Why women enjoying open sex are so rare in real life?

[ExMachina]

Hi all,
it's several time I lurk on this site, and I saw there is a large number of open minded couples and girls (especially in the US ...). So... why it is seems so hard to meet any open minded girl/couple in the real life????
Maybe I need to know some secret to recognize open minded people? Or maybe I am not looking in the right place?

 

[sweetlilslut]

Maybe..

I'm guessing it's because everyone in this site is like minded therefor not afraid or concerned about expressing their desires, thoughts and fantasies out loud.

Maybe you just need to get to know people around you which might lead to conversation along the sexual side of things.

Good luck

Hi all,
it's several time I lurk on this site, and I saw there is a large number of open minded couples and girls (especially in the US ...). So... why it is seems so hard to meet any open minded girl/couple in the real life????
Maybe I need to know some secret to recognize open minded people? Or maybe I am not looking in the right place?

 

[vixin1027OH]

couse normaly we hook up with the wrong guys

 

[alltherage]

Define open minded.

 

[vixin1027OH]

lol we like to play any way we can get it

 

[Stegral]

Hi all,
it's several time I lurk on this site, and I saw there is a large number of open minded couples and girls (especially in the US ...). So... why it is seems so hard to meet any open minded girl/couple in the real life????
Maybe I need to know some secret to recognize open minded people? Or maybe I am not looking in the right place?

In my case it is because I have been burned so often recently I kinda shy away from it now...
but that goes out the window if he has a nice body, long hair & cleanshaven...lol

 

[vixin1027OH]

im only open if i know the guy veryvery well. tho i hate clothes so never ware them around the house lol will get dressed to leave tho

 

[Sylphae]

It's not exactly socially acceptable in "polite, normal society" for a girl to claim she likes sex, or to be promiscuos.
I don't know about all the other girls, but personally I don't go shouting to the rooftops that I'm a nympho.
I think it's probable there are a lot more of us out there than you think, just that they hide.

 

[vixin1027OH]

here here only on like will i say im a cum slut

 

[Abradix]

I went out with a girl who I got to open up fairly quick and she was confident enough to show off her inner swinger. Needless to say the next few dates were interesting... Never truly knew what a double date was. Find a girl who doesn't feel the need to hide it and hang on for a wild time.

Being personable and getting a few drinks down probably helped her get into her own skin with me.

 

[vixin1027OH]

lol i dont need drinks for that. like i said i hate clothes and i love sex. im openly bi and i love cock. most ladys just dont know How to be open about it. there is no book to help us learn what its like to be so open and free. it can be scarey. trust me most would need drinks to help learn about any of this but most of them just are to scared about what their family and friends would say. go to a bar and just watch the ladys some time tho a club would be better.

 

[Abradix]

Eww... Clubsluts are by far the laziest fucks. Go pick up on the girl with the sweater vest. Even if shes not up for a swinger relationship they will go the extra mile. Currently with a girl who is into tossing salad; they're up to learn new tricks.

 

[vixin1027OH]

maby but it you go and look for the ones that hide in the shadows those are the ladys i was talking about. they are there couse they are missing something in life and think they will find it there. trust me im a wall flower in a club tho i love to dance.

 

[sweetlilslut]

Maybe he should try getting to know woman instead of assuming?

It's not exactly socially acceptable in "polite, normal society" for a girl to claim she likes sex, or to be promiscuos.
I don't know about all the other girls, but personally I don't go shouting to the rooftops that I'm a nympho.
I think it's probable there are a lot more of us out there than you think, just that they hide.

I agree, I would never just walk around saying "hey I love sex, cock, being fucked etc etc". I am just a normal girl who loves to express her sexuality when the time is right. I don't go to clubs or pubs (except for birthday celebrations for family or friends) and I don't dress like a slut but I'm not a prude by any means.

I believe a woman should dress where she is showing enough flesh to make a guy wonder what is under her clothing. I love to wear a halter neck dress for example, low cut enough to show the roundness of my breasts and nothing else, partially backless to show my hair falling down my back, knee length so when I cross my legs it shows just enough leg to make him wonder.

I've no real experience in being sexually active with a girl (and its not something i would not do) but I would imagine the gentleman's comments above me would be close to the truth.

I believe being a lady is being sexy.

 

[LilSlutsGuy]

A woman wants to be thought of as a lady first...so they are not going to just blurt out - hey I love to fuck like a slut.

You have to get to know them...find out what buttons to press...see how her mind works and I bet there's a lot of women with much more open minds than you'd think.

 

[Sylphae]

Eww... Clubsluts are by far the laziest fucks. Go pick up on the girl with the sweater vest. Even if shes not up for a swinger relationship they will go the extra mile. Currently with a girl who is into tossing salad; they're up to learn new tricks.

Ugh.. I never wear sweater vests
But I do often dress more conservatevly most of the time. And when I do go out, I'm usually a wall-flower.
I agree with Vixen. It is scary being open about your sexuality. You never know how someone is going to react. You could totaly freak a guy out.
I've done it before.
There really should be a book.

 

[vixin1027OH]

here here.....i have also scared guys away couse i was to up front about my sexuality. i like to look good as well. and even if i am a BBW that dont mean that i dont like to dress sexy from time to time i just ware my "sex" clothes under my other clothes. bra, thong, garter, fishnet stockings all black. now if you get under my clothes thats when you see just how sexualy i really am. and i dont let many guys or ladys under there. and yes i do want to be thought of as a lady. for to long my family has ruled my life. saying im a bitch and a slut and no good. im sorry but hey i would like to have fun. the wall flower is always the best couse you never know if under that long skirt they are really a little sex kittin. i put on the good daughter act for my family but you come to my house lol i dont ware shit around less its that time of the month.

 

[PandoraSpox]

I think it may be that it's much easier to express ourselves on the internet. It's sort of like being able to talk freely without being associated with yourself in real life. It's easier to just ignore bad responses that a female may get for open sexuality when they're doing it online.

 

[ExMachina]

Define open minded.

Well.... I've not a univocous definition of that...I would say girls that at least admit to like sex!

 

[ExMachina]

It's not exactly socially acceptable in "polite, normal society" for a girl to claim she likes sex, or to be promiscuos.
I don't know about all the other girls, but personally I don't go shouting to the rooftops that I'm a nympho.
I think it's probable there are a lot more of us out there than you think, just that they hide.

I live in the sexually repressed europe, but I had several sex experience as well. It seems to me anyway acceptable that when a woman would like to have a sex-without-strings night she could hook up a partner and drive him to the next motel for the night.... here it usually goes that at least one mounth of dating is required prior to even speak of sex.....
There is something I don't rationally understand: if women enjoy sex as much as I do, why it is so rare to meet a female friend capable to enjoy sex even in friendship, and not only in a love relationship?
I have lots of female friends, really lots (I used to work as a cocktail bartender on the summer vacation when I was at school, so I am very very catching up and open with people). But despite I have a lot of intimate female friends only with very few of them I succeeded in enjoying also sex, I mean, in situations like we are all boring at a party, so let's leave and go in the parking lot to enjoy a little together....I don't know if I explained well what I'd like to say....but anyway, why women are so complicated!!!!

 

[muffer4u]

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sweetlilslut, Please check your mail. I just sent a PM. PLEASE reply !!!

 

[illinifanmichae]

Define open minded.

Noun
Singular
open mind (Plural open minds)


1. A mind willing to consider new ideas.

Derived terms
open-minded (adjective)

 

[looking34205]

I was also reading an article in Men's Health the other day saying that as much time as we spend on IM, email, Blackberry etc are conversations are getting shallower and shallower with people. The study indicated that about 1/4 of people do not have a friend that they feel comfortable sharing personal information. I couldn't agree more. We do seem to have a lot of friends and connections on the surface, but in reality the personal info that we share is very limited.
This probably has something to do with women being open about their sexual experiences.

 

[vixin1027OH]

ok one reason females dont want to have one nighters is of Aids and other things. i had a scare a few years and thought for a long time that i had a STD come to find out when i was with child i didnt have one. but that was 8 years of sticking to few guys and nothing casule that i had to deal with. i had male friends that i would have like to help out with one nighter. but thanks to that scare i never did now i am to far from them to help.

 

[rob35can]

Interesting thread I must say.