Why is it...

[DarlingBri]

Why is that when I turn my hand to writing erotica, the only thing that comes out of my pen is the exact type of erotica I hate to read?

I have no idea if it's good, bad, or indifferent. I just know I don't like it.

Anyone else have a mis-matched muse, or is it just me?

--Bri

 

[Ulyssa]

Feelings and Characters

Don't be so hard on yourself, Darlingbri. Just remember even thought the human race has been made with "interlocking parts" biologically and the act(s) that we write about seem to be essentially the same--there's an enormous difference in people. Your characters and their feelings are as unique as any two people can be.

Besides lust what does she like about him? Sure he thinks he can use her to carve another notch in his love gun, but is she just meat to him?

When you like the people you put down on paper, then you can be sure that they'll enjoy interacting with each other. Even if that means that they may have to kill each other later--one of them will enjoy it.

Use your feelings to propel your story. I was told by a sixty year old crotchety male editor that if I wasn't interested in what happens to my characters how on earth could anyone else be? You can't fool anyone if you can't convince yourself.

 

[DarlingBri]

No, that's the problem...

It's all very... atmospheric, romantic characters, tender, emotional, etc.

I hate *reading* stuff like that! So why is that what I'm writing?

I'm more interested in why that would happen than concerned about how to fix it, I guess. It just seems odd that what one writes wouldn't be what one prefers to read.

Thanks for replying

 

[nitengale]

Maybe you are seeking those things, and it's coming out in your writings?? Admittance of desires through the pen?

I know my writings seem to take on my mood...

I dunno.

 

[Ulyssa]

I wonder if you're missing the point...
You can have gritty, selfish characters and still like them. You can get emotional without adding atmosphere if that's what you want. Don't be afraid to write something "Bad." Write it different as an exercise and then see what happens.

 

[doctor_insanus]

I wonder if you're missing the point...
You can have gritty, selfish characters and still like them. You can get emotional without adding atmosphere if that's what you want. Don't be afraid to write something "Bad." Write it different as an exercise and then see what happens.

Yes!

I usually write my stories from the perspective of the "good guys," but my favorites have been those written as the bad guy. For some reason, it's just more fun being an arrogant prick!

I mean... writing about arrogant pricks!

 

[Weird Harold]

Re: No, that's the problem...

I hate *reading* stuff like that! So why is that what I'm writing?

I'm more interested in why that would happen than concerned about how to fix it, I guess. It just seems odd that what one writes wouldn't be what one prefers to read.

Could it be that you write the kind of stuff you don't like, because you subconsciously think that you should like it and don't only because it's poorly written by others?

I know that some of the ideas that I have are a reaction to things that others don't wirtie well. For example, I wrote a story that is all dialogue yet has no dialogue tags just to prove (to myself) that dialogue tags aren't needed. (It didn't measure up to the quality of others stories on Lit, so It isn't posted here though.)

 

[DarlingBri]

Re: Re: No, that's the problem...

Could it be that you write the kind of stuff you don't like, because you subconsciously think that you should like it and don't only because it's poorly written by others?

Invert that!

Actually, now that you've made me think about it that way, it's probably far more likely that I don't write the kinds of stories I like to read because I subconciously think I shouldn't like them in the first place.

Nice girls don't read non-consent, BDSM, or Incest stories. Didn't you mother ever tell you? <wink>

Thank you, WH, I'll be pondering that.

 

[vgrey]

Facing the fear

When I first started writing erotica, I decided that I had to really try and shock myself. If I wasn't going to make myself blush, then I couldn't see how I would make anyone else respond. I just wanted my story to be as nasty as I could make it.
I think of my relationship to the stories that I write as that of an actor to a character. The story comes from me, but that doesn't mean that the story IS me. In the act of writing I deliberatly attempt to uncensor myself and go to all of those places that are outside of actual experience. The point, for me, is to get practiced at not saying no to myself as a writer. I want to learn to let the characters and story go wherever they need to go. Once I start to achieve that, then I find the story almost writes itself, as if it were already waiting around somewhere in the back of my head.
VG

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Re: Re: No, that's the problem...

Nice girls don't read non-consent, BDSM, or Incest stories. Didn't you mother ever tell you? <wink>

Yeh? This true?

I'm pretty sure that nice girls not only read this stuff but they do it, too, and then they write about it. ~wink~

And, besides, your mother's not looking. You know you want to say all those nasty words and write about people doing really kinky stuff. You know you want those images in your brain and curling down into your body when you go to sleep at night. C'mon over to the dark side, babes...