Wife thinks I'm cheating So....

[accusedhubby]

Well my wife of 7 years has recently accused me of cheating, which I have not been, I find that very interesting that she has been accusing me of this.

So I started to think, well if I'm being accused and having to suffer the wrath, I might as well give it a try.

This is my first time here, so I don't exactly know what to say, except I live in the Midwest, I'm 39 yo, and I think I am at least an average looking guy in OK shape for my age.

I guess I am wondering/looking for any ladies in my age bracket that would be interested in a little bit of a fling, maybe your in the same situation as me, married but not really happy and looking to test the waters for something on the side, or maybe just someone wanting to have little fun. I don't know what else to say, except this is really strange for me to be putting myself out here, I don't really expect much of a response but I thought I would at least try.

I don't know how all the private messages etc work on here, but I'm sure I can figure it out.

Well maybe I will hear from you ladies soon.

Thanks for listening, I know I rambled on, so most of you probably didn't read the whole post.

 

[horndog201]

I've always heard that when it comes to stuff like that, if one spouse is accusing the other of cheating, its really the accuser that is cheating.

 

[BadBoyA]

Be a man and stop using your wife to justify your adultery.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Be a man and stop using your wife to justify your adultery.

Well, who's to say. To each their own, I guess.

 

[Missingmeds]

I've always heard that when it comes to stuff like that, if one spouse is accusing the other of cheating, its really the accuser that is cheating.

And that is usually the truth of it all.

 

[Dangerous Vixen]

I've always heard that when it comes to stuff like that, if one spouse is accusing the other of cheating, its really the accuser that is cheating.

This is sooo true so she could possibly be running around herself ...

Be a man and stop using your wife to justify your adultery.

I know I'm new but I would like to sign on the ................ line ... I mean seriously ... This is your wife you are speaking of and just because she is accusing you, you are going to run off and do it. You guys aren't children and playing the na na na boo boo game is really old. But hey, to each his own ...

I hope you find what you're looking for ...

 

[Dangerous Nymph]

Be a man and stop using your wife to justify your adultery.

I totally agree with this right here.

Confront her about it and let her know that you are not. If she is accusing you then maybe there are somethings that you are doing that may be suspicious. Also I can say that SOMETIMES those who accuse often have a guilty heart.
I would say sit down and talk. Try to figure out why she feels this way.

Going out to cheat and justifing your actions b/c she THINKS you are cheating is a lame excuse.

 

[accusedhubby]

I appreciate the feedback, and I understand the comments.

First of all I have not gone out and committed adultery, just exploring the option.

I'm not blaming my wife for anything, it's just the situation as it is.

Many attempts have been made to talk to my wife and discuss our situation and the lack of trust. I find the best avenue to intimacy is through conversation and many attempts have been made. So maybe she is the one and maybe she has a guilty conscious, I don't know, I have thouht the same thing, but I'm not out trying to catch her in something or even overly suspicious. I figure if that's the case it will all come out eventually, and I believe that if I act on my urges it will also come out eventually.
Am I doing something suspicious, I suppose since I am here, but anything can be construed as suspicious.

I am a grown man and can make decisions, I'm not blaming anyone so the boo hoo na na thing doesn't play here, but if that's the way one see's itunderstand. It's not as simple as it seems, I believe in marriage and the vow. I hope to be happily married again, wether if it's with my current wife or not.

 

[Missingmeds]

As far as the private messages go, if you go into UserCP, then to options, you can set it so that you get an email when you get a private message or that you get a popup telling you that you have a private message. Or look to the upper right where it says welcome and underneath that you will see Private Messages and you can click there and it will take you to them.

At the bottom of any private message (or pm as they are called here), you will see buttoms that say forward or reply, click on the reply button and then it will let you answer the person.

If you need anymore help, please feel free to ask.

 

[Inna]

Accused but not..

Hmmm. My hubby thought I was cheating.. and I was.
I also know a good guy that gets accused all the time and doesn't.
The bottom line is if you want to be faithful, hang in there and convince
her that you are. If you want to be with another, than call it what it is and
go for it. Just be ready for the repercussions.