My girlfriend and I have been together for several years, and have a pretty good sex life. One thing I really enjoy is a good blowjob, however she will not let me finish in her mouth, nor anywhere near her face. She is totally repulsed by my cum being near her head/face/mouth. I am not forcing the issue on her, I just once would like to be able to finish in her mouth. I don't care if she spits or swallows, just as long as she is willing to have it in her mouth. I also have no problem imbibing her orgasmic fluids, in fact, it's quite a turn on. But she kills the mood when I am at the verge of climax and she gets that about-to-be-disgusted look on her face. Any thoughts on how I might be able to get her to at least try? Thanks a bunch.
Why the hang up?
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Well, my first question would be.....has she ever tasted any man's ejaculate? There could be a few reasons why she feels the way that she does. It might be that she just doesn't like the taste - and the taste is there regardless of whether you spit swallow. A way to possibly overcome this would be to consider your diet (many believe it effects the taste), and encourage her to taste a bit that is on your finger - or hers.
As to cumming on or near her face, many women are repulsed by this. It comes from several different sources. Oftentimes, in porn pics, it shows the woman in a most humiliated way. Also many of the pics where the guy is actually shooting on her, the woman's face is scrunched up as though she is actually disgusted. Finally, the idea that ejaculate comes from the tip of a man's penis, the same place where urine comes from, makes many women feel he is "marking his territory" - another form of humiliation.
I would start by talking to her, and not in the heat of the moment, and not in a way like you want her to "at least try it". Ask her what her objections are: taste, feeling of being humiliated, texture. If she has never tried tasting it, but has only "heard" things, then you can try to encourage her to try it, by taking just a bit on her finger.
If it is because of the reasons listed, I'm not sure how you can get her to at least try. These are pretty big barriers.
Good luck, and I hope some one can give you better advice!
As to cumming on or near her face, many women are repulsed by this. It comes from several different sources. Oftentimes, in porn pics, it shows the woman in a most humiliated way. Also many of the pics where the guy is actually shooting on her, the woman's face is scrunched up as though she is actually disgusted. Finally, the idea that ejaculate comes from the tip of a man's penis, the same place where urine comes from, makes many women feel he is "marking his territory" - another form of humiliation.
I would start by talking to her, and not in the heat of the moment, and not in a way like you want her to "at least try it". Ask her what her objections are: taste, feeling of being humiliated, texture. If she has never tried tasting it, but has only "heard" things, then you can try to encourage her to try it, by taking just a bit on her finger.
If it is because of the reasons listed, I'm not sure how you can get her to at least try. These are pretty big barriers.
Good luck, and I hope some one can give you better advice!
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Too many women have had horrible experiences with this issue early on. I agree with Chele, talk to her OUTSIDE the bedroom about this one. Stay away from things like "why won't you" and "you should" But ask if there is something YOU can do to make it easier for her.
Funny how some things seem like no big deal to some of us yet are huge sticking points for others. Respect her boundaries...but all relationships need to grow. The best way to encourage that growth is communication.
Good luck at least coming closer to the woman you love, even if in the end you don't come closer...heh...so to speak.
Funny how some things seem like no big deal to some of us yet are huge sticking points for others. Respect her boundaries...but all relationships need to grow. The best way to encourage that growth is communication.
Good luck at least coming closer to the woman you love, even if in the end you don't come closer...heh...so to speak.
