Why????

[jaymahpil]

Why is it that everytime a lady posts here you immediately see the replies pouring in, but if a man posts it seems the only way he can get it back up front is to bump it himself.

Ladies, there are us guys that are pretty good guys. Believe it or not there are still some of us who think with the head on our shoulders and not the one between our legs. Some of us actually still believe in old fashioned honesty, which, by the way, has not gone out of style.

Even though this is an "Adult" site, I don't believe friendship, intelligent conversation and a good sense of humor have completely supplanted sexual adventurousness and mutual sexual enjoyment, but, in fact, may actually still be looked on by some of us as complimentary to the latter.

If anyone would like a great friendship that might actually slip slowly or even faster if the vibes are right, toward more intimate time, you can email me direct at jaymahpil@yahoo.com.

Please read my profile which is the absolute truth as I always am.

Jay

 

[elizaloo]

Why is it that everytime a lady posts here you immediately see the replies pouring in, but if a man posts it seems the only way he can get it back up front is to bump it himself.

Ladies, there are us guys that are pretty good guys. Believe it or not there are still some of us who think with the head on our shoulders and not the one between our legs. Some of us actually still believe in old fashioned honesty, which, by the way, has not gone out of style.

Even though this is an "Adult" site, I don't believe friendship, intelligent conversation and a good sense of humor have completely supplanted sexual adventurousness and mutual sexual enjoyment, but, in fact, may actually still be looked on by some of us as complimentary to the latter.

If anyone would like a great friendship that might actually slip slowly or even faster if the vibes are right, toward more intimate time, you can email me direct at jaymahpil@yahoo.com.

Please read my profile which is the absolute truth as I always am.

Jay

Hey there - as a female on this site, I just thought that I would pop in and wish you good luck in your search. A female bump for someone who sounds like an awesome guy.

 

[ca_mature]

hope you get more luck than I have...

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

hope you get more luck than I have...

and me...oh yeah I'm a woman...never mind

 

[Raidho]

Jay,

I think some of it has to do with demographics. Population wise on the boards, it seems that more men than women actually post personal ads. Another thing that I've noticed is that some of the "self-bumpers" are "XX/yo Male looking for phone sex, cam, etc." none of which would garner a reply from me.

I consider myself a mostly straightforward and a very honest person -- sometimes to the point of painful bluntness, and it seems that honesty HAS gone out of style.

And as for this :

Even though this is an "Adult" site, I don't believe friendship, intelligent conversation and a good sense of humor have completely supplanted sexual adventurousness and mutual sexual enjoyment, but, in fact, may actually still be looked on by some of us as complimentary to the latter.

...some of us look on it as a requirement for the latter.

Best of luck to you in your search. I'm probably not what you're seeking as I'm not looking for an intimate (of that nature) correspondence, but I do have a variety of interests.

I believe it's called eccentric eclectica

Good luck.

 

[Eilan]

I think some of it has to do with demographics. Population wise on the boards, it seems that more men than women actually post personal ads. Another thing that I've noticed is that some of the "self-bumpers" are "XX/yo Male looking for phone sex, cam, etc." none of which would garner a reply from me.

Exactly. If you go to a site like AdultFriendFinder, you'll find a similar demographic as well; men seeking women vastly outnumber women seeking men.

The ladies can afford to be choosy, and guys who neglect to fill out their profiles (except to say that they're horny--duh!) likely won't get the time of day. Hell, even guys who put a little more effort into finding someone still have trouble. Welcome to the world of "adult" dating.

I think that, on Lit anyway, it helps to make an effort to become part of the community. Find a forum that looks interesting and start posting--most of us don't bite too hard! Get yourself noticed in a good way. A lot of ladies (and if I were looking, I'd feel this way as well) are leery of striking up conversations with guys who act desperate or whose only posts are to bump their "Want to watch me stroke it on cam?" thread.

Sure, this is an "adult" board, but that doesn't mean that the ladies are willing to jump into the sack with the first horny man they encounter.

Good luck to you.

 

[jaymahpil]

Thank you very much!!!

Thanks very much for the replies.

I agree wholeheartedly with all your observations.

In particular, I would like to comment on Raidho's remarks about brutal honesty. I have also been accused of being honest to a fault.

I was once sitting and talking in a mixed group and made the comment about being honest to a fault and a lady challenged me saying, "There is no way honesty could ever be carried that far." I explained it to her this way. If your wife walks into the room with a new dress on and asks, "Honey, does this dress make me look fat?" I would look at her and say, "No, sweetheart, that dress doesn't make you look fat at all. It is the extra pounds around your midsection that makes you look fat. The dress has nothing to do with it."

She agreed that is "honesty to a fault".

But think about it truthfully. Most all clothes will make a person look better than when they are nude. If you don't believe that go to a nude beach or a nudist camp and you will see what I mean.

Personally, I love people of all shapes because I am much more interested in the ability to enjoy a persons character than whether the Lord made them good looking. I damn sure have no room to judge looks. BTW, I have a little more of that extra mid-section than the average bear myself, but it damn sure doesn't come from the clothes I wear. It comes from the food I eat and the lack of exercise I get, and that is the honest truth.

Well I have made this too long. BTW, did I get a chance to tell you that I am also very verbose, LMAO!!!

I want to say again , thanks for the replies. I enjoy them very much.

Jay

 

[AndrewCormac]

Hahaha, this is all you'll get from a nice guy post:

Hey there - as a female on this site, I just thought that I would pop in and wish you good luck in your search. A female bump for someone who sounds like an awesome guy.

 

[Lordmikel]

One thing I've noticed. Too many of the guys who post who are looking, are brand new. (No offense). Their very first post is that they are single and looking. This should be one of the last boards you post in, go post in the General Board (And get eaten alive) or go post in the even number thread and at least get yourself over a 100 and then post here.

Just an observation.

 

[Cathleen]

Welcome to Lit. Jay, I hope you enjoy it.

One thing I noticed is you do not have the PM (Private Messages) option turned on. There are ladies that would rather contact someone privately rather then post on a thread so as not to be seen as wanting uninvited attention.

I can be rather verbose too but will leave it as is - this time.

 

[Raidho]

Verbosity is one of the great virtues, isn't it? At least I try to tell myself that ... in so many words.

Regarding honesty ... I had a conversation with an old friend whom I hadn't seen in many years. After catching up, he asked me why I was still single. I told him it was simple -- it's because I'm an asshole. He laughed and said, no I was blunt ... and it was refreshing.

My response was that it's refreshing unless you're dating me.

 

[elizaloo]

Hahaha, this is all you'll get from a nice guy post:

wow - now I feel like if I offer a welcome and good luck I should include a blow job.

I'm sure all the women here get rude PMs - and speaking for myself alone, it's the nice, polite guys who DO have info in their profiles who get answers...an offer to "mow your grass Aunt Liz" is a death sentence. Better to be honest and make your pitch like jaymahpil did. As a woman that is appealing. Go Jay.

 

[Raidho]

wow - now I feel like if I offer a welcome and good luck I should include a blow job.

I'm sure all the women here get rude PMs - and speaking for myself alone, it's the nice, polite guys who DO have info in their profiles who get answers...an offer to "mow your grass Aunt Liz" is a death sentence. Better to be honest and make your pitch like jaymahpil did. As a woman that is appealing. Go Jay.

Heehee. I saw this and wasn't sure how to respond.

I guess it kind of sucks that "Nice guy posts" have to be followed up by "nice guys."

Go figure.

 

[Eilan]

Hahaha, this is all you'll get from a nice guy post:

Yeah, I'll bet you're just rolling in cyberpussy, aren't you?

I'm sure all the women here get rude PMs - and speaking for myself alone, it's the nice, polite guys who DO have info in their profiles who get answers...an offer to "mow your grass Aunt Liz" is a death sentence. Better to be honest and make your pitch like jaymahpil did. As a woman that is appealing. Go Jay.

The leg-humpers don't exactly get results, either. That's why they're so bitter.

The "You-just-gave-me-blue-balls-what-are-you-going-to-do-about-it?" PM's are definitely the best way to get a Lit lady to respond. NOT!

 

[jaymahpil]

Thanks Again

Thank you Cathleen for pointing out that I didn't have PM's enabled. It is enabled now, so if anyone would like to send me a PM I will be happy to respond. I was also wondering why I was not seeing avatars, since I used to actually have one myself, but I corrected that also. I had forgotten that I was starting all over again, (see below).

As for the "Nice guy Post", I am what I am and if that disqualifies me from receiving any correspondence from anyone, then I probably didn't want to receive it anyway. And, Hell, even "Nice guys" can't please everyone.

Also, I would like to point out that I had many more posts on a previous ID, but had to change it for security purposes, (because they are those out there that are not such nice guys). It may take me a while to accumulate the number of posts to achieve the level I was before, but that is alright too. Thanks again for all the great inputs. I have actually been a member of lit for more than 5 years.

Jay

 

[Raidho]

As for the "Nice guy Post", I am what I am and if that disqualifies me from receiving any correspondence from anyone, then I probably didn't want to receive it anyway. And, Hell, even "Nice guys" can't please everyone.

Also, I would like to point out that I had many more posts on a previous ID, but had to change it for security purposes, (because they are those out there that are not such nice guys). It may take me a while to accumulate the number of posts to achieve the level I was before, but that is alright too. Thanks again for all the great inputs. I have actually been a member of lit for more than 5 years.

Jay,

I'm pretty much running out the door headed for work, but I gotta say "YAY!" for your "I am what I am and if that disqualifies me from receiving any correspondence then I probably didn't want to receive it anyway."

Good deal. You sound like the folks I choose to surround myself with, and someone I'd like to get to know

As for the post count, screw it. Being a lurker, I can see where a minute level of posts might cause a bit of wariness (it's good to see people posting in threads, giving folks a little glimpse into their personalities), but there are some portions of the board that distinctly glares down its collective nose at newbies, despite vehemently denying it.

Welcome (back) to Lit, and I'm sure I'll be seeing you around.

 

[Raidho]

And just a side comment, Cathleen rocks.

She's good people, and one of my favorite personalities on Lit.

 

[RawHumor]

Men, especially online (especially at a site like this one), often tend to be horn dogs.

I've known people who made female alt names (I'm 18, I have a female name, but no other info in their profile) and got PMs from men within minutes. It's actually kinda sad that some men are that horny and unparticular.

Generally, men need to put their personality out there to gain interest, whereas women can often just state the basics: I have breasts and a heartbeat.

 

[Raidho]

Generally, men need to put their personality out there to gain interest, whereas women can often just state the basics: I have breasts and a heartbeat.

I've yet to concede that I have either breasts or a heartbeat.

I'm not quite sure I have either.

 

[mrtnmoon]

I've yet to concede that I have either breasts or a heartbeat.

I'm not quite sure I have either.

I'm guessing you've at least got the heartbeat.... unless zombies have learned how to type.

 

[denali]

Men, especially online (especially at a site like this one), often tend to be horn dogs.


Generally, men need to put their personality out there to gain interest, whereas women can often just state the basics: I have breasts and a heartbeat.

Actually from some of the threads and posts that I have seen, I'm not even sure that some the guys would require a women to have a heartbeat. The breasts would be sufficient.

Good luck in your search Jay.

 

[RawHumor]

I've yet to concede that I have either breasts or a heartbeat.

I'm not quite sure I have either.

That's hawt! Can we cyber?

 

[elizaloo]

That's hawt! Can we cyber?

Oh jeez - that's 'zactly what I'm talkin' 'bout - Whyn't you say "Your hawt, wanna ciber, wanna due me?"

Wait, sorry, you're an articulate male....now that's HAWT.

 

[sexymom]

Like correspondent friendships?

I'm very married, most of the time happily, and I'm not looking here for anyone to exchange bodily fluids with, but I'd love to chat or e-mail. Your maturity and interests are positives for me, not turn-offs.

e

 

[Raidho]

I'm guessing you've at least got the heartbeat.... unless zombies have learned how to type.

I will neither confirm nor deny.