Wives who stray

[Carrie_45]

I believe you meant "too" as in also...

Your hostility is endearing

 

[waverlysgirl]

Re: Re: Wives who stray

Nobody has the right to pass judgement on anyone else unless they are so perfect themselves...and can walk in their shoes.

I pass judgment on child molesters and rapists all the time. Does that make me a bad person?

 

[Angelofsex]

Thanks to all responding both by posting and by PM.

Maybe a little more perspective will clarify my guilt...

My husband is a wonderful, kind, sexy man that means the world to me. Together we have raised 2 fantastic kids (both teens) and have shared the best times together. I think the knowledge of my adulterous relationship would crush him. He would never believe me capable of anything of this sort.

I was raised in a very religious home and have continued my involvement in the church. Maybe this is also a very powerful element to the shame/guilt that I feel. I'm sure my church friends would also never imagine me cheating on my husband and would probably be shocked at some of the things my young lover and I have done.

I think maybe some of my behavior can be directly attributed to a sort of rebellion...maybe wanting something I've denied for most of my adult life...

I appreciate all of the advice...has anyone out there ever experienced anything similar? Would love to hear from anyone willing to share their confessions.

Nothing you doing is wrong....if we go back in time it was always the men having a thing on the side. So now it is our time when we don't get the feeling at home. Not to have someone give you what you want, so there is someone 20 so what. When I turn 40 I change on life. So tired of hearing oh you can't do this or you can't do that. No one can judge, because no one is perfect.

Just go and enjoy, life is to short.......I am, for my own reasons.

Angel

 

[badmatt]

WELL SAID ANGEL!!!!

 

[Angelofsex]

WELL SAID ANGEL!!!!

Thank you, I am a true believer in what I said.

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

First of all I'd like to apologize for the crap you are taking on here Carrie_45. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.


Second of all.

This gender thing.


Women have been having affairs for as long as men. We've just started being open and honest about it.

Really. Does everyone think that every man in the past was fucking some 19 year old single girl?

Let's not turn this thread into ripping apart someone's life.

She wants to share stories with others that can relate.

So take your stone throwing and go elsewhere.

 

[Carrie_45]

Once again, thanks for your support. I'm sure that in some respects loveyamon is correct, especially when he says that my young lover will tire of me long before I do of him. But the intensity of our couplings is something that I have never experienced before and may never again.

Also, thanks to those brave women who continue to share their own personal experiences (mostly via PM). I am really enjoying the stories and appreciate the time you've all taken to include such detail. Hope to hear from more...

 

[waverlysgirl]

AN AFFAIR IS NO EXCUSE

Nothing you doing is wrong....if we go back in time it was always the men having a thing on the side. So now it is our time when we don't get the feeling at home. Not to have someone give you what you want, so there is someone 20 so what. When I turn 40 I change on life. So tired of hearing oh you can't do this or you can't do that. No one can judge, because no one is perfect.

Just go and enjoy, life is to short.......I am, for my own reasons.

Angel

for not attempting to fix what is broken in the marriage--and that is the communication between the husband and wife. Carrie, now that you know that you like a little variety in your lovemaking, you should try to get your husband to try new things with you. Maybe he doesn't know that you like it a little rough from time to time. If he loves you as much as you say you love him, he may do what he can to accommodate you.



WG

 

[Angelofsex]

Re: AN AFFAIR IS NO EXCUSE

for not attempting to fix what is broken in the marriage--and that is the communication between the husband and wife. Carrie, now that you know that you like a little variety in your lovemaking, you should try to get your husband to try new things with you. Maybe he doesn't know that you like it a little rough from time to time. If he loves you as much as you say you love him, he may do what he can to accommodate you.



WG

WG very good idea.....it is better if both play.....if you could get him too.....Just talk about it with him....Like what if we swing ......Nice to swing as a couple, wish my hubby did.

Angel

 

[1sexylady]

My God...How do you look your husband in the eye ??????
I'm so glad your not my gal.....................at least be honest with guy....you love and respect him so you lie and cheat on him.....People like you are why I don't go to church...Your window dressing...............Get real....

Well I guess you walked in her shoes huh???? If your marriage or whatever you have were so great you wouldn't be here would you...??!! Your not going to church is your doing not anyone elses....I think you need to get real...

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Re: Wives who stray

I pass judgment on child molesters and rapists all the time. Does that make me a bad person?

I don't think I mentioned anyone being a bad person here I just said if you don't know the whole story you should not pass judgement and we are not talking about child molesters and rapists.....

 

[1sexylady]

Once again, thanks for your support. I'm sure that in some respects loveyamon is correct, especially when he says that my young lover will tire of me long before I do of him. But the intensity of our couplings is something that I have never experienced before and may never again.

Also, thanks to those brave women who continue to share their own personal experiences (mostly via PM). I am really enjoying the stories and appreciate the time you've all taken to include such detail. Hope to hear from more...

Enjoy it while it lasts and remember it forever...

 

[happyparadox]

an affair

Quite a few years ago I met a woman in the line of duty so to speak and was smitten immediately as she entered the room. A little flirting and a little time found us meeting for lunch once a week. Then lunch was at my house. I was single. She was married. Children on the doorstep to college and a husband who was a prominent attorney. She was a prominent specialist in the finacial world.

At the point when I realized I didn't need to bother fixing lunch when she came by I also had an attack of conscience. I suggested that she had a great deal at stake. She replied that she trusted me to be an honorable man. And I thought at that moment an honorable man wouldn't be putting this family in jeopardy. I broke off the affair that never was.

When I look back on it I think what a load of crap I was feeding myself. How self centered to think that she had any thought of me being more important than her family. She loved her family and had a wonderful, normal family life. She just wanted something that was hers something to take her into another space where she could be herself completely without the judgement of what she should be. And I wish I had understood it all then. Because we had a really nice thing. Lots of good conversation. Some of it good and steamy. She was very attractive to me and sensual and intelligent and expanded my mind. She turned me onto Maria Rainer Rilke who remains one of my favorite poets.

So if I had it to do again. Fuck all that guilt bullshit. She'd still be married, the kids still graduate college and we would have some wonderful memories and who knows maybe we would still be sharing poetry over the internet.

 

[waverlysgirl]

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I don't think I mentioned anyone being a bad person here I just said if you don't know the whole story you should not pass judgement and we are not talking about child molesters and rapists.....

You did use the word "nobody" in your original post, didn't you? I think that includes child molestors and rapists. I will go on judging, thank you. And you should refrain from telling people what they can say when it comes to giving advice, "you don't know the whole story."

WG

 

[Guest]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

Carrie, I understand your feelings and need for some sort of validation if you will. I too am cheating on my husband. I only get to meet my lover once or twice a year as we live quite a ways away from each other. The problems I'm having with my husband started when I was pregnant with our first children (twins). He lost all interest in me sexually. We have had numerous talks about the situation and my feelings about being rejected sexually. We both agree that letting sex ruin an otherwise good marriage would be a huge mistake. I've asked several times for "permission" to take a lover and his response has always been "I can't openly give you permission but I would understand if you did." Despite having that partial approval I still feel completely guilty (while at the same time very satisfied *wink*). Despite the fact that society doesn't accept extra marital affairs, I try not to judge people. You have to do what is right for you and ignore those around you. Only you know what is best for you!

Hugs from one adultress to another!

 

[Gil_T2]

The only question I have is SAFE SEX............
with the number of sexually transmitted diseases safety for you & hubby or any other future sex partner are the main thing to consider.

I have had several married lovers over the years but insist on getting a medical all clear by each of us before unprotected sex happens.

 

[Blktiecwboy]

After reading........

And people more or less telling her what's right and wrong is. I began to think........is Carrie doing anything more then what most of us are doing here on this site. Look around you people.....do you tell or show your spouse what your doing here? Do they care or are they interested in what your doing here? Your probably alot closer to being in the same boat as carrie, but your not on the same level quite yet. I have seen marriages break up over cybering/camming and erotic emails on the computer, where the guy/gal were accused of having an affair and never really physically having one.

So if you have a story to share with her, share it, but don't say you are the pure angel being on this site.

 

[SexyChele]

Re: After reading........

And people more or less telling her what's right and wrong is. I began to think........is Carrie doing anything more then what most of us are doing here on this site. Look around you people.....do you tell or show your spouse what your doing here? Do they care or are they interested in what your doing here? Your probably alot closer to being in the same boat as carrie, but your not on the same level quite yet. I have seen marriages break up over cybering/camming and erotic emails on the computer, where the guy/gal were accused of having an affair and never really physically having one.

So if you have a story to share with her, share it, but don't say you are the pure angel being on this site.

You are making quite a judgement statement there yourself, big boy. Not all of us who are on this site are married and "looking". I'm not. I'm single. Yes, I do have a S/O, and he most certainly does know that I post here. Does he read? I've not a clue. I don't think he's interested. Could be because I don't flirt with people here and I don't come here "looking" for any one.

 

[SexyChele]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

Okay, you start off with "Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better..." and that tells me you are not 100% comfortable with your position.

Also, you come to a porn board, to an area where there are probably more married women having affairs (online and off) and you want to know if there are others? You gotta be kidding! Well, I suppose if you want validation, you've come to the right place.

As for me, I was "the other woman". And yeah, I was single - imagine that. Married guy fooling around with a single woman. Strange, huh?

Fact is, affairs are not about sex. (Unless it is an open marriage) They are about problems in the marriage that one or both parties are not willing to work out. I think deep down you know this. I get the biggest kick out of people who state they have the "perfect" marriage (is there really such an animal??), but that they only need this one little thing. Of course, they could never tell their spouse - heck, the marriage wouldn't be so perfect anymore.

Is what you are doing good or bad? Hell, I don't know and I really don't care. It's your life, not mine. If me, some one you have no clue as to who I am, can tell you that what you are doing is fine and that boasts your ego, you got bigger problems than fucking a 20 year old. I will say this: if you are having feelings of doubt and guilt, they are coming from somewhere and are probably valid. Why not step away from Mr. Studly long enough to sort out where these feelings are coming from? Why not take a break from Junior long enough to figure out just what your feelings are?

 

[waverlysgirl]

Re: After reading........

And people more or less telling her what's right and wrong is. I began to think........is Carrie doing anything more then what most of us are doing here on this site. Look around you people.....do you tell or show your spouse what your doing here? Do they care or are they interested in what your doing here? Your probably alot closer to being in the same boat as carrie, but your not on the same level quite yet. I have seen marriages break up over cybering/camming and erotic emails on the computer, where the guy/gal were accused of having an affair and never really physically having one.

So if you have a story to share with her, share it, but don't say you are the pure angel being on this site.

I may not be an angel, but at least I'm single.

 

[1sexylady]

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You did use the word "nobody" in your original post, didn't you? I think that includes child molestors and rapists. I will go on judging, thank you. And you should refrain from telling people what they can say when it comes to giving advice, "you don't know the whole story."

WG

Judge away...I don't care.

 

[1sexylady]

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[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Wives who stray

Okay, you start off with "Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better..." and that tells me you are not 100% comfortable with your position.

Also, you come to a porn board, to an area where there are probably more married women having affairs (online and off) and you want to know if there are others? You gotta be kidding! Well, I suppose if you want validation, you've come to the right place.

As for me, I was "the other woman". And yeah, I was single - imagine that. Married guy fooling around with a single woman. Strange, huh?

Fact is, affairs are not about sex. (Unless it is an open marriage) They are about problems in the marriage that one or both parties are not willing to work out. I think deep down you know this. I get the biggest kick out of people who state they have the "perfect" marriage (is there really such an animal??), but that they only need this one little thing. Of course, they could never tell their spouse - heck, the marriage wouldn't be so perfect anymore.

Is what you are doing good or bad? Hell, I don't know and I really don't care. It's your life, not mine. If me, some one you have no clue as to who I am, can tell you that what you are doing is fine and that boasts your ego, you got bigger problems than fucking a 20 year old. I will say this: if you are having feelings of doubt and guilt, they are coming from somewhere and are probably valid. Why not step away from Mr. Studly long enough to sort out where these feelings are coming from? Why not take a break from Junior long enough to figure out just what your feelings are?

SexyChele....Nicely said...

 

[redrider4u]

Re: After reading........

And people more or less telling her what's right and wrong is. I began to think........is Carrie doing anything more then what most of us are doing here on this site. Look around you people.....do you tell or show your spouse what your doing here? Do they care or are they interested in what your doing here? Your probably alot closer to being in the same boat as carrie, but your not on the same level quite yet. I have seen marriages break up over cybering/camming and erotic emails on the computer, where the guy/gal were accused of having an affair and never really physically having one.

So if you have a story to share with her, share it, but don't say you are the pure angel being on this site.

You are making subjective assumptions not justified by quantitative facts. I suggest you not assign your opinions to 194,238 members, 173,366 threads and 5,308,062 postings.

So, having said that, now off to find a lady in a shining Impala!

 

[Gil_T2]

Re: After reading........

And people more or less telling her what's right and wrong is. I began to think........is Carrie doing anything more then what most of us are doing here on this site. Look around you people.....do you tell or show your spouse what your doing here? Do they care or are they interested in what your doing here? Your probably alot closer to being in the same boat as carrie, but your not on the same level quite yet. I have seen marriages break up over cybering/camming and erotic emails on the computer, where the guy/gal were accused of having an affair and never really physically having one.

So if you have a story to share with her, share it, but don't say you are the pure angel being on this site.

I too am single & lucky to have a many friends on this site & guess what non of the marrieds I know are cheating so where do you get your facts from ? Is it because you are here looking to hook up to cheat ?

Most of us use it as a social place with people like our selves who like sex. I have even had an on going relationship with a lady who I got to know via this site but we were both honest about what we wanted just like the lady who originally started this thread.

I'm sure you would find a lot more "CHEATING" in real life than on this site.