Lucifer_Carroll
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It was rather strange for me to realize a while back a fact of humanity that has rather puzzled me and which suprisingly seems to be rather widespread. A disease in fact of the mind that plauge so many. The disease that makes people refuse to be wrong.
I don't mean the initial fight or the fact that nobody likes realizing that what they had held true or supported was total bullshit. People getting into a bluster initially I can understand. But as a life-long introvert and scientist, I like to admit when the facts and evidence prove me to be wrong. I like to apologize and correct myself because otherwise I'm fooling nobody but myself.
I assumed that most people when backed into a corner, when confronted head-on reluctantly do the same. Perhaps there is a fight, but naively I thought that truth eventually does win out when there is no other choice or when it's at least not fundamental to a very fundamental piece of belief. Indeed I can understand someone avoiding a truth if it would shatter everything they have ever believed. I can understand that denial. But refusal to be wrong for its own sake, where one's own stated beliefs are subject and whimsy to change just to avoid being wrong or being on the wrong side in a fight. Inventing bizarre justifications and beliefs just to avoid having fucked up when one has or to somehow continue arguing when what one is defending or arguing has been readily proven to be absurd or inconsistent.
Naively I had thought that rare.
It was interesting to notice that it is hardly rare, it is hardly a novelty. It seems paramount and sometimes the reason behind the most sociopathic behavior. How people will twist themselves so that they weren't "wrong" or "in the wrong" is simply staggering. An ex-boyfriend of my SO famously seduced, nearly raping her at a party while intoxicated. He later blamed her entirely for the affair under his own volition when asked by his SO of the time to my SO's detriment and manipulated her to accept it. He let himself off the guilt for that affair because "my SO was the only one who seemed to still mark that affair so how could he have been in the wrong".
Politically of course there is always the obvious. The alliances to party lines that leave one defending beliefs that are not one's own in some people. The unfortunate actions where someone is defending something unconscienable because they can't be "wrong" to have voted for that party or to have been affiliated with the party for so many years.
In arguments in general, there is always those who argue corkscrews to avoid having to fess up to being caught out in total bullshit where they have clearly expressed an opinion unsupported by reality or where they have to argue something they claimed to be opposed to simply to gain an upperhand or ledge when an argument turns against them.
So my question is this? Why can't these people admit that they are wrong? Is it a pride thing? A cultural stigma that punishes those who change their minds with new evidence as being "weak" and their opinions now considered less worthwhile for having changed? Is it that foolish link between strength and the illusion of unconvincable certainty? Or the belief that stubborness lends itself its own accuracy as if validity is bought by refusing to face reality? If so where did all this start? When did it became endemic? Why can't people just grow up and say those three fucking words?
It baffles me because it seems to me a simple action. It is no matter for me to say "I am wrong" when I believe I am in the wrong or am innaccurate. I see no reason to defend folly. So what makes me different? Is it the fact that I am an eccentric right angle to "normal" society? Is it the flavor of my morality which respects and honors truth and honesty to myself? Is it the practice of regular introspection which often rejects the conforting delusions and lies people need to get themselves through the day or remain happy despite themselves? Or is it the fact that many people have in fact been replaced by mind-control robots and Exploding ducks and only a car chase with a handsome male lead and giggling love interest will put it all right?
Who knows? Who cares? And who has an opinion on the subject?
I don't mean the initial fight or the fact that nobody likes realizing that what they had held true or supported was total bullshit. People getting into a bluster initially I can understand. But as a life-long introvert and scientist, I like to admit when the facts and evidence prove me to be wrong. I like to apologize and correct myself because otherwise I'm fooling nobody but myself.
I assumed that most people when backed into a corner, when confronted head-on reluctantly do the same. Perhaps there is a fight, but naively I thought that truth eventually does win out when there is no other choice or when it's at least not fundamental to a very fundamental piece of belief. Indeed I can understand someone avoiding a truth if it would shatter everything they have ever believed. I can understand that denial. But refusal to be wrong for its own sake, where one's own stated beliefs are subject and whimsy to change just to avoid being wrong or being on the wrong side in a fight. Inventing bizarre justifications and beliefs just to avoid having fucked up when one has or to somehow continue arguing when what one is defending or arguing has been readily proven to be absurd or inconsistent.
Naively I had thought that rare.
It was interesting to notice that it is hardly rare, it is hardly a novelty. It seems paramount and sometimes the reason behind the most sociopathic behavior. How people will twist themselves so that they weren't "wrong" or "in the wrong" is simply staggering. An ex-boyfriend of my SO famously seduced, nearly raping her at a party while intoxicated. He later blamed her entirely for the affair under his own volition when asked by his SO of the time to my SO's detriment and manipulated her to accept it. He let himself off the guilt for that affair because "my SO was the only one who seemed to still mark that affair so how could he have been in the wrong".
Politically of course there is always the obvious. The alliances to party lines that leave one defending beliefs that are not one's own in some people. The unfortunate actions where someone is defending something unconscienable because they can't be "wrong" to have voted for that party or to have been affiliated with the party for so many years.
In arguments in general, there is always those who argue corkscrews to avoid having to fess up to being caught out in total bullshit where they have clearly expressed an opinion unsupported by reality or where they have to argue something they claimed to be opposed to simply to gain an upperhand or ledge when an argument turns against them.
So my question is this? Why can't these people admit that they are wrong? Is it a pride thing? A cultural stigma that punishes those who change their minds with new evidence as being "weak" and their opinions now considered less worthwhile for having changed? Is it that foolish link between strength and the illusion of unconvincable certainty? Or the belief that stubborness lends itself its own accuracy as if validity is bought by refusing to face reality? If so where did all this start? When did it became endemic? Why can't people just grow up and say those three fucking words?
It baffles me because it seems to me a simple action. It is no matter for me to say "I am wrong" when I believe I am in the wrong or am innaccurate. I see no reason to defend folly. So what makes me different? Is it the fact that I am an eccentric right angle to "normal" society? Is it the flavor of my morality which respects and honors truth and honesty to myself? Is it the practice of regular introspection which often rejects the conforting delusions and lies people need to get themselves through the day or remain happy despite themselves? Or is it the fact that many people have in fact been replaced by mind-control robots and Exploding ducks and only a car chase with a handsome male lead and giggling love interest will put it all right?
Who knows? Who cares? And who has an opinion on the subject?