Tommyknocker703
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Hi, so I'm in a long-term relationship with a wonderful woman. We're in our 40's, both previously divorced, we're engaged now, but haven't yet set a date. She's beautiful. I'm a bit slender, but I've started exercising again, trying to gain muscle. We both have short brown hair, pale complexion. Both are bi-curious. Living together has been great, we click in a lot of ways - we respect each other. One issue is sex drive - she's very understanding and supportive, but her interest isn't nearly at my level. I like it 1-2x a day. She's said before that if I get an opportunity for fun, I should take it, and she won't be mad.
She said that, but I think if I were to try anything, I'd rather have her present and participating. I don't want to hurt her, and I never want to lie to her, or sneak around. I think if she were present, she might feel some control in the situation, and might find it humorous/fun. This post is a call to any interested parties who might want to spice things up, with a few basic requests:
1. I'd want us all to get tested so we don't have to worry about STDs. There must be a place in the area that provides it for free.
2. I'd want this to be a regular thing - basically friends with benefits, no strings attached, etc.
3. We're not snooty, but we are polite, educated, etc. We'd want someone we could talk to and feel mutual respect for. She particularly hates vulgarity, so you have to be a class act.
4. I'm a people pleaser with a strong need to please in bed. I'm looking for someone similar. I was trapped in a sexless marriage for years, and I don't want to repeat that mistake. I think with this woman, so long as we're all open and honest, we're adults and we can make it work.
5. I haven't yet brought this idea to her (I know!), we've talked about it vaguely, and I think she'll be game for it, so long as it feels right. That's why I'm hoping to hear from someone sane, not too needy or creepy, who's also just looking for a sexual outlet to keep them satiated and balanced. Male or female, or a couple. If you're clean, cute, and you have your act together, please post here.
She said that, but I think if I were to try anything, I'd rather have her present and participating. I don't want to hurt her, and I never want to lie to her, or sneak around. I think if she were present, she might feel some control in the situation, and might find it humorous/fun. This post is a call to any interested parties who might want to spice things up, with a few basic requests:
1. I'd want us all to get tested so we don't have to worry about STDs. There must be a place in the area that provides it for free.
2. I'd want this to be a regular thing - basically friends with benefits, no strings attached, etc.
3. We're not snooty, but we are polite, educated, etc. We'd want someone we could talk to and feel mutual respect for. She particularly hates vulgarity, so you have to be a class act.
4. I'm a people pleaser with a strong need to please in bed. I'm looking for someone similar. I was trapped in a sexless marriage for years, and I don't want to repeat that mistake. I think with this woman, so long as we're all open and honest, we're adults and we can make it work.
5. I haven't yet brought this idea to her (I know!), we've talked about it vaguely, and I think she'll be game for it, so long as it feels right. That's why I'm hoping to hear from someone sane, not too needy or creepy, who's also just looking for a sexual outlet to keep them satiated and balanced. Male or female, or a couple. If you're clean, cute, and you have your act together, please post here.
