Wife Friendly BDSM Porn

[leatherleaf]

It's been a lot of work getting my wife to service bottom territory. But she's doing well and good at it and I'm learning a lot.

Two things she finally opened up and asked for were rougher sex (every time) and porn.

But she is EXTREMELY picky about porn. If its cheesy at all (and most porn is) she's turned off by it. The women have to be attractive and the guys too.

I made the mistake of showing her some BDSM porn one time. I thought it was pretty mild but she was freaked out by how hard some of it was.

So after the long story - are there any wife friendly porn sites out there? What do you ladies like to watch?

I usually use cliphunter or xnxx as they are searchable but damn it is difficult to find stuff!

 

[MeekMe]

I like my porn non-moving. Pictures, written, and in graphic novel form. I still look at some pretty crazy stuff. So I can't relate at all to your wife. I have no idea what "wife friendly" porn is. It's all just porn...

 

[Stella_Omega]

let her explore on her own.

She might prefer hentai cartoon images, which tend to be representational of an ideal. Gelbooru.com and rule34.xxx might be places to start. She might also enjoy the kind of BDSM rendered in fanfiction, because it's generally written by women for women. Archiveofourown.org is really beautifully organised and searchable. tumblr.com is another place to find uncensored porn, in many combinations-- one of my fvorite tumblrs is called sexisnotheenemy.tumblr.com, and she can click on the tags that interest her.

Ask her to share what she finds.

 

[KoPilot]

Yeah, I prefer art and stories over regular film porn any day of the week. Mostly because I like shit that's impossible or dubious in ways that you just can't capture with real people on camera, but especially mostly because normal porn is more often than not made by men, for men. Who gives a shit how bouncy the chick's tits are? I want to see the dude actually get turned on, make noise, and do something other than jackhammer away for half an hour.

 

[Ahlam]

The mute button has redeemed some porn flicks in my eyes.

Does she like any of the stories here on Literotica? Having her make a list of things she has seen in porn that turned her on might also be helpful.

I do not enjoy porn much myself, unless it's especially pretty or artsy. Erotica, however, is the best.

If the people in the porno do not seem realistic and if their reactions do not appear genuine and natural to me, then I'll start to view it with a detached almost scientific sort of curiosity. The result of this is that all possibility for sexual arousal is tossed out.

 

[tr65]

let her explore on her own.

She might prefer hentai cartoon images, which tend to be representational of an ideal. Gelbooru.com and rule34.xxx might be places to start. She might also enjoy the kind of BDSM rendered in fanfiction, because it's generally written by women for women. Archiveofourown.org is really beautifully organised and searchable. tumblr.com is another place to find uncensored porn, in many combinations-- one of my fvorite tumblrs is called sexisnotheenemy.tumblr.com, and she can click on the tags that interest her.

Ask her to share what she finds.

How many of the sites above are infested with viruses & trackers? Are any safe and secure?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

How many of the sites above are infested with viruses & trackers? Are any safe and secure?

I'm pretty damned sure Stella would not recommend *any* site "infesteds with viruses & trackers."

 

[Stella_Omega]

None of these sites are commercial, all of them are user-provided content, the same as Literotica. Archiveofourown is uniquely non-commercial, run by a non profit organisation http://transformativeworks.org/

I highly recommend that anyone surfing the net uses the AdBlockPlus extension on their browser, which should be firefox or chrome.

 

[leatherleaf]

The replies are much appreciated.

I think the comments about pictures are probably apt. When I asked her about fantasizing she said she did sometimes but it was more like flashes of something we've done or a situation she puts us in. Never like a video.

Stella I wish she would explore on her own. She uses the "I'm not very creative" speech. She is but she's just I don't know. I'll set her down next time and tell her to find what she wants. That might do it.

She has read stories on here before. She sort of enjoyed them but said most were "cheesy". No offense to anyone writing (my fiction is horrible!). I think a decent story would be better than porn for her.

I appreciate the suggestions and will give some of them a try.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't read much on Lit to be honest. Most of it is cheesy. AO3 is the face of a community that honors high standards of writing, and assumes that the female gaze is where it all comes from.

 

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[MeekMe]

Cheesy is what I expect in porn. Often I just scroll through until I find the scenario I think is hot comes about. I read what I like (the crazy sex) and leave all the BS leading up to it. Very seldom do I find a story that captures me story line and all. I wonder if I'm weird for a girl or if cheesy is an excuse. 0.o;;

 

[IrisAlthea]

Cheesy is what I expect in porn. Often I just scroll through until I find the scenario I think is hot comes about. I read what I like (the crazy sex) and leave all the BS leading up to it. Very seldom do I find a story that captures me story line and all. I wonder if I'm weird for a girl or if cheesy is an excuse. 0.o;;

I agree, especially when it comes to the visual stuff. I can like the hot sex scene but any attempt at a superstructure that explains why that scene came to be is usually stupid, annoying, cheesy, embarrassing or any combination thereof.

I think a lot of the things marketed to women go even more for storyline and while the try to make it more polished it's still not good enough to stand alone and often even still stupid.
For me, that just seems like a waste of time.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I agree, especially when it comes to the visual stuff. I can like the hot sex scene but any attempt at a superstructure that explains why that scene came to be is usually stupid, annoying, cheesy, embarrassing or any combination thereof.

I think a lot of the things marketed to women go even more for storyline and while the try to make it more polished it's still not good enough to stand alone and often even still stupid.
For me, that just seems like a waste of time.

That's why you have to find the work that is made BY women, as well as pointed towards women.

 

[Erochic]

I actually like porn, but I'm only nibbling on the edges of BDSM and control (especially so any kind of submission) - so I don't really like much of that kind of porn. For me it's too much - too hard- and leaves me cold or frightens me.

I do like some more artistic images .... Just a moment caught in time or just a tiny piece of the picture.... that I can use to explore what I like and what appeals to me.

I really like MeekMe's avatar for example. All you can see are her bound hands (I think they are hers) but it seems to be that she is offering up her submission as a gift - which seems to me to be very erotic and loving at the same time.

Just my personal perspective

 

[KoPilot]

Penetration is meh, boob grabbing is meh. It's not cheesy justifications and "contextualizing" I like, it's just that I get my kink elsewhere. I actually get off more on unsettling glances, the heirarchical positioning of characters... All the not-PIV sex shit.