I never thought this would happen to me. She is a wonderful lady and always accommodating and never refuses my advances but NEVER initiates sex. I am always the one who has to get things started. This is very hurtful, not to mention insulting. I have talked to her about It and things improve for a couple weeks and then goes back to the way it was. This has gotten to be so frustrating for me that I began seeing a lady 10 years ago whose husband is impotent and unwilling to pleasure his wife in other ways. She had enough of her situation as well and we just happened to meet. At times I feel like I am a terrible person for stepping out on my wife to satisfy my needs. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Or is it just me?
Wife's sex drive is very low. I am FRUSTRATED.
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Satinfan162
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She smells her.
Your wife knows you are being taken care of somewhere else.
She's just sticking with you for the paycheck, pension, or 401K.
She's likely taking care of herself or banging someone else that's better in bed than you.
They know. I never met a chic that was surprised by her husband's infidelity. Some choose to remain blissfully unaware because life on their own is too much.
Divorce her. Fidelity, Sex and intimacy are the foundation of a marriage. Sounds like you have none of those things.
I bet the only reason you stay is that you love 1/2 your money too much to leave. The wife knows that too and owns you!
Go while you still have a job. She will get rid of you once you quit stacking the cash. I'm 52 and have seen this at least 10 times with either clients or friends.
The cheating husband is always shocked when he gets the papers.
Good Luck!
Your wife knows you are being taken care of somewhere else.
She's just sticking with you for the paycheck, pension, or 401K.
She's likely taking care of herself or banging someone else that's better in bed than you.
They know. I never met a chic that was surprised by her husband's infidelity. Some choose to remain blissfully unaware because life on their own is too much.
Divorce her. Fidelity, Sex and intimacy are the foundation of a marriage. Sounds like you have none of those things.
I bet the only reason you stay is that you love 1/2 your money too much to leave. The wife knows that too and owns you!
Go while you still have a job. She will get rid of you once you quit stacking the cash. I'm 52 and have seen this at least 10 times with either clients or friends.
The cheating husband is always shocked when he gets the papers.
Good Luck!
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There are others here in your situation. The only thing wrong here at the moment is that you're on the wrong thread. Take a look at this one: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1503158
Is the relationship wrong? That's for you and your conscience. Only you can choose that for you.
Is the relationship wrong? That's for you and your conscience. Only you can choose that for you.
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So basically you could sleep with your wife every night if you asked her too but because she doesn’t initiate it you’ve been cheating on her for 10 years? Because your man ego is bruised that for whatever reason she doesn’t act the way you want her to in your head?
I just want to be sure of the facts before I confirm that you’re likely a terrible person.
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Shit loads of people here in the same boat... but...
Your use of ‘insulting’ hit me... do you really feel insulted that for whatever reason she doesn’t fancy it?
Screams a little of entitlement... you aren’t entitled to a women’s body. Even your wife’s...
Hurt I get... rejection does hurt... but insulted is odd...
If you love her, try and work it out... if not, leave and let her get on with her life, xx
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You’re a cunt... and what the fuck do you know about their financial situation? She might be the breadwinner for all you know...
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I think that’s what rubbed me the wrong way, there are lots of people in these shoes but he also flat out said she’s NEVER turned him down, so if he makes the effort she’s game. She’s not even rejecting him, he just doesn't want to have to initiate. And she may not for MANY reasons, upbringing, body image, his sense of entitlement... whatever.
So instead of working through it when she’s obviously receptive if not GOOD at it, he changed her reality without her consent. It’s shitty because this isn’t even a decent excuse for cheating
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I salute your eloquently put response... I’m on the free wine at my posh business hotel and my answer is a bit shit... but yes - both the insulted rubbed me up the wrong way... and implication from the next poster that he’s only staying so she doesn’t get his cash...
And these men wonder why they struggle to get laid...
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TRUTH HERE
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I hope it all works out for you! Good luck!
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Go read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski to understand your wife.
She has responsive desire, and it’s very common.
You are also very fortunate, for a long term marriage, that she never turns you down.
Look into Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity as well.
Women struggle with long term sexual attraction and boredom as much or more than men do, but some lie about the reasons and blame it all on themselves, to protect their husband’s ego and not hurt his feelings.
She has responsive desire, and it’s very common.
You are also very fortunate, for a long term marriage, that she never turns you down.
Look into Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity as well.
Women struggle with long term sexual attraction and boredom as much or more than men do, but some lie about the reasons and blame it all on themselves, to protect their husband’s ego and not hurt his feelings.
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