why the sudden (shown) interest in underage girls?

[lobito]

Why is it that there are so many topics relating to having sex with underage girls?

Can't everything be answered in one thread? Does everyone feel that they have to have their own thread about the consequences of getting involved with one. (ok, ok, so I started yet another thread). That one thread can't possibly answer ALL the questions? From what I've seen, it was pretty cut and dried

I don't get the fascination with the subject, most likely because I have two sisters that are underage, 16 and 15. When someone else wants to know what the consequences are, I think about my sisters being in that situation, and I want to just beat the hell out of these guys who are WAY too old to even be thinking about them, or this subject at all.

I'll be the first to admit, if they don't, that my sisters could certainly pass for being over 21, but whether it the brother in me, or someone with common sense, that doesn't make me want to have any kind of sex with them.

Having sex with someone who is younger, or even MUCH younger than you isn't and shouldn't be a problem, providing that both are of age, and both consent. But is it really worth the trouble you would go through, and get into, just for a little sex?

 

[Gilly Bean]

You ask if it can all be answered in one thread, rather than in multiples... yet, you posted a new thread on the same topic yourself?


I actually was wondering the same thing myself.

 

[lobito]

Gilly, I'm SO sorry I can't ever please you with my comments.

Here's a suggestion though, fuck off. And I mean that in the nicest possible sense.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Gilly, I'm SO sorry I can't ever please you with my comments.

Here's a suggestion though, fuck off. And I mean that in the nicest possible sense.

Oh, grow up, I was teasing you, you moron. If you can't take a joke, lay off the speed.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Monkey see, monkey do.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

Gilly, I'm SO sorry I can't ever please you with my comments.

Here's a suggestion though, fuck off. And I mean that in the nicest possible sense.

I think that this comment was uncalled for...just my opinion

 

[lobito]

oh no, now I'm a drug taking moron. damn my luck.

Does that mean I've lost my Gentleman's status on this board? I ask a valid fucking quesion. I want a valid fucking answer.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Ok, you can insult me, but when I retort, you freak out.


I was wrong, what drug is it that makes people paranoid freaks?




Lobito, my original post was meant as a JOKE. Spell it out, and sound it out. JOKE. You then retorted telling me to fuck off. What, you expected me to sit on my ass and not respond?


If you would also read ALL of my first post, I agreed with you, stating that I had been wondering the same thing, as in, why there were about 5 threads all on the same topic. I joked about you posting yet another thread in responce, because it does seem to be the exact oppisite of what you are asking, do you not agree?

 

[cymbidia]

~settling in to watch from the sidelines... this has the potential to become a bitch-slapping contest the likes of which we haven't seen round here in a while~

 

[Rambling Rose]

I see Gilly's logic, lobito. Don' t you?

You did little to stifle the recent influx of those threads by adding a new one questioning the prolific posting of them.

Am I missing something here? Flame me and I will come across that screen and beat you with your own shoe! *grin*

 

[cymbidia]

Let 'em go for it, Rose; don't drag calm logic and reason into this thing. We haven't had a good free-for-all here in a long time. It'll be good for us all.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Can't everything be answered in one thread?

Having sex with someone who is younger, or even MUCH younger than you isn't and shouldn't be a problem, providing that both are of age, and both consent. But is it really worth the trouble you would go through, and get into, just for a little sex?

Haven't you noticed that we're a wee bit thread happy Lobito? That's why there are 32000 threads asking people to post who they like best, or what their favorite song is, or how come no one likes me, or hey guess what, none of us got laid this week (except maybe KM... that lingerie!)...

Granted, I would like to not see references to fucking kids when I log in, but they'll wither away soon, and we'll be back to the 1000th thread about anal sex or hair removal.

Speaking as one who has been in a relationship with very close age comparisons to the original poster... I was 17 and dating/sleeping with a guy that was 28. I see a couple differences in the relationship though, even though there was only one year difference in our ages. I was in college, no longer living at home, working full time, and knew what it was like to have adult responsibilities and worries. I knowingly entered into a relationship with him, we had a lot in common, and we enjoyed the same things. I looked older than I was, so we could go out to bars and dance/hangout/drink (an no, for you morality police, I'm not condoning underage drinking today). The girl in the original thread is still in high school, she still lives with her parents, and she's obviously not mature enough to be honest with them about this guy that she 'loves' because she told him they'd ahve to sneak around... it reeks of taking advantage of a child.

 

[Rambling Rose]

well OK cymbidia, if you say so!

*coming through the screen and flogging lobito with a stinky Keds sneaker*

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I had been wondering the same thing, as in, why there were about 5 threads all on the same topic.

Five threads? I have only seen three, two about the issue of whether it is okay to have sex with a 16 year old when you are 28, and mine which asks how to make sure a person avoids that kind of situation - which I figured was a different issue altogether.

I don't want to have sex with someone under 18 - hell before I met CK I didn't want to have sex with someone under 30 (based on the women I knew who were 30 or under).

But I have come to realize that age isn't necesarily an indicator of maturity, even when the person is barely 21. I kind of knew that already, but I never thought I would ever meet a 20 year old I like as much as I like CK - not to mention as mature as she is.

 

[lobito]

sorry to disappoint those who want a bitch slapping contest, because I won't get into one. (Anymore than we already have).

Gilly, I will admit that I took your post the wrong way, and if you allowed PM's, I would have PM'd you first, to make sure I was reading it right.

I responded bad, yes, and it's too bad that others here don't want anything at all to do with answering the question, with the (I think) exception of Pagancowgirl, and STG. But rather that they would rather see a fight, than a peaceful outcome.

I'm all for for a good debate, but I won't get into a fight just to please others.

Once again Gilly, I extend an appology to YOU, for misunderstanding that you were joking to me, and not being and asshole about the subject. Take it or leave it, but I would hope that you take it.

R

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: why the sudden (shown) interest in underage girls?

I see a couple differences in the relationship though, even though there was only one year difference in our ages. I was in college, no longer living at home, working full time, and knew what it was like to have adult responsibilities and worries. I knowingly entered into a relationship with him, we had a lot in common, and we enjoyed the same things.

Yes, as I pointed out elsewhere, experience, and how a person is shaped by it has a lot to do with maturity. A perso nstill in high school just usually doesn't have that real life experience to use the same way someone in their twenties has.

My ex-wife didn't really grow up (what little she did grow up) until after we separated and she took a job. She has said as much. She was about 23 at the time. My daughter, who has worked since she was 16, is a lot more mature - but then, she is a much stronger willed person than her mom too.