why is this so hard

[ravegirl]

why on earth does it have to be soo damn hard to find someone to be with that does't just up and decide fuck it i quit?
this just seems to be some kind of obsurd joke that when you think you're happy and finally found the one then it all has to come crashing down on your head. it can't just be me that sees this, i'm not the only one out there that's lonely and looking for the right person am i? i mean, damn there's supposed to be so many people out there just trying soo hard to find love you'd think it wouldn't be this difficult or have this many damn games attached to it to be able to find it without putting yourself into emotional bankrupcy wouldn't ya.
i'm tired of game, i'm tired of immature men that run at the first sign of a problem that could easily be worked out if they would just put a little damn effort into it. life isn't handed to you on a damn plate, you hve to work at it and yes alot of times it's harder than hell, but in the end there's supposed to be something good and someone that loves you to share it with.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Sucks.

Sorry you're having such a hard time.

Keep looking; he's out there somewhere.

 

[hot__guy]

i'm tired of immature men that run at the first sign of a problem that could easily be worked out if they would just put a little damn effort into it. life isn't handed to you on a damn plate, you hve to work at it and yes alot of times it's harder than hell, but in the end there's supposed to be something good and someone that loves you to share it with.

well ... those weren't MEN in the first place ... !

 

[CodeDog]

Maybe you're trying to hard. Relax and let it happen.

 

[ravegirl]

well ... those weren't MEN in the first place ... !

that's what i've come to learn........and thank you

 

[hot__guy]

that's what i've come to learn........and thank you

YW .... but as one of the above said .... u need to relax a bit about the whole thing .... and just let it happen ...

PM me if u wanna talk a bit more

 

[Trxjw]

Ah don't sweat it. All these guys are doing is making the day you meet that special someone all the sweeter. You'll find em someday.

 

[thebig1]

Ravegirl,

you'll find that there are alot of good and decent men out there, yes they are hard to come by. But, they are out there none the less. It is unfortunate that you'll meet some not so perfct ones as well.

Believe me, it is just as hard for us guys to find the same thing in women as well! it is a part of life, and maturing good luck in your search.

 

[dave's thing]

well ... those weren't MEN in the first place ... !

have to agree there....... there's lots of them out there that give us a bad rap.
Worry not ravegirl, the right "he" wil come into sight soon.
Sorry to hear about the bummer though

Dave

 

[ken0000001]

Men

Men have been jerks since the dawn of civilization. Sorry you were hurt. I remember the feeling. It sucks.

Ken from Boston

 

[ClaudeBalls]

cuz most dudes are idiots....

I feel for yah *hugs*

 

[eurotripper]

been there

sent you a pm

 

[Bloodylance]

Ah yes, the rich tapestry of life. If we were all the same, this would be one hell of a boring place to be. Sadly, you seem to have discovered most, but sadly probably not all, of the people you just couldn't get on with. It will happen or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

Perhaps focus on the enjoyment of trying to find the right man? But I know oh too well how sad it can feel to realise the one who you thought it was, isn't actually.

I am of course placing myself at your complete disposal for shoulder to cry on duties, test driving activity and auditioning for "man of my dreams" position. I'm in the UK. You'll recognise me, I'm the 6ft tall white guy in London.

 

[My Immortal]

wow you sound like the female version of me. All my relationships seem to end a month after they start. My latest a girl at work who I thought was the real thing. Started going to the gym together, things progressed into long romantic walks, flowers, cards etc. One day I tell her I tell her I think I might be in love and she responds "I KNOW I love you". She moves in with me, things are great, we have a little tiff one day and the next she is moving out and nothing I can say or do to change her mind. I am thinking to myself WTF?

It's unbelieveable how some people can pop lies and falsities out of their mouths w/o even giving it a second thought. I have always been totally honest with my feelings yet it always fucks me over. I see guys who treat girls like shit and they stay with them, yet the smallest conflict in any of my relationships is grounds for termination, despite the fact that I do everything in my power to show them romance, attention and love. I don't get it, and I'm sick of trying to figure it out by now.

GL and if you ever want someone to talk to who KNOWS what you're going thru I am certainly here for ya.

 

[blizzmf]

why on earth does it have to be soo damn hard to find someone to be with that does't just up and decide fuck it i quit?
this just seems to be some kind of obsurd joke that when you think you're happy and finally found the one then it all has to come crashing down on your head. it can't just be me that sees this, i'm not the only one out there that's lonely and looking for the right person am i? i mean, damn there's supposed to be so many people out there just trying soo hard to find love you'd think it wouldn't be this difficult or have this many damn games attached to it to be able to find it without putting yourself into emotional bankrupcy wouldn't ya.
i'm tired of game, i'm tired of immature men that run at the first sign of a problem that could easily be worked out if they would just put a little damn effort into it. life isn't handed to you on a damn plate, you hve to work at it and yes alot of times it's harder than hell, but in the end there's supposed to be something good and someone that loves you to share it with.

You're not alone...I have seen many ladies that have posted the same thing in other threads. I think patience will be hard to suggest, but it worked for me. Hope you find the man you deserve..

 

[lushlucid]

i hear ya
*hugs*

 

[EndowedTigerman]

love takes time...but you can't give up!!!!

 

[Needfull Thing]

I have found that largely my biggest problem is that I look for the wrong type of woman. Maybe this is a universal problem for all of us, that we are attracted to the wrong kind of person. I usually look for girls who are WAY THE HECK outa my league. Really, I know intellectually that unless a guy is all-that he should not attempt to win the beautiful girl. He'll just get destroyed in the end.

And of course it goes without saying that a person with little experience should not be with someone who's had a whole lot. It's great in the stories but in RL there are too many conflicts. A person who wants monogamy should not try to be with someone who needs many lovers. Someone kind and gentle should not be with an aggressive, or cold person. But what do we all look for?

*shakes head* I would say to anyone else that you should try the type of guy that you would normally never go out with and see what happens. But it sounds like you've had so much pain that right now you just need to take a break and be yourself. Friends is good, right? At any rate, good luck and as many have said if you need to talk, I am here, with no strings attached. I want nothing from you. Time does lessen the ache dear. Trust me.

 

[ravegirl]

you should try the type of guy that you would normally never go out with and see what happensQUOTE]


sadly this is what i did, and that didn't work out very well at all this time









but like soo many say , wht doesn't kill you makes you stronger

 

[ravegirl]

wow, thanks everyone for your support. i was just extremely depressed and upset over what turns out when i think about it enough to be something that wasn't right for me anyway. looking back it was 2 years of hard times with little or no good to soften them, better off alone than hurt all the time........


hugs to all that need them also, we're in this together!

 

[KZHF]

Patience is what young men lack, they develope it over time, unfortunately it can be difficult. If you keep trying I know you will find one that is willing to listen, laugh and support you. Hope it all works out dear!
Kisses Steve

 

[snakebyte]

why on earth does it have to be soo damn hard to find someone to be with that does't just up and decide fuck it i quit?
this just seems to be some kind of obsurd joke that when you think you're happy and finally found the one then it all has to come crashing down on your head. it can't just be me that sees this, i'm not the only one out there that's lonely and looking for the right person am i? i mean, damn there's supposed to be so many people out there just trying soo hard to find love you'd think it wouldn't be this difficult or have this many damn games attached to it to be able to find it without putting yourself into emotional bankrupcy wouldn't ya.
i'm tired of game, i'm tired of immature men that run at the first sign of a problem that could easily be worked out if they would just put a little damn effort into it. life isn't handed to you on a damn plate, you hve to work at it and yes alot of times it's harder than hell, but in the end there's supposed to be something good and someone that loves you to share it with.

Sorry that you're having such a hard time. The hardest thing in life is to be near the one you want to be with and not be with them. I sympathize with you. I know the feeling all to well.

 

[subGenius]

but like soo many say , wht doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Really? I say if it doesn't kill me on the first hit, it'd best start running.