Wife's Girl on Girl Got Too Serious - have to choose

[MisAlicia87]

So a bit of a confession, since I've only shared this with hubby, and her, of course.

We were both 31, she, a true lesbian, me having fun, hubby getting to watch, most of the time, at first. Month's go by and the sex is phenomenal. I mean, earth shattering every time, all the time, we both feel it and we're at it when ever, where ever and all night long. Of course we fall madly in love; I mean, who couldn't? It was so intense it was inevitable. Then hubby stepped up, she and I were getting too close, too intimate, spending too much time and he tried to convince me that the woman I loved only wanted me all to herself. I almost left him for her (hence why I don't talk about it). It would have been the wrong choice; after all, in the long run, I was in it just for fun, she wasn't. It broke everyone's heart, especially her heart, especially being the one left alone.

Any one else fall in love and have to make a choice?

 

[Love2Spurt]

My wife had the same thing. She was with another guy while we were together, with my blessing of course. We just had the one rule that we always be open about things. But as time went on I found out they were both being selective and secretive about things and I had to step up and stop it all. This was almost 2 years ago and still breaks my heart every time she brings him up saying she misses what she had with both of us.

 

[Islander55]

I would expect this to be a common problem for younger people. We were in our 60s when we started with this lifestyle. Two of my partners have been long term so I try to pay attention and make sure we are both just in it for the sex. I think being older makes it easier to separate love and sex.

 

[cubbyfire04]

So a bit of a confession, since I've only shared this with hubby, and her, of course.

We were both 31, she, a true lesbian, me having fun, hubby getting to watch, most of the time, at first. Month's go by and the sex is phenomenal. I mean, earth shattering every time, all the time, we both feel it and we're at it when ever, where ever and all night long. Of course we fall madly in love; I mean, who couldn't? It was so intense it was inevitable. Then hubby stepped up, she and I were getting too close, too intimate, spending too much time and he tried to convince me that the woman I loved only wanted me all to herself. I almost left him for her (hence why I don't talk about it). It would have been the wrong choice; after all, in the long run, I was in it just for fun, she wasn't. It broke everyone's heart, especially her heart, especially being the one left alone.

Any one else fall in love and have to make a choice?

I have... And similar situation but with a man. A GF I dated was into me being with other men, and even ok with the occasional meetup with one guy in particular we both played with. He and I got very close and my feelings for him became much more than sexual. Fortunately his work moved him 2000 miles away so the decision made itself. Her and I have since broken up, but it had nothing to do with the situation. She did tell me after he moved, she was worried I would leave her for him when she saw how passionate we would be towards each other. It's a slippery slope.

 

[richdon03]

It's a slippery slope.

Indeed, it is. Always is, when you add another personality into the mix.

 

[MisAlicia87]

I would expect this to be a common problem for younger people. We were in our 60s when we started with this lifestyle. Two of my partners have been long term so I try to pay attention and make sure we are both just in it for the sex. I think being older makes it easier to separate love and sex.

Hubby, who's 24 years older, would agree. He talks about his ability to detach from passion as a blessing and a loss.

 

[MisAlicia87]

It's a slippery slope.

From my perspective as a bi woman, I feel that passion is different with partners of the same sex in part because we can relate more closely to the body we're pleasing. And if that partner is extremely sexually compatible the passion is even that more arousing. I've been extremely compatible with many men, but never as engrossing as when its with a compatible woman.