Wife Cheated While We were Separated

[Kenny9990]

I've been married for ten years. The first
eight were pretty good--one child--but then
things got bad. No one was cheating but we just
couldn't get along and our sex life sucked--yea,
it was the old story she couldn't get enough of
my cock and would do anything I wanted in bed
while we were dating but lost interest
after the wedding and kid. I moved out a year
and a half ago but we continued to see each
other and work on our relationship. Our
agreement was that we would not date or have sex
with others until we knew if our marriage was
going to last.

Things finally started getting better for us and
I moved back in a month ago. She's been a bit
distant and I asked her what was wrong. She
told me she felt guilty and had to confess--she
slept with two guys she worked with while we
were apart including her boss. Both were on
going relationships--not just one night stands.
Both of these affairs were going on while I was
working things out with her and sharing her bed
one night a week.

I am really pissed off--I observed our agreement
and passed up some nice pussy--but don't know
what to do. I love her and my boy but I feel
really dumb for getting snookered (pick a number
for service?). I also don't want to get
financially devastated.

Anyone been to marriage counseling for this type
of problem? Does it work? Serious comments
only please.

 

[Bill in th Burg]

Are you shure that was you and not me?
Damn your story is 99% of of whats happened to in the last year. (only one was her boss the other was an old boyfriend). Well we are going to go to councilling, shees been seeing a pscylogist for a few months that has helped her to tell me the truth about some of the things that happened. Now its my turn, I need to go not only for herself but for my sanity and for my daughter (2). I have never been a snopping, untrusting, jelious, angry guy before this but, I am now and that sucks. Well i guess Ill keep you posted, this if the first place that Ive even felt like posting,,,,,, funny huh, I came here looking for spank material and found another poor soul in the same shoes.
good luck
bill

 

[Guest]

women are hypocrite shovinistic pigs. Why hypocrite? Because they do exactly what men do, with the difference that they criticize men and blame them instead of seeing the bad things they do themselves.


for the ones who think I hate women, I have news for you: there're bad people of both sexes, men and women... but some things are still unfair...


To Kenny



Society expects men to be sorrier for cheating than women... still unfair..but this is true. I will not go into details, but if you love your son and if you still have some respect and love for your wife, let things be as they are, go over your feeling of being cheated and let them be overwhelmed by love...


Good luck to you

 

[sufisaint]

advice

although they are very painful, divorce does work! You have a chancec to start your life over, take that chance. Its not easy, but for me it has worked.

 

[Honeygirl]

Hiya Kenny...

I'm sorry that this has happend to you - you have every right to be devastated and totally betrayed by her actions.

I'm wondering how you've approached the subject since she disclosed this information to you? Have you discussed exactly how you feel with her - ? Do you feel that the level of communication is such that she is willing to consider counselling, and that this would be a worthwhile thing - or is she hoping to `bury' this incident now that she's told you?

I apologise for all the questions - I was just hoping for a clearer idea of the current situation.

It is true that woman can decieve / cheat just as often as men...it's a sad fact. Just remember Kenny, that you were not a fool to believe in the marriage. The issue now, is whether you both want to work on resolving the issues that have caused the infidelity in the first place.

Good luck Kenny.