Sparky Kronkite
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Understanding something - understanding the details of something - understanding the "to do list" of something and even "doing it," is so very, very much different from.......
Really knowing something. Emotionally feeling something. Having something inside you - having something internal to your being.
And this difference, the difference between - understanding something and emotionally feeling something - is the difference that manifest itself most basically regarding the difference between men and women.
You see - at best - a man can "only attempt" to understand his woman's needs - maybe he actually can "understand" some of them - but he will never, ever - be able to understand them from an "emotional" context. His understanding as thorough as it may be (hitting that "to do list" thoroughly) still - will be "distant" from the actuality - the emotional understanding - that most women would like their men "to realy get - to feel."
Men simply don't "feel" like women do. They can't.
The vise versa is true - back the other direction. Women can't ever really, "emotionally know or feel or understand," what it is to be a man.
This is impossible for normal heterosexual males and females and is the basic rift between men and women.
Yes, sure - you may be saying, "my man or my woman is an exception." And I would say, "that's what he/she "wants" you to believe. You see - their just "hitting all your buttons." But it is a calculated ploy - these are the smart ones - they play "you" - in order to get what "they" want.
And ya know - that's the best any couple can hope for.
The good ones - the good couples - the smart couples - "attempt at the very least" to make that "to do list." They try to hit at least "some of the buttons" in order to keep their partner happy. Thus more easily getting what they want and need. But any desired perfection - total "emotional understanding" in both directions, between a normal hetero couple - is an impossibility.
The bad ones - the couples "not trying" - (of which there are many) - the ones not even "acknowledging the need for compromise" - not understanding the need to hit the emotional buttons of your partner - are not going to be happy. Never.
Period.
Unless they somehow become clued in.
So.....
Always shoot for the "best compromise" because - mutual compromise is the only possible objective.
Another obvious fact of wisdom via Uber Spark.
Really knowing something. Emotionally feeling something. Having something inside you - having something internal to your being.
And this difference, the difference between - understanding something and emotionally feeling something - is the difference that manifest itself most basically regarding the difference between men and women.
You see - at best - a man can "only attempt" to understand his woman's needs - maybe he actually can "understand" some of them - but he will never, ever - be able to understand them from an "emotional" context. His understanding as thorough as it may be (hitting that "to do list" thoroughly) still - will be "distant" from the actuality - the emotional understanding - that most women would like their men "to realy get - to feel."
Men simply don't "feel" like women do. They can't.
The vise versa is true - back the other direction. Women can't ever really, "emotionally know or feel or understand," what it is to be a man.
This is impossible for normal heterosexual males and females and is the basic rift between men and women.
Yes, sure - you may be saying, "my man or my woman is an exception." And I would say, "that's what he/she "wants" you to believe. You see - their just "hitting all your buttons." But it is a calculated ploy - these are the smart ones - they play "you" - in order to get what "they" want.
And ya know - that's the best any couple can hope for.
The good ones - the good couples - the smart couples - "attempt at the very least" to make that "to do list." They try to hit at least "some of the buttons" in order to keep their partner happy. Thus more easily getting what they want and need. But any desired perfection - total "emotional understanding" in both directions, between a normal hetero couple - is an impossibility.
The bad ones - the couples "not trying" - (of which there are many) - the ones not even "acknowledging the need for compromise" - not understanding the need to hit the emotional buttons of your partner - are not going to be happy. Never.
Period.
Unless they somehow become clued in.
So.....
Always shoot for the "best compromise" because - mutual compromise is the only possible objective.
Another obvious fact of wisdom via Uber Spark.
