Women - is she flirting with me or ?

[daytr1pper]

A fb friend, someone that I went to h.s. with, never dated, haven't seen in 30 years, recently sent me a pm (we have chatted via pm - so that's not unusual).

^ not her - but a pic just like this (she asked me not to share it). She sends it to me out of the blue and asks if I can see her two birth marks. She says "Can you see them? My mom says they're birth marks. Above my ..."
I was surprised, but replied in the most casual way as if it was the most usual thing to be asked. The conversation never turned sexual.

I get this site is hyper-sexualized, which is why I don't want any responses from the guys. I'd like an honest answer ladies - is this just a casual conversation? Or should I be taking some sort of hint?

We talked beauty marks. The closest I came to anything is I said "Beauty marks on the beauty, right?!". She responded with a heart and a smiley face and then started talking about her dog eating kleenex.

So we talked dogs.

Then she got to "Apparently he loves me. But yeah, if I don't use a tissue or a wipe, ya know. Apparently he likes the scent." I responded with a laugh. I said "I'd make a joke about all males liking the scent..." then went on to tell her about my brother's dog that would eat the crotch out of his wife's underwear.

And then it went back to 'normal' dog stuff.

So I don't know. Color me your typical confused male.

I'd love to compliment her lips. On the pic she sent and on her fb cover photo pic, her lips look amazing!! But I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I guess I don't want to wreck a friendship, even a fb friendship, over some teenage fantasies.

 

[Saint_Ann]

A fb friend, someone that I went to h.s. with, never dated, haven't seen in 30 years, recently sent me a pm (we have chatted via pm - so that's not unusual).
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^ not her - but a pic just like this (she asked me not to share it). She sends it to me out of the blue and asks if I can see her two birth marks. She says "Can you see them? My mom says they're birth marks. Above my ..."
I was surprised, but replied in the most casual way as if it was the most usual thing to be asked. The conversation never turned sexual.

I get this site is hyper-sexualized, which is why I don't want any responses from the guys. I'd like an honest answer ladies - is this just a casual conversation? Or should I be taking some sort of hint?

We talked beauty marks. The closest I came to anything is I said "Beauty marks on the beauty, right?!". She responded with a heart and a smiley face and then started talking about her dog eating kleenex.

So we talked dogs.

Then she got to "Apparently he loves me. But yeah, if I don't use a tissue or a wipe, ya know. Apparently he likes the scent." I responded with a laugh. I said "I'd make a joke about all males liking the scent..." then went on to tell her about my brother's dog that would eat the crotch out of his wife's underwear.

And then it went back to 'normal' dog stuff.

So I don't know. Color me your typical confused male.

I'd love to compliment her lips. On the pic she sent and on her fb cover photo pic, her lips look amazing!! But I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I guess I don't want to wreck a friendship, even a fb friendship, over some teenage fantasies.

The only people left on Facebook are the ones that just migrated from Myspace.

 

[Nicefella]

“I get this site is hyper-sexualized, which is why I don't want any responses from the guys.”

LOL - nice move. But - Sorry dude. I’m going to comment anyway.

Don’t blow it by telling her she has amazing lips. It won’t turn out like all those lit stories.

 

[DarkRaven13]

I think @JadeNYC has it right. The thing she mentioned that to me is most importance is both of your relationship status. If either one is in one currently then I say it should be a 'no' full stop.

As we all probably also know, social media makes it easier to flirt and have an online dalliance discreetly, so perhaps that's what is happening on her end (either intentionally or unintentionally). If that's the case, and you're both available, then again, what Jade mentioned about a coffee meet up would confirm her real life interest or not

(And if it is a real interest and you're both available, then yay and best wishes )

 

[hanban24]

A fb friend, someone that I went to h.s. with, never dated, haven't seen in 30 years, recently sent me a pm (we have chatted via pm - so that's not unusual).
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^ not her - but a pic just like this (she asked me not to share it). She sends it to me out of the blue and asks if I can see her two birth marks. She says "Can you see them? My mom says they're birth marks. Above my ..."
I was surprised, but replied in the most casual way as if it was the most usual thing to be asked. The conversation never turned sexual.

I get this site is hyper-sexualized, which is why I don't want any responses from the guys. I'd like an honest answer ladies - is this just a casual conversation? Or should I be taking some sort of hint?

We talked beauty marks. The closest I came to anything is I said "Beauty marks on the beauty, right?!". She responded with a heart and a smiley face and then started talking about her dog eating kleenex.

So we talked dogs.

Then she got to "Apparently he loves me. But yeah, if I don't use a tissue or a wipe, ya know. Apparently he likes the scent." I responded with a laugh. I said "I'd make a joke about all males liking the scent..." then went on to tell her about my brother's dog that would eat the crotch out of his wife's underwear.

And then it went back to 'normal' dog stuff.

So I don't know. Color me your typical confused male.

I'd love to compliment her lips. On the pic she sent and on her fb cover photo pic, her lips look amazing!! But I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I guess I don't want to wreck a friendship, even a fb friendship, over some teenage fantasies.

If you are both single and in a position where you could date, I’d shoot your shot and see what happens. Do it in a non-creepy way, but I wouldn’t be worried about “ruining the relationship” when it sounds like outside of these Facebook conversations, you don’t have much of a relationship to start out with.

In my experience, most people don’t just connect out of the blue for no real reason. If you feel like she is being flirty and you have interest, I wouldn’t get into your own head too much.

As others have noted, if either of you are in a relationship I’d lay off.