Why Women Love Men

[Guest]

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[Caitano]

I love your pixie face, elizabetht.


Did you dredge this up somewhere? Is it your own?

I have been toying with the idea that the Aliens are Among Us Now, and they are Women. It's an exaggeration, but there are features of the other sex which make them seem, sometimes, like another species, even though it's a species I want very much to fuck.

There are enough aliennesses about the opposite sex that I marvel sometimes that we have been able to coexist so well.

 

[3113]

13. They remind us of our dads.

Good fuckin' God, I hope not! I deliberately went out of my way to marry a guy who was the complete opposite of my father. Any guy who reminds me of my dad has me getting out the shot gun....

 

[cloudy]

30. They get all protective, even when we don't really need them to be.

 

[matriarch]

I suggest that whoever wrote this needs to spend some serious time with real women. Very few of these observations are exclusive to men. Believe me.


1. They've got that comfortable place on their shoulder that's perfect for snuggling into while we fall asleep. Ahem......you may not be aware, but so do women. Ask the wife.

2. They're at peace with their bodies, except for maybe some minor anxiety over height, weight, and baldness. So are a great many women. Including me. I have no delusions.

3. They're enthusiastic about our bodies, even when we're not. Hell, yes.

4. They fall in love so hard, once they finally fall. This is not a male only trait, believe me.

5. Chest hair, forearm hair and the feel of a newly shaved cheek. I'll give you this one. *blink*.

6. Bravery around snakes, waterbugs, bats and flat tyres. You really think men are the only ones? That's so sad.

7. Their unapologetic lust for a nice hunk of beef or chocolate cake. Who doesn't. You might want to have a chat with Lucky.

8. Their ability to solve problems simply by throwing a ball around. That's not solving, that's hiding.

9. The glimpse you get, when they wear their baseball cap backward of their inner Little Leaguer. Is that what I look like??

10. How tender they get when they cry, and how seldom they do it. I'm so saddened that you think that all women cry all the time. Some of us don't.

11. What they lack in talk, they tend to make up for in action. Some of us can do both. Believe me, and that's not gender exclusive.

12. They make excellent companions when driving through rough neighborhoods or walking past dark alleys. I may give you that one, but again, it's an individual thing. Depends on the size of the man or woman.

13. They really love their moms. They remind us of our dads. I have to say this....I really love my mum, and I am so like my dad it's scary.

14. They don't mind accompanying a woman to a party even though she looks like a movie star and they look like the chauffeur. Again, this is a male only trait?? I don't think so.

15. Their near-endless appetite for discussing the ins and outs of work and money - ours as well as theirs. Believe me, this is so not exclusive to men. I know plenty of women like this.

16. Their genuine ardor for tinkering with toilets, changing oil and assembling gas grills - jobs any intelligent woman can do but would be nuts to volunteer for. I repeat, speak to Lucky. That woman's a genius with a tool kit, the grill is her domain, and she's a whiz at installing new toilets.

17. They never care what their horoscope, their mother-in-law, nor the neighbors say. Why on earth would you????

18. They rarely lie about their age, their weight, or their clothing size. Nor do I. I'm not ashamed about the fact that I am 58 years old, weigh just under 200lbs, and consequently wear UK size 20 clothes. Why should I be, that's just part of who I am.

19. How awestruck they are in the face of a homemade cookie. Yes. She is.

20. How great their hands look holding ours. See my AV.

21. Their face is a treasure to behold when they give us a present they picked out. Isn't everyone?

23. They have a great sense of competition. Again, this is NOT a completely male trait.

24. They give great hugs, ( and always melt our hearts when a sweet "I love you Princess" is added). Oh god, yes she does. Melts my heart and my knees.

26. They have an uncanny ability to look deeply into our eyes and connect with our heart, even when we don't want them to. Every single time. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

27. They don't care whether colors match, but are willing to be concerned if we want them to be. She's great that way. Bless her.

28. They can be taught. I'm sorry, but this is just insulting. To them.

29. They give us a peek at the little boy inside when they get sick or happy or hurt. You think we don't reveal the little girl?

 

[Liar]

8. Their ability to solve problems simply by throwing a ball around. That's not solving, that's hiding.

Not really. It's cooling off and getting perspective until you realize it wasn't as much of a problem that you first thought.



However...

8. Their ability to solve problems simply by throwing a ball around.

Unless I get to throw the ball at the problem, that's minus one man-point for me.

 

[3113]

Ironic....

12. They make excellent companions when driving through rough neighborhoods or walking past dark alleys. I may give you that one, but again, it's an individual thing. Depends on the size of the man or woman.

Actually, Mat, the ironic thing about this one is that 99% of the time, the man is protecting a woman from other men

Logically, if we're using this point to examine the positive of an entire gender then we have to take into account that it is primarily this gender which makes rough neighborhoods and dark alleys scary and dangerous places requiring such protection.

But I seriously doubt these points were supposed to be analyzed in such a manner. We're supposed to take them poetically and humorously, as a gentle reflection of one sex on the other.

 

[3113]

However...Unless I get to throw the ball at the problem, that's minus one man-point for me.

I'm so with you! Let's go throw some balls.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

But I seriously doubt these points were supposed to be analyzed in such a manner. We're supposed to take them poetically and humorously, as a gentle reflection of one sex on the other.

As such, I think it's sweet and generally true...

the masculine and feminine are different... nothing wrong with celebrating or acknowledging those differences...

in either gender...

 

[Belegon]

I suggest that whoever wrote this needs to spend some serious time with real women. Very few of these observations are exclusive to men. Believe me.

My Queen, I love you...

...but I am left wondering why you felt it was necessary to point all this out? There are really so very few positive discussions about gender differences that happen here. It's almost always referenced as a negative.

Your responses to 3, 4 and 28 make me hope I'm overreacting... but it is rather scary to see a voice for temperance and diversity speaking up to refute positives instead of negatives.

Please tell me I'm being way too over-sensitive about this?

 

[damppanties]

5. Chest hair, forearm hair and the feel of a newly shaved cheek. I'll give you this one. *blink*.

But there's laying your cheek against newly shaved other places.

 

[Vermilion]

My Queen, I love you...

...but I am left wondering why you felt it was necessary to point all this out? There are really so very few positive discussions about gender differences that happen here. It's almost always referenced as a negative.

Your responses to 3, 4 and 28 make me hope I'm overreacting... but it is rather scary to see a voice for temperance and diversity speaking up to refute positives instead of negatives.

Please tell me I'm being way too over-sensitive about this?

I think, perhaps, a *little* over-sensitive... I think Mat wanted to promote the positives of women and F/F relationships, rather than negate men and M/F relationships

There's positives (and negatives, believe me) to men and women...
My favourite thing about men is how they put up this tough exterior, but things like baby nephews and injured animals make them go all squishy... well, mine in particular

My favourite thing about women is the way you can be just introduced to a woman, but still find things to talk to them about - even if you've not much in common - because being female forges a connection, even if nothing else does

x
V

 

[impressive]

IMO, they're alllllllllllllllll good.

 

[Stella_Omega]

As such, I think it's sweet and generally true...

the masculine and feminine are different... nothing wrong with celebrating or acknowledging those differences...

in either gender...

I like to celebrate the feminine in men and the masculine in women-- AND the masculine in men and the feminine in women.

 

[Equinoxe]

There are really so very few positive discussions about gender differences that happen here. It's almost always referenced as a negative.

There is no such thing as a positive discussion about gender differences, here or anywhere. Every positive implies a negative - and that, I believe, is why her response was necessary.

 

[Belegon]

I think, perhaps, a *little* over-sensitive... I think Mat wanted to promote the positives of women and F/F relationships, rather than negate men and M/F relationships

There's positives (and negatives, believe me) to men and women...
My favourite thing about men is how they put up this tough exterior, but things like baby nephews and injured animals make them go all squishy... well, mine in particular

My favourite thing about women is the way you can be just introduced to a woman, but still find things to talk to them about - even if you've not much in common - because being female forges a connection, even if nothing else does

x
V

Sometimes I do worry about the dynamics of this board. Seriously. Just to play Devil's Advocate for a moment... Do you really think that this board has a dearth of reflection on the positives of a F/F relationship?

... and I certainly know that Mat, of all people here or anywhere, is one of the most open-minded and loving of people... that's just one of the reasons I do love her.

But at the risk of being shouted down... sometimes I get tired of being defensive about being male. This board gets filled at times with guys apologizing for their gender, especially when a het male does something atrocious and it's in the news.

It's sad that Mat should feel a need to make a statement. It's sadder that I should feel a need to respond.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I really appreciate the effects of testosterone whether they're more often seen in men than women or not. There's something incredible about being so close to your animal nature. I love the way they're typically very physical. I love to see rugged old hands, full of strength, and complete with hairy knuckles holding the delicate ceramic handle of a coffee cup. I love that men understand the need to provide protection is often very physical but sometimes just mental. I think men often get labeled as being stupid or aloof when emotions run high, but my experience is that their choice to hold someone in silence is usually due to an in depth understanding that they're not equipped with any number of words to soothe ... no one would be, and that's okay with them. I appreciate the struggle in a man's body as he handles a newborn child. It's truly amazing to see him strain against himself to not be strong at that moment and just to cradle. Maybe my favorite thing about men is that they have what it takes to be first class Dads. Ask most little girls. Whether or not their experience was good or bad, no matter how amazing their single-parent mom was, nearly everyone really wanted a Dad to be their champion, protector, provider, and loyal subject.

Men are unique in so many ways, and the world just wouldn't be the same without them.

All that, and lesbians need their sperm to have kids. *shrug*

KIDDING!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sometimes I do worry about the dynamics of this board. Seriously. Just to play Devil's Advocate for a moment... Do you really think that this board has a dearth of reflection on the positives of a F/F relationship?

... and I certainly know that Mat, of all people here or anywhere, is one of the most open-minded and loving of people... that's just one of the reasons I do love her.

But at the risk of being shouted down... sometimes I get tired of being defensive about being male. This board gets filled at times with guys apologizing for their gender, especially when a het male does something atrocious and it's in the news.

It's sad that Mat should feel a need to make a statement. It's sadder that I should feel a need to respond.

I agree, and I don't blame you, and I too wish things were very different. AS far as I'm concerned, things ARE different. Me and you, Bel-- who else is with us?

I have to say that these spam email memes such as the one Lizzie started this thread with, are never very well thought out. Unlike Lucky's post just now!

 

[Belegon]

I really appreciate the effects of testosterone whether they're more often seen in men than women or not. There's something incredible about being so close to your animal nature. I love the way they're typically very physical. I love to see rugged old hands, full of strength, and complete with hairy knuckles holding the delicate ceramic handle of a coffee cup. I love that men understand the need to provide protection is often very physical but sometimes just mental. I think men often get labeled as being stupid or aloof when emotions run high, but my experience is that their choice to hold someone in silence is usually due to an in depth understanding that they're not equipped with any number of words to soothe ... no one would be, and that's okay with them. I appreciate the struggle in a man's body as he handles a newborn child. It's truly amazing to see him strain against himself to not be strong at that moment and just to cradle. Maybe my favorite thing about men is that they have what it takes to be first class Dads. Ask most little girls. Whether or not their experience was good or bad, no matter how amazing their single-parent mom was, nearly everyone really wanted a Dad to be their champion, protector, provider, and loyal subject.

Men are unique in so many ways, and the world just wouldn't be the same without them.

All that, and lesbians need their sperm to have kids. *shrug*

KIDDING!

...and I love to see a woman that is so extremely gorgeous and also knows far more about building a deck than I do...

 

[cloudy]

I agree, and I don't blame you, and I too wish things were very different. AS far as I'm concerned, things ARE different. Me and you, Bel-- who else is with us?

Me.

I love men, but no matter how straight I am, I love women, too.

 

[matriarch]

It was never my intention to denegrate or negate the essential contribution of the male gender to our society.....I hope those of you who know me, know better than that.

It was merely my intention to point out that although the heading was 'Why women love men', most of those positives could also have been applied to women....not to negate men, but simply to show that in many areas of our living and loving, we aspire to, look for, and love the same things.

*sigh*

Many of you know that I was married for 32 years to one of the kindest, gentlest men alive, who is still a good and close friend. That I have two sons of who I am inexpressibly proud and love deeply. My father has always been my hero, and always will.

I don't hate men, I don't hate women. I don't love women, I don't love men.

I DO love people.

I don't think I can say any more, I've obviously already said too much.

*Retiring from the thread*.

 

[impressive]

It was never my intention to denegrate or negate the essential contribution of the male gender to our society.....I hope those of you who know me, know better than that.

It was merely my intention to point out that although the heading was 'Why women love men', most of those positives could also have been applied to women....not to negate men, but simply to show that in many areas of our living and loving, we aspire to, look for, and love the same things.

*sigh*

Many of you know that I was married for 32 years to one of the kindest, gentlest men alive, who is still a good and close friend. That I have two sons of who I am inexpressibly proud and love deeply. My father has always been my hero, and always will.

I don't hate men, I don't hate women. I don't love women, I don't love men.

I DO love people.

I don't think I can say any more, I've obviously already said too much.

*Retiring from the thread*.

Come back here! I lurrrrrrrrrrrrrve you!

 

[Belegon]

See, that's exactly why I usually keep my mouth shut on such things. Now someone I genuinely love has her feelings hurt.

 

[Stella_Omega]

See, that's exactly why I usually keep my mouth shut on such things. Now someone I genuinely love has her feelings hurt.

Everyone knows that your life is just a leetle bit more stressful than usual, Bel.

 

[matriarch]

See, that's exactly why I usually keep my mouth shut on such things. Now someone I genuinely love has her feelings hurt.

*smile*........not at all.
You couldn't hurt my feelings, you're too much a softy.
Please continue to take care of your and yours in these sad, terrible times.