Wives who stray

[Carrie_45]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

 

[innocentnbama]

I dont think there is anything wrong with you.Sometimes having a husband is just not enough.I have not physically strayed yet but I am not saying I wouldn't.He apparently makes you feel a way that your husband doesn't.So I do not think there is anything wrong with you are all.

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

I think you need to figure out excatly what you feel guilty about...and why and who you are angry at. With understanding will come clearity.


and in my opinion


there's nothing wrong with you.

 

[Carrie_45]

Thanks for the reassurance...

I saw this thread as an opportunity for women in similar situations to share their experiences. Maybe like a virtual confessional...you know...get things out in the open.

I feel a bit better knowing that others don't view me as negatively as I view myself.

If you feel uncomfortable posting...PM me.

 

[Miles_Cassidy]

After re-reading my initial post it was much to harsh. I have to agree with nativealien...i rushed to judgement to quickly, sorry.

 

[Native Alien]

Without knowing the situation between you and your husband, I won't a judgement call like Miles did. What I would say is this, if you haven't talked with your husband about the sex or whatever the attraction to this young man is, then you might be losing out.

Communication is at the heart of any relationship. I would give a suggestion that the very first one that you communicate with be yourself. What is it about this young man that makes you feel so whatever you feel?

Have you tried talking with your husband about the same thing? If not, why not?

If I can help in anyway just let me know. I know that not everyone is easy to communicate with, and some people it is impossible to talk with.

 

[PAINTED BUNTING]

Lighten up, you are enjoying a little sexual recreation, enjoy it nothing to feel guilty about. you marriage is not in danger, it's only sex.

 

[1sexylady]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong with you but I have to agree you have to figure out why you feel so guilty...

Is it the age??? X-student?? Or the fact you go out because your husband doesn't give you what you need and feel? Or because you enjoyed what you described as a **practical rape**? I think then you will have your answer...

Nobody has the right to pass judgement on anyone else unless they are so perfect themselves...and can walk in their shoes.

 

[redrider4u]

I find interesting

that all postings to date are either ok or ambivalent about actions of Carrie 45. (One negative was withdrawn) Another factor is that she is enjoying purely physical more so than emotional involvement.

Playing devil's advocate here.....

Would there be similar responses if Carrie 45 was male with a female lover?

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Re: I find interesting

that all postings to date are either ok or ambivalent about actions of Carrie 45. (One negative was withdrawn) Another factor is that she is enjoying purely physical more so than emotional involvement.

Playing devil's advocate here.....

Would there be similar responses if Carrie 45 was male with a female lover?

As long as the male wasn't my husband...sure...

 

[wicked woman]

Re: I find interesting

Originally posted by redrider4u
that all postings to date are either ok or ambivalent about actions of Carrie 45. (One negative was withdrawn) Another factor is that she is enjoying purely physical more so than emotional involvement.

Playing devil's advocate here.....

Would there be similar responses if Carrie 45 was male with a female lover?

Don't know that the answers would change. Those who thing extra-marital affairs are OK would still think so...those who don't, would't. Those how have a problem with the age range if anything would probably be more accepting of an older man younger woman...just because it's more common.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: I find interesting

that all postings to date are either ok or ambivalent about actions of Carrie 45. (One negative was withdrawn) Another factor is that she is enjoying purely physical more so than emotional involvement.

Playing devil's advocate here.....

Would there be similar responses if Carrie 45 was male with a female lover?

Oh I see you want one of us to say it would be ok for a man to do the same thing.......lmao Men do it more often then women....

What is bothing you the fact that a woman can fuck with no emotional involvement just like a man...???


There is LOVE and then there is SEX...

 

[redrider4u]

Re: Re: I find interesting

Oh I see you want one of us to say it would be ok for a man to do the same thing.......lmao Men do it more often then women....

What is bothing you the fact that a woman can fuck with no emotional involvement just like a man...???


There is LOVE and then there is SEX...

Nope, nyet, lady in an Impala. Actually, a fuck without emotional involvement is appealing to some men. I just found it interesting that most posters were cool with the adultery, and wondered if there might be a difference if the gender was changed.

P.S. When can we meet? (S)

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Re: I find interesting

Nope, nyet, lady in an Impala. Actually, a fuck without emotional involvement is appealing to some men. I just found it interesting that most posters were cool with the adultery, and wondered if there might be a difference if the gender was changed.

P.S. When can we meet? (S)

Sorry Booked...... lmao But look for my shining Impala you never know...

 

[Carrie_45]

Thanks to all responding both by posting and by PM.

Maybe a little more perspective will clarify my guilt...

My husband is a wonderful, kind, sexy man that means the world to me. Together we have raised 2 fantastic kids (both teens) and have shared the best times together. I think the knowledge of my adulterous relationship would crush him. He would never believe me capable of anything of this sort.

I was raised in a very religious home and have continued my involvement in the church. Maybe this is also a very powerful element to the shame/guilt that I feel. I'm sure my church friends would also never imagine me cheating on my husband and would probably be shocked at some of the things my young lover and I have done.

I think maybe some of my behavior can be directly attributed to a sort of rebellion...maybe wanting something I've denied for most of my adult life...

I appreciate all of the advice...has anyone out there ever experienced anything similar? Would love to hear from anyone willing to share their confessions.

 

[Carrie_45]

I'm getting some fantastic PM's...thanks to all and I will respond to each of you! Please be patient.

I never realized how many women were involved in extra-marital affairs. Maybe I'm not alone after all.

 

[loveyamon]

I'm getting some fantastic PM's...thanks to all and I will respond to each of you! Please be patient.

I never realized how many women were involved in extra-marital affairs. Maybe I'm not alone after all.

My God...How do you look your husband in the eye ??????
I'm so glad your not my gal.....................at least be honest with guy....you love and respect him so you lie and cheat on him.....People like you are why I don't go to church...Your window dressing...............Get real....

 

[wildrose70]

Believe me my dear ....you are not alone and I do believe every woman whether happily married or not as was my case..has wondered about a younger lover..my marriage was a sham for the last 16 years and yes I did have a marital affair...which eventually led to a divorce...as far as the age difference....you wont believe the younger men I have had after me.......age is only a number....and like they say if you dont mind...it doesn't matter!!!!!

As far as whats right ...who knows......and before anyone passes judgement...ha ha...I was a good wife...a great grandmother...and sang in the choir for years......
You are not alone

 

[wwolie]

My God...How do you look your husband in the eye ??????
I'm so glad your not my gal.....................at least be honest with guy....you love and respect him so you lie and cheat on him.....People like you are why I don't go to church...Your window dressing...............Get real....

GIVE it up ...just cuz she is a female makes it wrong IF was a guy it wouldnt be a big thing I think it is great and she should enjoy herself life to short not to go for the gusto

 

[Carrie_45]

I fear his response. He is a kind man, but very conservative.

I know that my actions are not moral...I just don't know how to stop something that is so powerful.

 

[loveyamon]

GIVE it up ...just cuz she is a female makes it wrong IF was a guy it wouldnt be a big thing I think it is great and she should enjoy herself life to short not to go for the gusto

Whatever .........Your argument is lame...I didn't mention my sex you presumtive ass...........It's not a male or female thing.......It's about being honest with someone who she stated she loves and respects......Funny way of showing it...Just wait until he bangs a girl at a party and she gives some horrible thing to her husband...but then again he might be banging someone with a tighter ass taught breasts.................in her bed...........

 

[loveyamon]

I fear his response. He is a kind man, but very conservative.

I know that my actions are not moral...I just don't know how to stop something that is so powerful.

You fear his response , lol , how you would you respond ???....It's not about morality , that's you're fucking preacher who you pay once a week so you can feel good about yourself...It's about being honest ........The young man will lose intrest in you long before you stop longing for him.
That's for sure...........

 

[Larson234]

Why the guilt?

Why the ring? Why the vows?

Heck, you want to have sex with whomever you please, you can do that.

Just not behind your spouse's back. You can dress it up any way you like..."People aren't meant to be monogamous", "You can't expect me to be with just _one_ person the _rest_ of my entire life", "I was younger when I got married, and now kids and mortgages complicate matters"...

You made a promise to the person that you are betraying. You want to break that promise, cool. You gotta let them know that.

Otherwise it's a lie anyway you spin it.

 

[Carrie_45]

I think we've strayed pretty far from the original thread...

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

 

[loveyamon]

Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better about the situation I've gotten into but....

Any other women who have had (or are having) an extra marital affair and would be willing to share their experiences?

I'm a 45 year old school teacher who is seeing a 20 year old ex-student. He persued me for 2 years before finally catching me home alone and practically raping me. I was guilt-ridden and angry, but couldn't deny the tremendous physical pleasure he provided. That was over a year ago and I have continued seeing him at least twice a month since.... God...what's wrong with me?

LOL....................You should really reread your original thread and change the title to please tell me I'm not a lying ho and everyone placate me ...Maybe hit the spell check to teach......... ......persued....cute