits and rocks*

Do you quilt and cross stitch too?

@ the OP...giving you the benefit of the doubt.

Life is way too short to have regrets. Have FUN! Try new things. Get out of your comfort zone for a moment and see what life has to offer. Just do it safely!

 

[neci]

you can start by posting your tits. for the ladies.

 

[Noor]

http://36.media.tumblr.com/4d5d70a45c9e4a57609f37801cbd9623/tumblr_nlhelpOB0n1s6dcs3o1_1280.jpg

pretty much...

 

[Noor]

Glass half full kinda gal I see, I usually figure 3 out of ten women here are women.

A generous assumption