Will I? Somehow I doubt it.

[SeaCat]

Will I get laid tonight? Somehow I doubt it. My wife had a tough day in work today and she hasn't learned the trick of letting things in work go. Therefore because some of her co-workers were assholes and her patients were overly needy she feels like shit about it and can't let herself go. Anyone else out there have that problem?

Cat

 

[davidwatts]

Will I get laid tonight? Somehow I doubt it. My wife had a tough day in work today and she hasn't learned the trick of letting things in work go. Therefore because some of her co-workers were assholes and her patients were overly needy she feels like shit about it and can't let herself go. Anyone else out there have that problem?

Cat

The problem that some of my co-workers are assholes rears its ugly head five times a week for me. The fact that she lets it get to her makes her one of a rare breed; the kind that actually give a damn about what they do. I leave work that way all the time but I have 35 miles to get it out of my system.

Give her hug and a drink and try again tomorrow.

 

[Liar]

Will I get laid tonight? Somehow I doubt it. My wife had a tough day in work today and she hasn't learned the trick of letting things in work go. Therefore because some of her co-workers were assholes and her patients were overly needy she feels like shit about it and can't let herself go. Anyone else out there have that problem?

Cat

What problem? Feeling like shit or not getting laid?

Both, frequently.

 

[minsue]

What problem? Feeling like shit or not getting laid?

Both, frequently.

Took the words right out of my mouth

 

[sweetnpetite]

support

what she needs now is your love and support. The worst thing you can do- for her and for yourself is make her feel that she's letting you down too- just another failer in a spectacularly shitty day. Instead, try to focus on what would make her feal better (and it might be letting her vent and bitch without you acting like just *listening* to her day is more of a pain in the ass than it was for her to go through to it ). Women are strange creatures, once we've had a chance to complain and get it all out of our systems, we often feel much better. Don't offer her suggestions or solutions, just listen. Anything you can do to make her feel listened to, heard and understood will speed along her 'recovery.' (Nodding, agreeing and *never* taking the other person's side or trying to get her to see someone elses point of view- at this stage it will just anger her more, later she'll come to it on her own- and agreeing that "those kind of people just suck" are the best things you can do. After she's vented, see what she needs- is it a massage?- a night out where the music is really loud?- or someone else to make dinner (you)?

From my understanding, men like to be left alone in situations like this, but women usually need to 'relate' -- the evolutionists say that while men usually experience 'fight or flight' in stessful situations, women react with 'tend and befrend'- so if you can be her friend, and tend to her needs, she will be back in good spirits (and with any luck, your pants in no time)

The catch is, you can't do it just to get laid. And it doesn't always work out that way anyway.

But don't you want your wife to feel better- for her own sake- anyway?

(I sure hope so!)

 

[Guest]

Will I get laid tonight? Somehow I doubt it. My wife had a tough day in work today and she hasn't learned the trick of letting things in work go. Therefore because some of her co-workers were assholes and her patients were overly needy she feels like shit about it and can't let herself go. Anyone else out there have that problem?

Cat

I hate that feeling, honestly.

What helps me when I come home in such a state is for my husband to deal with dinner and the kids. If the situation allows, he'll feed me and send me off to soak in the tub for an hour without a care while he handles other issues.

I usually feel a bit more energized after that.

to you and your wife.

 

[rgraham666]

Will I get laid tonight? Somehow I doubt it. My wife had a tough day in work today and she hasn't learned the trick of letting things in work go. Therefore because some of her co-workers were assholes and her patients were overly needy she feels like shit about it and can't let herself go. Anyone else out there have that problem?

Cat

No. But I wish I did.

 

[ElizabethWest]

I used to have that problem when I worked in acute care. I would bring work home with me in the form of memories of those who demanded so much from me. When I stopped working the floor, I found it much easier not to bring work home with me.

Of coure I still wasn't getting laid but that wasn't work's fault.

 

[SeaCat]

Update, for those who are interested.

Last night after posting I decided to give my wife a bit of a break. Even though it was quarter of eleven here I asked her if she would like a quick dip in the pool to cool off and relax. She agreed. When wwe got out to the pool I was pleasanlty surprised to find it empty and the night nice and quiet. (No loud stereos fighting couples, screaming kids or wailing police sirens for a change of pace.) Most of the lights around the pool area are out, but the lights in the deep end of the pool cast a nice glow. When my wife peeled off her towel and waded into the water I was nicely surprised to see she was wearing one of her thong bikinis.

After swimming for a while as well as talking we stood in chest deep water just looking around and listening. The night was quiet with a slight breeze from the south. The apartments facing the pool were dark for the most part and we didn't hear the normal sounds of people around us. My wife was talked out by this time and slowly relaxing in the warm water. Life was going great. We just stood there for a while enjoying this, our bodies illuminated by the faint glow of the single underwater light at the end of the pool. When my wife said she was starting to get a little chilled I suggested we sit on the edge of the pool, with our legs in the water, she agreed. When I looked at my watch again it was eleven thirty. Getting a bit warm I decided to slip back into the water.

Turning to face my wife I found myself face to face with her bikini clad crotch. This gave me an idea. She reluctantly scooted her hips closer t the edge of the pool when I asked her to. (Reluctantly because the last time I did this I had pulled her into the water. ) When her hips were on the edge of the pool I lifted her legs and leaning down ran my tongue over the thin fabric covering her cunt. She giggled when I did this the first time, it must have tickled. She stopped giggling though when I pulled her bottoms to the side and slid my tongue over her naked skin. It didn't take long before my wife was moving her hips trying to get even more. I was evil, I was cruel, hell I was mean, I only made her orgasm twice. When I pulled away from her she was more than ready to join me in the water. You wouldn't be far from the truth if you said I was surprised that she left her bathing suit on the side of the pool when she joined me.

My wife and I managed to make more than a few waves in the pool as we got it on. My wife and I love sex in the water. She likes the fact I can easily support her weight while we stand there fucking each other stupid. Last night my wife didn't even bother trying to keep quiet. By the time we were done there was more than one light coming on in the apartments facing the pool. As more and more lights came on we grabbed our things and headed back to our place, my wife again surprising me by just picking up her towel and bathing suit as I picked mine up. (I don't care if someone sees me naked but she worries about people seeing her.)

Needless to say we both were more than a little relaxed when we got to bed.

Cat

 

[Guest]

Well done.

Sounds as if the two of you exceeded all expectations.

 

[CharleyH]

Will I get laid tonight?

Cat

Not if you hang out here