Wives and husbands and partners of trans and CDs, and enbys; a question on relationships.

[FeelingLikeMyself]

So, having a girlfriend who is fully supportive of how I present myself and encourages me seeking gender counseling and an endocrinologist and just having her full support is kind of blowing me away and I realize how lucky I am. I know this isn't the case for everyone.

I would love to hear happy stories about how everything was upfront and there were no surprises, but I what would be most constructive would be how you processed and generally handle your relationship going forward and what hurdles you are overcoming or have even overcome and how it's impacting your personal and interpersonal relationships.

Basically I want the nitty gritty of what it was like having trans or crossdressing partner and if if you knew their gender identity beforehand or if it was something you learned of during the course of your relationship.

 

[Escierto]

My girlfriend is a transgender Filipina. She is naturally feminine with a small delicate body, a female voice and feminine movement and mannerisms. When I am with her, I actually forget that she is trans. She has never taken hormones and she has always presented as female as long as she can remember. She always wanted breasts so I did pay for her to get implants which suit her perfectly.

I met her on a dating site and I knew that she was trans. After chatting for months I visited her in the Philippines. Originally we both thought that we were just hooking up for sex but then we discovered that we were in love. That was back in 2019 and we have been a couple ever since then.

For us our biggest hurdle has been long distance. She doesn't want to leave the Philippines and I am not in a position to move there yet. I visit her several times a year for long visits and when we are apart, we chat every day on cam, just hanging out together. It was rough being apart for two years during Covid but we made it!

It's possible that you have seen her pic here. This is her as we were chatting the other day:

 

[Sol41]

I met my hubby about 13 years ago on a site called Futanari Palace of all fuckin places lmao.

He had just recently kind of accepted that he was into trans girls a lot and we ended yp chatting online for about a year.
Weve done so much growing together since.

 

[BiDrew42]

My trans girlfriend and I have been living together for 10 years in April. When I was planning to move to Australia, I was looking for a temporary place to live and a flatmate. A friend put us in touch, and I moved in with her when I arrived. I knew in advance that she was a crossdressing escort. But I did not know how beautiful she was and that she was presenting full-time as female. A short time later we began hooking up, and when I purchased an apartment I invited her to move with me. Long story short, we became a couple and fell in love. She stopped escorting shortly thereafter, although it didn't bother me. I began paying for hrt, and as the years went by additional treatments and surgeries. In 2018, when Australia approved same-sex marriage, I asked her to marry me. She said no because she didn't believe I would still love her the same when she completed her transition.

We were apart for almost a year during Covid. She had been visiting her parents in Kuala Lumpur when Australia closed its borders. When she was finally able to return it was like a honeymoon for a couple of months. Then she began talking about completing her transition and having bottom surgery. I love her penis and didn't want her to go through with it. It became an ongoing issue for the next few years, and early last year we compromised on her having an orchiectomy (testicles removed, for those unfamiliar with the term) and keeping her cock for another five years minimum. After the orchiectomy, things were pretty peaceful for awhile and we were getting along better than we had been for some time.

Late last year, she announced that she hated her cock and wanted to have it removed. Being the selfish prick that I am, I wasn't ready to agree and reminded her of our agreement. She stormed out and we have fought about it constantly ever since. We spent the holidays and most of January with her parents in Malaysia, and in late January went to Thailand to finish our holiday. She lasted four days of a planned two weeks and went back to Kuala Lumpur after another argument about her penis. I have been in Bangkok on my own since, and even added an additional week here. I have been fully enjoying all of the pleasures available in Bangkok and putting up with the daily video chat arguments I've been having with my gf.

We have been in an open relationship since we met. I have other partners, as does she, and we frequently have other men, women, and trans women join us for sex. She is half my age, but that has never been an issue. I have paid for all of her previous medical procedures to enhance her femininity and I promised to pay for her bottom surgery as part of our prior agreement. She is now insisting that she wants to have the surgery this year and is doing it whether I pay or not. It seems she was prescient when she turned down my marriage proposal in 2018. I have become certain that I will feel differently about her when she no longer has her beautiful penis. I will still love her, but I am not at all sure I want to continue to be in a relationship with her. I know it's all very selfish of me, but I fell in love with her with a cock, and I want her to keep it.

So here we are.

 

[Escierto]

My trans girlfriend and I have been living together for 10 years in April. When I was planning to move to Australia, I was looking for a temporary place to live and a flatmate. A friend put us in touch, and I moved in with her when I arrived. I knew in advance that she was a crossdressing escort. But I did not know how beautiful she was and that she was presenting full-time as female. A short time later we began hooking up, and when I purchased an apartment I invited her to move with me. Long story short, we became a couple and fell in love. She stopped escorting shortly thereafter, although it didn't bother me. I began paying for hrt, and as the years went by additional treatments and surgeries. In 2018, when Australia approved same-sex marriage, I asked her to marry me. She said no because she didn't believe I would still love her the same when she completed her transition.

We were apart for almost a year during Covid. She had been visiting her parents in Kuala Lumpur when Australia closed its borders. When she was finally able to return it was like a honeymoon for a couple of months. Then she began talking about completing her transition and having bottom surgery. I love her penis and didn't want her to go through with it. It became an ongoing issue for the next few years, and early last year we compromised on her having an orchiectomy (testicles removed, for those unfamiliar with the term) and keeping her cock for another five years minimum. After the orchiectomy, things were pretty peaceful for awhile and we were getting along better than we had been for some time.

Late last year, she announced that she hated her cock and wanted to have it removed. Being the selfish prick that I am, I wasn't ready to agree and reminded her of our agreement. She stormed out and we have fought about it constantly ever since. We spent the holidays and most of January with her parents in Malaysia, and in late January went to Thailand to finish our holiday. She lasted four days of a planned two weeks and went back to Kuala Lumpur after another argument about her penis. I have been in Bangkok on my own since, and even added an additional week here. I have been fully enjoying all of the pleasures available in Bangkok and putting up with the daily video chat arguments I've been having with my gf.

We have been in an open relationship since we met. I have other partners, as does she, and we frequently have other men, women, and trans women join us for sex. She is half my age, but that has never been an issue. I have paid for all of her previous medical procedures to enhance her femininity and I promised to pay for her bottom surgery as part of our prior agreement. She is now insisting that she wants to have the surgery this year and is doing it whether I pay or not. It seems she was prescient when she turned down my marriage proposal in 2018. I have become certain that I will feel differently about her when she no longer has her beautiful penis. I will still love her, but I am not at all sure I want to continue to be in a relationship with her. I know it's all very selfish of me, but I fell in love with her with a cock, and I want her to keep it.

So here we are.

Quite the dilemma. I am glad that it is not something that I have to deal with. You don't want to stop her from fulfilling a dream but you like what you like.

 

[Sol41]

My trans girlfriend and I have been living together for 10 years in April. When I was planning to move to Australia, I was looking for a temporary place to live and a flatmate. A friend put us in touch, and I moved in with her when I arrived. I knew in advance that she was a crossdressing escort. But I did not know how beautiful she was and that she was presenting full-time as female. A short time later we began hooking up, and when I purchased an apartment I invited her to move with me. Long story short, we became a couple and fell in love. She stopped escorting shortly thereafter, although it didn't bother me. I began paying for hrt, and as the years went by additional treatments and surgeries. In 2018, when Australia approved same-sex marriage, I asked her to marry me. She said no because she didn't believe I would still love her the same when she completed her transition.

We were apart for almost a year during Covid. She had been visiting her parents in Kuala Lumpur when Australia closed its borders. When she was finally able to return it was like a honeymoon for a couple of months. Then she began talking about completing her transition and having bottom surgery. I love her penis and didn't want her to go through with it. It became an ongoing issue for the next few years, and early last year we compromised on her having an orchiectomy (testicles removed, for those unfamiliar with the term) and keeping her cock for another five years minimum. After the orchiectomy, things were pretty peaceful for awhile and we were getting along better than we had been for some time.

Late last year, she announced that she hated her cock and wanted to have it removed. Being the selfish prick that I am, I wasn't ready to agree and reminded her of our agreement. She stormed out and we have fought about it constantly ever since. We spent the holidays and most of January with her parents in Malaysia, and in late January went to Thailand to finish our holiday. She lasted four days of a planned two weeks and went back to Kuala Lumpur after another argument about her penis. I have been in Bangkok on my own since, and even added an additional week here. I have been fully enjoying all of the pleasures available in Bangkok and putting up with the daily video chat arguments I've been having with my gf.

We have been in an open relationship since we met. I have other partners, as does she, and we frequently have other men, women, and trans women join us for sex. She is half my age, but that has never been an issue. I have paid for all of her previous medical procedures to enhance her femininity and I promised to pay for her bottom surgery as part of our prior agreement. She is now insisting that she wants to have the surgery this year and is doing it whether I pay or not. It seems she was prescient when she turned down my marriage proposal in 2018. I have become certain that I will feel differently about her when she no longer has her beautiful penis. I will still love her, but I am not at all sure I want to continue to be in a relationship with her. I know it's all very selfish of me, but I fell in love with her with a cock, and I want her to keep it.

So here we are.

Im sorry you've found yourself in a position like that my friend.

My husbands always told me hed love me with my dick or no, but I dont think youre as much of a bad person as tou think you are for your prefference being what it is.
Ive often thought about what if he wanted to transistion and get bottom surgery and I, like anyone can admire a pair of tits, but pussy does *nothing* for me. Prefferences are what they are, I wish people in general respected thier own more.

Good luck to you and your gal friend.