Women and abusive relationships

[MzDeviancy]

What the hell is it with women? Why do so many women jump from one abusive asshole to the next, destroying not only their lives, but those of their children? How do you just not ever get a fucking clue?

I'm currently awaiting a reply to an email I sent to a longtime friend, telling her my feelings on her relationship habits. She's been having an on-again, off-again relationship with a guy who's shoved her into walls in front of her twelve year old son, cheated on her, called her stupid, a whore, and a slut (also in front of her son,) cut her off from her friends and family, and just generally treated her like shit. She stays at his place until all hours of the evening, not even bothering to let her son know where she is. Her son's grades dropped since she's been seeing this guy, to the point that he failed every class last year; he used to get A's and B's. He's also regressed to bedwetting.

Given that when she was freaking out about her sister threatening to call social services on her and I said that her sister might've had a point about her boyfriend being dangerous - and I didn't even know all of it then - she freaked out on me and told me that anyone who thinks she's a bad mother can go to hell, I'm not feeling too optimistic about her reply.

If anyone has any stories about women who got out of self-destructive relationship habits and managed to stay out, I'd love to hear them. Give me some hope for my gender...

 

[MaeveoSliabh]

How about... me?

i just got out of a relationship that wasn't physically abusive (with the one or two exceptional times) but was horribly mentally and emotionally abusive. The divorce has been finalized. i'm on my own, away from him, and happy about it.

That being said, i can also say that it's going to be hard to stay away from that type of relationship in the future, simply because it's familiar. People tend to gravitate toward what they know. If they've spent any sort of time in an abusive relationship recently, without the benefit of a healthy relationship to offset it, they will be drawn toward that same type of abuse. It's mroe comfortable than jumping off the deep end into something they don't know.

 

[cloudy]

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[MaeveoSliabh]

There's some other replies in this thread.

(looks like there was a glitch, and there are two of the same threads)

Yeah, i saw that after posting here. Of course.