Women, Help me figure you out...

[portal65]

I really appreciate the allure of women and enjoy their different shapes, sizes, personalities, and attire.

Being aware of all the sexual harassment possibilities, or being perceived as a "Dirty old man", I find myself confused in how to respond in different circumstances.

I find that after talking with a woman I frequently have no memory of what was said because I was so tightly focused on not staring into her blue eyes, not looking at the cleavage exposed by her scooped neckline, not looking at the way her full lips moved while she talked, or some other feature I find to be attractive.

If a woman leans over to pick something off the floor, and I admire how her action causes her short skirt to grow taut against her hip and thigh, Am I a dirty old man?

I don't understand it when a woman dresses in a manner that stirs my imagination and then takes offense when I notice. I've become gun shy about commenting on anything a woman wears or how she looks.

Are your protests real? Tell me what goes through the feminine mind...

Portal65

 

[Guest]

Your not a "dirty old man" unless you are going after young, beautiful twenty year old women and you are much older, over-weight or out of shape, and do not have the best personal hygiene. Besides, it doesn't sound as if you are going after these women, you are simply appreciative to their femininity.

 

[portal65]

Thanks for your response. Your right, I do appreciate the female form. It's just difficult having to keep my thoughts to myself. I'd love to tell a woman how great she looks without her thinking I wanted to jump her.

portal65

 

[MidnightAngel]

Your not a "dirty old man" unless you are going after young, beautiful twenty year old women and you are much older, over-weight or out of shape, and do not have the best personal hygiene.

What's THAT got to do with anything?????

If you're "going after" a young, beautiful, 20 YO that just means you've got good taste! How old a person is or what they look like has NOTHING to do with whether or not their actions are "appropriate". If you are simply looking at or admiring a female (leering and/or commenting NOT included in this), I can't see how that would offend her. It certainly does not offend me; I find it flattering.

 

[Cloak38]

* leering at MidnightAngel*

Nothing wrong with looking and appreciating. Of course the wife or partner might not be so understanding....

 

[MidnightAngel]

* leering at MidnightAngel*

 

[fantac64]

Are you mad, Portal? it is against all laws and nature to unravel the feminine mystique. Better we appreciate the unknown and continue to off our souls to these wonderful creatures, less they all become lesbians and we look to animals for satisfaction.

 

[Notme2]

Read Cosmo and the rest of the women's magazines, it is like having the other teams playbook.

 

[MidnightAngel]

Read Cosmo and the rest of the women's magazines, it is like having the other teams playbook.

What the writers of those magazines know about what really goes on inside a woman's mind (MINE at least) could be written on a postage stamp!

 

[Notme2]

Hey, you women and your secret clubs have we men all confused. I guess since you say that the writers of those mags have no idea what goes on inside a woman's head that means it must be propoganda to throw the men off!!! Tricky, very tricky.

 

[talulah]

Have you ever read a copy of Cosmo, then read a copy of Maxim? Cosmo tells you the questions to ask to "find out who he REALLY is" and Maxim tells you how to answer those same questions so that you seem to be perfect. And vice versa, of course. *laughs* They're so amusing...

Anyway, something like "You look nice today" or "You have such wonderful taste in clothes... everything you wear flatters you!" is not harrassment. It's nice. And, in my opinion, if she's wearing a low cut blouse, push up bra, short skirt and nothing under it... well, she deserves all the leering that anyone might decide to do. *steps off of soapbox*

 

[meljr2]

Is there really any way to figure women out?

I think that admiration of the female form, should not be confused with being a "dirty old man" and harrassment. Being a "dirty old man" is just doing inappropriate things in different situations. Harrassment is continual badgering of someone to the point where they feel uncomfortable, or hostility.

Looking at a woman (or man for that matter) is in ost cases a non-interactive form of flattery. An most of the time, women and men do dress to be noticed. If all you are doing is looking then feel free and enjoy. Especially if t will help you rember the conversatins better. People hve the expctation that you will remember what they are telling you...just one of those quirks of humankind.

 

[Angelofsex]

Why are we so confusing????????

Why do men think we are so confusing? If there is something confusing ask the question. But really we are not, just a little understanding is all, give us credit on things we do have a mind. Stop treating us like a sex object, well maybe not.

 

[Andreina]

i think it is a compliment if a guy is so confused in a way when you are talking to him that he is lost for words....

*sobbing* why do those things never happen to me?

 

[lilmissinnocent]

Here's a thought! If ya wanna know what we are thinking, why not just ask?? I mean I tend to be very truthful and would nswer any question anyone has of me. As for Cosmo and the like, they really have no clue as to what I really am thinking......we are just as complex as y'all are.

 

[Smilodon]

yeah, i wish men would just ask if they wanted to know what was going on in our minds. I think most women love a deep and honst discussion about stuff like that.

I was at a club last night and was leched by what can only described as a perv. What you are talking about portal is gentlemanly and flattering. what you don't want to do is grab a woman's ass and leer at her like this guy last night!

I love knowing that I'm getting someone all worked up!

Smiley

 

[mistyc]

Hi Babe

Saw your thread, and couldn't resist in dropping by and saying hi. I know you can read me like a book, and certainly not confused.

xoxoxox
Guess who lol

 

[mistyc]

Oops I forgot, check yur email hehehe

Just yur secret admirer again lol

 

[meljr2]

Agree with the women...

I have to agree with the women when thay say, if you have any questions you should ask them. I have learned that for the most part, you woman is significantly more likey to appreciate you more if you can respect her enough to as her those things which you can not understand. There will always be some things that men can't figure out about women, and that women can't figure out about men, that's what makes it fun.

Just understand that you aren't expected to know everything. Women like being asked those kinds of questions. It shows that you have a genuine interest in her.

Believe it or not the main purpose (in mot cases) is not to confuse us men or mke us lost, it just seems to happen that way because we don't stop to ask for directions.

Mel

 

[Notme2]

Just ask? Hell, all of you women say we men are supposed to just know what you want.

 

[Smilodon]

busted!

lol - guilty as charged...

Smiley

 

[TexasAngel28]

Are you mad, Portal? it is against all laws and nature to unravel the feminine mystique. Better we appreciate the unknown and continue to off our souls to these wonderful creatures, less they all become lesbians and we look to animals for satisfaction.

Heaven forfend that we run out of men who enjoy looking at us and complimenting us or else we should have no choice *but* to become lesbians...and, no offense to gay women out there, but that is not a choice I'm looking for. So, if you're looking to off your soul, I'm not busy at the moment.

 

[meljr2]

Just for the record..

I am a male NotMe. I am just going by what I have learned

 

[Angelofsex]

No one could read the other one's mind..

That is why there are questions to be asked. If we could read each other's mind no one would have to talk. If you want to know something ask we don't bite.