women, Do you consider a blowjob - Cheating or Not cheating just being friendly ?

[VampirTARA]

Women, Do you consider giving A blowjob, cheating or no big deal just being friendly without, asking your partner or spouse and just giving someone a Bj, how do you look up on it as ?

 

[lynn-23]

Women, Do you consider giving A blowjob, cheating or no big deal just being friendly without, asking your partner or spouse and just giving someone a Bj, how do you look up on it as ?

I would definitely consider that cheating. Even if its not intercourse, its still a very intimate act.

 

[mrspank30]

Women, Do you consider giving A blowjob, cheating or no big deal just being friendly without, asking your partner or spouse and just giving someone a Bj, how do you look up on it as ?

I might have to keep my eye on this thread .. not a gal so can't answer this one

 

[SweetCupcake]

Whew, definitely cheating. I would frankly be ashamed to give any blowjob that couldn't be good enough to be called cheating. No such thing as a casual, ho-hum, friendly, platonic blowjob by me.

 

[Dirtyslut4U]

Its cheating but its not as bad as fucking I feel, and anyway the fact that it is cheating doesnt stop me doing it.

 

[VampirTARA]

Whew, definitely cheating. I would frankly be ashamed to give any blowjob that couldn't be good enough to be called cheating. No such thing as a casual, ho-hum, friendly, platonic blowjob by me.

I consider it cheating, But just wondered what other woman's opinion was, Because some I have heard, have that Bill Clinton Theory or I've actually heard a good many women say " its just being friendly nothing wrong with a little harmless blowjob,"

 

[photobuff56]

My wife says it would be cheating and so does Dr Phil, anythingyou do with you sexual organs is considered sex period.

 

[policywank]

In my opinion it is a sex act. So if your commitment is to be sexually exclusive then yes it is cheating. Maybe some guys are a little less sensitive to cheating this way versus vaginal intercourse but that is splitting hairs unless you know for sure that your SO would make that distinction.

On the other hand if you are not committed to sexual exclusivity then neither a BJ or full fuck is cheating. In my mind cheating is defined in relation to the commitment made as opposed to the sex act itself. My husband knows I fuck other men and I haven't committed otherwise so doing so is not cheating.

 

[Penuche]

Cheating

 

[geronimo_appleby]

what an absolutely ridiculous question.

...and what has it to do with fet and sexuality?

 

[stiv837]

My wife has been friendly with a lot of guys over the years.

 

[Porkwarrior]

In my opinion it is a sex act. So if your commitment is to be sexually exclusive then yes it is cheating. Maybe some guys are a little less sensitive to cheating this way versus vaginal intercourse but that is splitting hairs unless you know for sure that your SO would make that distinction.

On the other hand if you are not committed to sexual exclusivity then neither a BJ or full fuck is cheating. In my mind cheating is defined in relation to the commitment made as opposed to the sex act itself. My husband knows I fuck other men and I haven't committed otherwise so doing so is not cheating.

Aren't there varying degrees of cheating? Flirting in a bar, making out with a co-worker at a Christmas party, getting a BJ from a friend one afternoon out of the blue & carrying on an affair with a hooker...
Sure, all of the above can be viewed as cheating in a perceived exclusive relationship, but I would not call them equal. Nor should a response to them be the same.

 

[Hypoxia]

I wrote about this: What Is Cheating?

Essentially, cheating is whatever one party would consider cheating by breaking the agreements of their relationship. If you don't mind your partner giving oral sex then it's not cheating. In some ideologies, even *thinking* about sex with someone not your partner is cheating. It depends.

 

[DirtyAllie]

I would definitely consider that cheating. Even if its not intercourse, its still a very intimate act.

Well said, in a way a blow job is more intimate than sex.

So I say cheating there is no such thing as 'just a blow' and as for guys who think a woman blowing them would be okay, how would you like your wife to let a guy lick her pussy and tell you "Hey, it was just head?"

 

[Ramone45]

My wife has been friendly with a lot of guys over the years.

My wife and I are at polar ends of this issue. I consider an intensely intimate act between two people. She considers it just being friendly, almost like shaking hands.

 

[VampirTARA]

Well said, in a way a blow job is more intimate than sex.

So I say cheating there is no such thing as 'just a blow' and as for guys who think a woman blowing them would be okay, how would you like your wife to let a guy lick her pussy and tell you "Hey, it was just head?"

I like how guys Think it would be ok It's just a little blowjob a girl gave him, but they would not be saying the same thing if it was their girlfriend or wife that had done it to another guy behind their back.

 

[stiv837]

I like how guys Think it would be ok It's just a little blowjob a girl gave him, but they would not be saying the same thing if it was their girlfriend or wife that had done it to another guy behind their back.

Actually VampirTARA my wife has given lots of blow jobs behind my back, and the ones i found out about are a very big turn on for me. although I guess this wouldn't be for every man .

 

[Ramone45]

Its cheating but its not as bad as fucking I feel, and anyway the fact that it is cheating doesnt stop me doing it.

It is an incredibly intimate act, taking a man's penis into your mouth and sucking it. My wife was, and probably still is, generous with them. For example, we were out at the pub, and a minor local sports celebrity was drinking with a couple of girls. She started flirting with him and told me she would love to give him a blow job.Through giving blow jobs, she gained an awareness of the power she had to please men. She gained popularity in high school by giving blow jobs. She advanced her career by giving blow jobs. She's gotten bargains and discounts by giving blow jobs. Knowing her, she mostly would take the cum shot in her mouth. She would try to find a reason to swallow, meaning she had to find something about the guy that she liked. The truth is she simply does not like facials. A lot of her blow jobs are casual and spontaneous where she won't take her clothes off. In those cases she's probably going to swallow just to be neat. If she's naked or topless she likes taking a cum shot on her tits.
As her lover, this means I know that when she kisses me or when I suck her tits, I know another man has been there. I think that is a turn-on for her.

 

[deskuser]

My wife says it would be cheating and so does Dr Phil, anythingyou do with you sexual organs is considered sex period.

Unfortunately it is cheating. Shame its not as simple as dancing with another man.

 

[30bandits]

Unfortunately it is cheating. Shame its not as simple as dancing with another man.

how about a handjob then on the dance floor?

 

[naughtoldperv]

IMHO, I would find it 'cheating' but forgivable if my wife shares all details and maybe some of the 'evidence' with me but if the act is done behind my back and I hear about from another [reliable] source, then it becomes an act of deceit and much harder to forgive.

 

[EquinoxRising]

Any sex act being committed to another person without your spouse's permission is cheating.

 

[Ramone45]

My wife and I were at a restaurant and she started flirting with the fucking Greek waiter with the bald head and big muscles. When we were done, He told us he was going on his break and would we like to see the kitchen. It's pretty obvious that she has the hots for this son of a bitch, complimenting him, the food, touching his arm, laughing. We end up in this room off the kitchen where the waiters take their breaks. It gets serious, and she offers him a BJ.
I take a seat at the opposite corner, he sits in a chair and she kneels in front of him and gets to work. The son of a bitch takes out a cigarette and sits back completely relaxed, fully enjoying every second of it. So I have this view from behind my wife, in her skirt, heels and blouse going to town on this guy, just to be nice. It takes her about 20 minutes for her to finish him off. She had to be neat because she had on a nice outfit and he had to get back to work. Despite the intimacy, it all seemed very innocent for lack of a better word. I knew she didn't love the guy, so I didn't fee jealous. It didn't feel like cheating to me. The ride home was strange because she was tired and her breath smelled funny. We took a shower together when we got home, but we just went straight to sleep.

 

[coati]

My wife says it would be cheating and so does Dr Phil, anythingyou do with you sexual organs is considered sex period.

As Homer Simpson once stated so eloquently, "TV celebrities! How could we ever get along without them?"

 

[Afterhours22]

It's cheating if....

you are in a relationship that is exclusive. ANY sexual act, flirting, kissing, touching, or even the thought is in fact cheating. If you are a person that loves sex like I do from multiple partners, then it's best to make that known to your significant other at the beginning. It's only fair to them so feelings don't get hurt and everyone gets to have fun.