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This thread was supposed to help Women know how to approach Men through a little more illuminating PM.
Cliff Notes: Men and women are different, and women sending men short and coy in a pm will get a response but not necessarily what you are looking for.
Guys are used to the basic etiquette of what to do when sending a woman a PM. (Well except for the clueless ones they are the ones that complain that nobody ever answers p.m.'s)
Girls On the other hand are well aware that their communications are at a bit of a premium so they tend to get minimalist....they seem to think coy is flirty...it isn't.
The little one or two word openings that you might use in a bar are acompanied by all kinds of body language and eye contact.
Although I'd generally appreciate an unsolicited p.m., and the challenge that creates to do a little cyberstalking and try to figure out how to get up to speed with where you already are in your mind with me.....
....more often than not I'm not going to follow the script in your head if all you send me is..."you intrigue me."
I tend to feed off of other people and I personally am all over the map sexually.
if I have no idea what it is that you were reading that intrigued, I could go off in a completely unsatisfactorily direction for you... so if you give me little to nothing to go on I'm going to escalate hard. Not just to be a jerk about it but I figure nothing ventured nothing gained if I have no idea where you're coming from.
So if you're thinking of sending one a quick reference to something you read of mine helps a lot. Its okay to give a little thumb-nail sketch of yourself as well as far as what facet of all of your varied interest did you think might well be compatible with one of mine?
As a guy no way in hell would I expect to get a response at all from sending a woman, " you intrigue me."
As a woman I think you could simply send a"?" Or maybe even a"."And most guys will answer you back just maybe not in the way that you want.
I had recently (ok actually for quite some time now) been in a bit of a snarky mood.... some of my rants have been tinged with a bit of misogyny. I've been a bit earped with women on and offline as of late. Nevertheless it seems lately after one of those tirades that I get a woman or two showing a little interest. The last one that sent me a note I, with a degree of forthrightness, sent basically this paragraph to her.
She sniffs back something about oh well with that response I guess maybe it was a mistake to p.m. you.
Yes dear, yes it was.
Kind of hard to follow the script that gives you the tingles you so desire when you don't send the script over for my perusal.
Cliff Notes: Men and women are different, and women sending men short and coy in a pm will get a response but not necessarily what you are looking for.
Guys are used to the basic etiquette of what to do when sending a woman a PM. (Well except for the clueless ones they are the ones that complain that nobody ever answers p.m.'s)
Girls On the other hand are well aware that their communications are at a bit of a premium so they tend to get minimalist....they seem to think coy is flirty...it isn't.
The little one or two word openings that you might use in a bar are acompanied by all kinds of body language and eye contact.
Although I'd generally appreciate an unsolicited p.m., and the challenge that creates to do a little cyberstalking and try to figure out how to get up to speed with where you already are in your mind with me.....
....more often than not I'm not going to follow the script in your head if all you send me is..."you intrigue me."
I tend to feed off of other people and I personally am all over the map sexually.
if I have no idea what it is that you were reading that intrigued, I could go off in a completely unsatisfactorily direction for you... so if you give me little to nothing to go on I'm going to escalate hard. Not just to be a jerk about it but I figure nothing ventured nothing gained if I have no idea where you're coming from.
So if you're thinking of sending one a quick reference to something you read of mine helps a lot. Its okay to give a little thumb-nail sketch of yourself as well as far as what facet of all of your varied interest did you think might well be compatible with one of mine?
As a guy no way in hell would I expect to get a response at all from sending a woman, " you intrigue me."
As a woman I think you could simply send a"?" Or maybe even a"."And most guys will answer you back just maybe not in the way that you want.
I had recently (ok actually for quite some time now) been in a bit of a snarky mood.... some of my rants have been tinged with a bit of misogyny. I've been a bit earped with women on and offline as of late. Nevertheless it seems lately after one of those tirades that I get a woman or two showing a little interest. The last one that sent me a note I, with a degree of forthrightness, sent basically this paragraph to her.
She sniffs back something about oh well with that response I guess maybe it was a mistake to p.m. you.
Yes dear, yes it was.
Kind of hard to follow the script that gives you the tingles you so desire when you don't send the script over for my perusal.
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