Will any woman have sex with me?

[Shadowbender55]

Over the past few months, I've been trying to find women who woudl be willing to have sex with me. Of course, I"ve asked advice about this from several people and they usually tell me not to think about having sex and they'll come to you. Tried that and still nothing works, and I'm starting to wonder if it's becuase of me or the place I'm in. So I set out to Cyberspace to see what possibilities lay there, and after sending out over 350 message to the same number of girls at the website Adult Friend Finder alone, nothing had worked. Now I'm really wondering if it's my approach or my looks. So I ask you ladies, look at me long and hard and ask if you'd be willing.

 

[pleaz_me]

Over the past few months, I've been trying to find women who woudl be willing to have sex with me. Of course, I"ve asked advice about this from several people and they usually tell me not to think about having sex and they'll come to you. Tried that and still nothing works, and I'm starting to wonder if it's becuase of me or the place I'm in. So I set out to Cyberspace to see what possibilities lay there, and after sending out over 350 message to the same number of girls at the website Adult Friend Finder alone, nothing had worked. Now I'm really wondering if it's my approach or my looks. So I ask you ladies, look at me long and hard and ask if you'd be willing.

I would have to say it's your approach....everything looks fine to me

 

[Shadowbender55]

My approach?

My approach? Okay then, what do women want to hear? Something like "My two favorite things are commitment and changing myself"? And on top of that I constantly hear women say that they want a man to be himself, if that's the case, then why is it that women feel the need to change their man? If you can answer than then maybe it is my approach.

 

[pleaz_me]

My approach? Okay then, what do women want to hear? Something like "My two favorite things are commitment and changing myself"? And on top of that I constantly hear women say that they want a man to be himself, if that's the case, then why is it that women feel the need to change their man? If you can answer than then maybe it is my approach.

HaHa....we just want honesty...yes, to be yourself so we can start plotting immediately what we need to change!

 

[Klitz]

what is your approach?

Where do you approach?

How do you approach?

What do you say/ask?

 

[Shadowbender55]

HaHa....we just want honesty...yes, to be yourself so we can start plotting immediately what we need to change!

I rest my case then.

 

[Shadowbender55]

what is your approach?

Where do you approach?

How do you approach?

What do you say/ask?

well, I approach at this Adult Personals Site called "Adult Friend Finder.com" and this is what I usually say -

"I saw your profile and wanted to send a message. You sound just like the kind of woman that I've been looking for. Would you be interested in emailing or chatting and seeing if we want to meet up and fulfil each others fantasies? If so let me know by replying or you can send a message to DragonKnight6977 at hotmail(dot)com."

 

[pleaz_me]

well, I approach at this Adult Personals Site called "Adult Friend Finder.com" and this is what I usually say -

"I saw your profile and wanted to send a message. You sound just like the kind of woman that I've been looking for. Would you be interested in emailing or chatting and seeing if we want to meet up and fulfil each others fantasies? If so let me know by replying or you can send a message to DragonKnight6977 at hotmail(dot)com."

I don't know anything about Adult Friend Finder.com, but I would be more apt to respond to the message if you left out the "and seeing if we want to meet up and fulfil each others fantasies" part. I would change it to "and getting to know each other." Just my opinion.

 

[Shadowbender55]

I don't know anything about Adult Friend Finder.com, but I would be more apt to respond to the message if you left out the "and seeing if we want to meet up and fulfil each others fantasies" part. I would change it to "and getting to know each other." Just my opinion.

I"ll try.

 

[pleaz_me]

I"ll try.

I wish you all the luck in the world. I'm 33 and have yet to find that wonderful, perfect relationship. I know that if I'm patient, the right one will eventually come along.

 

[krazeekat]

I rest my case then.

Now I don't know pleaz_me but I'm sure she was just jesting about plotting to change the men.

Here's a tip...women love men with sense of humour. If you can't see the humour in it then you have a long way to go in finding that elusive pillowfriend.

 

[Shadowbender55]

Now I don't know pleaz_me but I'm sure she was just jesting about plotting to change the men.

Here's a tip...women love men with sense of humour. If you can't see the humour in it then you have a long way to go in finding that elusive pillowfriend.

Then again, doesn't that go along with the idea that women can play games with men's minds and tease us to the point where we chase, try to impress, and all that?

 

[Eilan]

Regarding AdultFriendFinder

well, I approach at this Adult Personals Site called "Adult Friend Finder.com" and this is what I usually say -

"I saw your profile and wanted to send a message. You sound just like the kind of woman that I've been looking for. Would you be interested in emailing or chatting and seeing if we want to meet up and fulfil each others fantasies? If so let me know by replying or you can send a message to DragonKnight6977 at hotmail(dot)com."

My husband and I have a (currently turned-off) couples profile on AFF, and, frankly, I would have ignored a message like that. It sounds like something that's been sent to several hundred other women already, like you can't be bothered to make the effort to send something original. Read the profiles of the women you want to contact. (Profiles are more than just pics, BTW--it used to irk me to get a "Hey, let's fuck" message from someone who saw a hot pic but who obviously hadn't read our profile and obviously wasn't what we were looking for.) Use their profile as a starting point for the message you send them.

You probably know that, at AFF, men vastly outnumber women. Put the effort into making your profile stand out from the crowd. Don't use a dick pic. And don't sound desperate, even if you are. Desperation isn't sexy.

My husband and I met three people from AFF, and we put time and effort into getting to know them before we hooked up in person. Even though AFF is marketed as a site in which people are looking to hook up for sex, a lot of women still want to get to know the person attached to the penis. Some of the men there would do well to realize that.

Then again, doesn't that go along with the idea that women can play games with men's minds and tease us to the point where we chase, try to impress, and all that?

Oh, and don't generalize.

 

[Shadowbender55]

My husband and I have a (currently turned-off) couples profile on AFF, and, frankly, I would have ignored a message like that. It sounds like something that's been sent to several hundred other women already, like you can't be bothered to make the effort to send something original. Read the profiles of the women you want to contact. (Profiles are more than just pics, BTW--it used to irk me to get a "Hey, let's fuck" message from someone who saw a hot pic but who obviously hadn't read our profile and obviously wasn't what we were looking for.) Use their profile as a starting point for the message you send them.

You probably know that, at AFF, men vastly outnumber women. Put the effort into making your profile stand out from the crowd. Don't use a dick pic. And don't sound desperate, even if you are. Desperation isn't sexy.

My husband and I met three people from AFF, and we put time and effort into getting to know them before we hooked up in person. Even though AFF is marketed as a site in which people are looking to hook up for sex, a lot of women still want to get to know the person attached to the penis. Some of the men there would do well to realize that.Oh, and don't generalize.

Thought that it was something wrong with me. Despite teh fact that I keep hearing from people, "Just be yourself", and yet when one is oneself it doesn't quite meet up to what they want. It would seem to me that really to be appealing one has to sacrifice individuality. I know that sounds pretty defeated, but then agian, I know this as an individual. That the cost of individuality is isolation.

 

[koneko-nea]

Thought that it was something wrong with me. Despite teh fact that I keep hearing from people, "Just be yourself", and yet when one is oneself it doesn't quite meet up to what they want. It would seem to me that really to be appealing one has to sacrifice individuality. I know that sounds pretty defeated, but then agian, I know this as an individual. That the cost of individuality is isolation.

There's nothing wrong with you at all. The only thing I didn't like about you was that message you leave those women you're trying to meet. It sounded like an answering machine type message. Those women probably get those types messages over and over. Try doing something different to get their attention. To be different doesn't necessarily mean to change yourself. You just improve on the ways you're currently doing things.

And perk up! Don't be so defeated. I believe there's someone out there for all of us. Maybe you need to let those women know a little bit about yourself in your message. I read peoples profiles for that reason. If we share similar interests, I'll usually send them a PM. And don't send anything too deep, you'll scare them away with that. Just give it a try.

I wish you luck in fulfilling your wants and needs. Be the inidividual you want to be. You'll be living a lie otherwise and that only leads to self hatred. Don't go changin' for no one, hun. You look and seem pretty sweet to me already!

 

[Inna]

Over the past few months, I've been trying to find women who woudl be willing to have sex with me. Of course, I"ve asked advice about this from several people and they usually tell me not to think about having sex and they'll come to you. Tried that and still nothing works, and I'm starting to wonder if it's becuase of me or the place I'm in. So I set out to Cyberspace to see what possibilities lay there, and after sending out over 350 message to the same number of girls at the website Adult Friend Finder alone, nothing had worked. Now I'm really wondering if it's my approach or my looks. So I ask you ladies, look at me long and hard and ask if you'd be willing.

opinion on the pics... the first one scared me the second one was ok.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

All I know of you is what i have read in this thread.

You sound whiney and desperate.

Unless that is what a gall is looking for, that approach is not going to cut it.

Like said earlier. Make your profile stand out.

or get off the AFF site and try to meet gals the old fasioned way....in person!

 

[Emerald Eyed]

opinion on the pics... the first one scared me the second one was ok.

The first one was terrible for a few reasons.

The phone to his head. Now i realize it might be an actual picture, but why do so many guys pose with the phone?

He looks like he is wearing a shirt from a craft show.


Try a more natural looking picture. Like you in front of a tree or something

 

[Shadowbender55]

There's nothing wrong with you at all. The only thing I didn't like about you was that message you leave those women you're trying to meet. It sounded like an answering machine type message. Those women probably get those types messages over and over. Try doing something different to get their attention. To be different doesn't necessarily mean to change yourself. You just improve on the ways you're currently doing things.

And perk up! Don't be so defeated. I believe there's someone out there for all of us. Maybe you need to let those women know a little bit about yourself in your message. I read peoples profiles for that reason. If we share similar interests, I'll usually send them a PM. And don't send anything too deep, you'll scare them away with that. Just give it a try.

I wish you luck in fulfilling your wants and needs. Be the inidividual you want to be. You'll be living a lie otherwise and that only leads to self hatred. Don't go changin' for no one, hun. You look and seem pretty sweet to me already!

If only I could get messages like that. Instead I get jack squat. And really I do think that women get the better end of the deal, cause you're offered sex all the time, we guys we have to basically, beg, plead, and do whatever it takes to get a woman to like us. And I know this after all the attempts and failures I've had to muddle through. ANd I also think that women know this, you do know this of how much of a fool a man will make out of himself just for you. And if we guys said no to sex like women, you wouldn't be begging back for it, you'd be thanking God for it.

 

[Shadowbender55]

opinion on the pics... the first one scared me the second one was ok.

First one scarred you? And that's the regular me. I rest my case that I"m not the kind of guy that women want. It prooves my point that women are just as shallow as men, but the difference is that we men are a little more honest and open about our shallowness. Women try to cover it up by saying, "Oh I'll accept the one I love no matter what he's like." Oh yeah? And whenever women accuse men of being shallow, here's a good question, "Does size matter?" Now we'll see who the shallow one is.

 

[Shadowbender55]

The first one was terrible for a few reasons.

The phone to his head. Now i realize it might be an actual picture, but why do so many guys pose with the phone?

He looks like he is wearing a shirt from a craft show.


Try a more natural looking picture. Like you in front of a tree or something

Yeah, and you're picture is better all green like the She-hulk.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Yeah, and you're picture is better all green like the She-hulk.

And you wonder why you aren't getting laid?

Oh and don't ask a questions you don't want answers to

 

[Inna]

First one scarred you? And that's the regular me. I rest my case that I"m not the kind of guy that women want. It prooves my point that women are just as shallow as men, but the difference is that we men are a little more honest and open about our shallowness. Women try to cover it up by saying, "Oh I'll accept the one I love no matter what he's like." Oh yeah? And whenever women accuse men of being shallow, here's a good question, "Does size matter?" Now we'll see who the shallow one is.

Look you asked for an honest opinion and I gave it to you. I don't represent all women and am obviously not your type. More importantly the one for you will love the real you. Small piece of advice, lighten up for god's sake. Most of us hate whiney men. The one single most attractive character in a man is a sense of humor. Forget changing the picture and work seeing the lighter side of things.

 

[Shadowbender55]

And you wonder why you aren't getting laid?

I apologize, frustration does a lot to a persons mind. Still, I'm starting to think that women know men are easy to control. After all, let's face it, guys our needs are pretty obvious. With women, it's hard for us to figure out what women want out of us. It's a mystery, the Riddle of the Sphnx. And I don't think that's fair that we men are easy to figure out but women are the eternal mystery to us all.

 

[Shadowbender55]

Look you asked for an honest opinion and I gave it to you. I don't represent all women and am obviously not your type. More importantly the one for you will love the real you. Small piece of advice, lighten up for god's sake. Most of us hate whiney men. The one single most attractive character in a man is a sense of humor. Forget changing the picture and work seeing the lighter side of things.

Hey, it's an odd time these days. Especially since I"m trying to figure out what women want out of us guys. After all, when you think about it, men are easy to figure out. Plus you touch a guy anywhere and it feels good, but on the other side of it, for a guy we almost have to be like concert pianists to touch a woman right. And if we guys say the wrong thing, like in this thread for example, a woman can blow up in our face, and all the time you say you want honesty. Seems to me, women don't want honesty, you just want us to say what you want to hear, but make it sound like the honest truth.