Women In Control

[TonyG]

They really are!

If a woman wants to do something and the guy doesn't, she will get her way fairly qucikly. If SHE does something to get the guy upset, she'll get HIM to patch it up pretty fast. This is usually done by using their 'persuasions' on him, whatever that might be.

Turn it around: the man wanting to do something she doesn't want him to do; forget doing it. Worse yet, if the man did something wrong and she is mad, he'll be making up for it for a week.

How come the woman's persuasions work better and faster than the man's persuasions?

 

[Ambrosious]

Hmmm...let me think...pussy?

 

[Countess DeWinter]

I wish I didn't have to...but I gotta disagree!!

If my husband wants sex, all he has to do is crook his little finger. I gladly forfeit much needed hours of sleep or be late for an appointment for a little nookie. But if I want it and he doesn't...what do I do? *looking at my hand and sighing*

Going back to read your post, I think it's a stereotype. Stereotypes get that way by being the most common thing. Perhaps many women do operate that way, but not me.

I hope you don't think less of me

 

[Lil-Brandi]

Ambrosious...you are bad...just bad! LOL

This is just an opinion..so please don't take it for more than that!

As a young lady, I definitely can't say I haven't used my persuasive powers to get what I want.

As I say in my bio, I learned, and learned very young I must admit, that just the simple look with the eyes or the right pout of my lips would get me a "yes", where normally it would be a "no". Or I could very easily change a "no" to a "yes", with those same looks.

For me, and probably most girls, it starts when we are young, with our fathers. I find that I can very easily turn my Dad to a softy and pretty much get whatever I want, whenever I want it! He is of course much easier to manipulate than my Mom. After time that manipulation, being very successful, is just as easily used on boyfriends, teachers, policemen (wink), etc.

I think that guys through history have always and still are the dominant sex. The stronger one physically is obvious, so normally they are perceived as the leader, the head of the household, etc. As that stereo-typing continued, us females found a way to bring the stronger males to their knees and turn them into those softies!

Of course, if the puppy dog eyes, and the pout doesn't work, tears are the next best thing. A strong masculine man, never wants to see a sweet lil' gal cry.

 

[livin_simple]

Better watch it Tony

you're gonna be paying for voicing that opinion...

Uh, Countess, sorry about your plight....my experience has been right in line with Tony - but I didn't say that.

 

[TonyG]

Countess
First: I will never understand any man saying no to you in the bedroom and I would NEVER think any less of you for stating your ideas or opinions. I welcome them always.

Next: Yes my comments are very stereotypical and a result of years of hearing it in that manner. It's wonderful that you will not use your wiles to get want you want. To me it shows you have the ability to stand up for yourself without the aid of 'persuasions'. However, I do believe the stereotypical image is based in reality. I am not saying it's wrong for a woman to do this, I just find it interesting that it works as well as it does. Perhaps, with some men, Ambro's response IS the answer.

Lil-Brandi
You are very true with your statements about 'daddy's little girl'. My two daughters can get me to do anything they want anytime they want to do it. So, you may have hit on the deep reason for this phenomenom.



Personally, I enjoy being 'persuaded' now and then. It can be a lot of fun to give in.


[Edited by tony_gam on 02-07-2001 at 01:42 PM]

 

[innocentwife]

not really agreeing

In my marriage, hubby really rules....although I don't let him know! lol. I believe that the stereotype comes from a couple places. One is the fact that a woman must be in a frame of mind mentally to enjoy sex (oppinion) where as a man can have sex just to have sex, even if he is mad. A woman sort of feels like not having any sexual relations until things are cleared up. At least for me. Not saying it has never happened, but general rule of thumb I guess. Secondly, a woman knows what head a man thinks with occassionally (smile) and sometimes uses that to her advantage. But I believe that men catch on to the fact that if you put a woman in a good frame of mind.....the end product is rewarding! So basically it is both of our faults but that is human nature. I understand what you mean by when the husband isn't in the mood....ugh! I promised my hubby to never tell him no again as it has happened to me a couple times not getting any at a time I thought I would die without it! Not fun! sooooooooo, I try to keep that in mind.

 

[Kadee]

I'll admit...

I have at times (however rarely) been known to use "persuasions" to change the course of a situation, but for the most part it is all in fun for me. I think that it all depends on how well you communicate. My boyfriend knows me so well that he can spot my "persuasive tactics" a mile before they get to him. He will sometimes play along and sometimes stop me cold. Then again, he has tried the "persuasion" route a few times himself. So I think it can go either way. (and I definitely like the idea of him making something up to me for a week...how do I get that to happen? play mad?)

 

[TonyG]

Originally posted by Kadee
... (and I definitely like the idea of him making something up to me for a week...how do I get that to happen?

Use your 'persuasions'.