Why is it that some think that EVERYONE bases their desire for others on.......

[Starfish]

WEIGHT????


Why the fuck is it so significant?

Why in your shriveled up brain do you think that being heavy mean that one looses all sexual attractiveness, prowess, desireablity, worthiness, performance excellence, appeal, desideratum, sexual avarice, eros, or allurement?



Not everyone is so superficial.

I know I'd rather fuck a sweet, sexy, fat person, than a cold hearted peice of shit with no 'face' or soul.

 

[Caressa]

because people are superficial and refuse to look past the surface...and it's sad because they then miss out on some pretty awesome people.

It's not always easy, but I'd rather these people make their petty and superficial judgements and move on...I certainly don't need them (of course it's easy to say that after time)


ummm...goodness I hope I'm making sense...

 

[Debbie]

To me weight is not an issue when it comes to finding love.
Or desiring someone sexually.
It is the person who counts not what they weigh.
Someone who is sexy in my opinion is Dawn French. That woman has a magnificent attitude.

Hear hear Caressa!


Quote,"because people are superficial and refuse to look past the surface...and it's sad because they then miss out on some pretty awesome people."

 

[MunchinMark]

Because deep down many people believe that everyone does or should think exactly like they do. They are wrong but that is what they believe.

 

[perks]

I'm so happy you love my fat ass.

 

[Starfish]

This was spurred on by the shit troll harassing Rubyfruit. Even though she is going to ignore it, it will still hurt, and that is unfucking fair and rude.

The thing is.... Not everyone moves on..... some stick around and think it is their fucking duty to slander others and put them in the position to make them feel like shit for who they are.


I am just furious about an incident here at lit or two..... or 1000.

Fuck.


later on kids, and bless all you good folk.

 

[Debbie]

Bless you Starfish, you have a great heart.

 

[wkdclwn]

well

Weight means nothing to me. If i can not get along with you then it does not matter what u look like or what u weigh. My humble opinion for what it is worth. Take care. Later.

 

[Wizard]

Not everyone is so superficial.

I know I'd rather fuck a sweet, sexy, fat person, than a cold hearted peice of shit with no 'face' or soul.




I agree with that .....................I have been with my wife when she was skinny and they larger than she wanted to be and then she wanted to be skinny again and did it for herself .............Not me Not anyone but her......


When she was big I didn't love her any less..................I just love her no matter what weight she is or may be.............

 

[riff]

I was just talking to my students about this today.

If I got into a wreck and was severly burned all over my body- my skin might be scarred but I would be the same person.

 

[Ice Cold]

I'm with them. It's who the person is, not how much they weigh. You can be skinny with big tits, but if you don't have the personality within you can just keep on walking. Personality is way up higher on the list than looks ever will be.

 

[Caressa]

My own personal truth

I have spent my entire life being chubby, voluptous, overweight, cuddly, imperfect....whatever term you like....

And the thing I've had to deal the most with is being judged on my appearance....either because people look at me and see someone of color (because I'm half-black) or see my body and they make snap decisions. It's hard to think people do this and it's hard to deal with.

And I've spent alot of time realizing that the only person that I really want to make love me is ME...if I don't love me then how can I expect other people to. I have to love me for am....and in return that helps me to see past the surface of other people.

In my short lifetime I've had a lot of people treat me like SHIT...and as much as it hurt then and I found myself doing things to try and win their approval...I realize now how much stronger it 's made me and that I don't need them...but all that comes with time and age I suppose.

I'm not sure what crap this troll was saying to Ruby...but, Starfish, it makes me smile to see you get all upset about it...it's always nice to know someone is looking out for you.




Ugh...so manyh thoughts running through my head tonight and I'm just not so sure I'm being coherent...

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Madison Avenue Syndrome...

makes us believe that we have to look a certain way. We all fall into it.

When traveling in Europe this summer I went to so many museums and such. The drawings throughout time of what beauty represented to them. A full figured woman. As time progressed towards contemporary times a boyish looking woman.

Around the time Ally McBeal came on to television it was the lollipop head syndrome. Your head should be bigger than the rest of your body. It is simply unhealthy to maintain such a small percentage of weight and to deprive your body of nutrients it needs.

My ideal line is I am not American skinny. In Europe I was accepted as the norm and a beautiful woman.

I have fallen many a times over my weight. I was happy that even though I was not that confident in my body image to pose nude for Perky Baby to draw me. Perky was right the curves add to the drawing.

Another thing I have been reading in a place that tranvestites work in. Those women are divas. Several of us natural woman look at them and say dang I wish I had their hips or legs. Well, you know what I am a woman. I am supposed to have hips and an ass. By the way Perky you do have a wonderful round ass. Wink.

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16 in her later years. With her attitude she attracted so many men. Same with Mae West. look at Janice Joplin she had men banging at her door.

I also know a close friend of mine in UK a wonderful man and friend took me in after I was dumped in Paris. He is overweight but I did not notice it when we met. What I noticed was his attitude towards himself. He reminded me of a couple of rappers from MTV size without the attitude. Because he was sullen at times about his size he drew attention to it. If he just got cocky with an attitude he would be one handsome dude. He would allow woman to see that he possesses qualities in a man that we all desire.

Yes weight does come into play. It is society. I am guilty of it, but I know if I meet a person with their head held high and a smile I only notice their being. It are those who slump that I notice. I know I can blend in with a crowd at times feeling slumpish. I also know at times with my weight and all I can draw a lot of sexual attention.

All I see on these boards are a lot of creative, opinionated, witty, and beautiful people. If we can get past the stereotypes in real life we can see that in people in real life.

Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person likes another will not and vice versa. So fuck it to those who are not attracted to you. Looks do fade and do you want some ass that will leave you because you change. I think not.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Rubyfruit]

This was spurred on by the shit troll harassing Rubyfruit. Even though she is going to ignore it, it will still hurt, and that is unfucking fair and rude.

I love you Fishie.

I'm ashamed to admit it, but it did hurt. I cried.

I have not subscribed to threads for weeks now, but old ones pop up occassionally that I was subscribed to and I get an email notification. The thread you are talking about was one of those.

I had just gotten through fighting with my husband. We had a computer problem that took two hours to not fix and we were very tense. Money is tight and we are attempting to start up a business for me to make some money in the evenings. But we can't get through the software glitches.

I came into the office and opened up lit. That message was the first thing I saw.

My heart sank into my stomach. I know it shouldn't matter and it all really boils down to how we feel about ourselves anyway, I suppose.

Yes, I'm fat. However, my husband would fuck me almost every night if I wanted to. He finds me very desireable.

But that is besides the point, I suppose.

I am a very confident person. I feel pretty good about myself, even though I am not perfect. Maybe that's why my troll(s) want to take me down a notch. I don't know.

I remember watching cheer leader try outs in Jr. High. Somebody made a loud rude comment about one of the girls trying out. A very popular girl. A beautiful girl. Blonde, blue-eyed and thin. I watched as her face crumbled against the insult flung at her. I learned then that nobody is immune to stinging words.

Nobody.

 

[riff]

Chrarisma means so much more than anything else.

 

[sigh]

hugs to you, ruby...you truly are beautiful

 

[Tyrael]

I know this means squat coming from me, but if that av is you I don't think you should let any stranger tell you how to feel. I've found that pic to be quite.....enchanting.

Kinda like the saying "...the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind."

 

[Dhalgren]

K..?

Your business…?
I wanna help!

Write me, talk to me…

You…?
You are so very beautiful..it’s bound to bother people who feel very hurt and alone. I only feel sorry for such lost and bitter souls. Something about that energy that really tries to fester in people filled with Cosmic light.

 

[alexandraaah]

I think you're hot.

 

[scylis]

there's a certain weight limit i've put on women i'll go after. wait, before you get all pissy, it's got a very good reason:

i'm only 115 lbs myself and i'm a skinny little bitch. fuck beans, anyone over a certain weight would crush me with their love! litterally!



it sucks!!










remember, the greater the cusion, the sweeter the pushin'.

rock and roll!!!!!

*charges off in the opposite direction of the stage*

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I don't judge people on thier weight , looks , sexual orientation, or anything along those lines. I don't think I am that shallow that I would judge someone simply on what they weigh. It has never been an issue with me, I am friends with a person because I enjoy their personality and I enjoy their company.

Ruby... you know you are sweet, wonderful, & beautiful regardless... some people just aim to hurt others with thier words because they don't have anything better to do ... its childlish and rude.

So you just smile ...

 

[Jimi]

I love you Fishie.

I'm ashamed to admit it, but it did hurt. I cried.

I have not subscribed to threads for weeks now, but old ones pop up occassionally that I was subscribed to and I get an email notification. The thread you are talking about was one of those.

I had just gotten through fighting with my husband. We had a computer problem that took two hours to not fix and we were very tense. Money is tight and we are attempting to start up a business for me to make some money in the evenings. But we can't get through the software glitches.

I came into the office and opened up lit. That message was the first thing I saw.

My heart sank into my stomach. I know it shouldn't matter and it all really boils down to how we feel about ourselves anyway, I suppose.

Yes, I'm fat. However, my husband would fuck me almost every night if I wanted to. He finds me very desireable.

But that is besides the point, I suppose.

I am a very confident person. I feel pretty good about myself, even though I am not perfect. ....

I learned then that nobody is immune to stinging words.

Nobody.

Sorry if I offend the Calistas of this world, but being married to a truly voluptuous 16+ gal for over 20 years, I prefer women with substance both cerebral and corporeal!

Ruby - the latest AV gets me REALLY hot... Were they done by a pro - photos are exceptionally "clean"?

Not that a few "dirty" ones wouldn't be welcome!

You are an extremely attractive young woman.

.

 

[JazzManJim]

starfish...I've been there my whole life. I've always been the fat smart geeky kid and it's always been my weight which had been the big thing against me in dating.

I can't tell you why folks are the way they are. All I can tell you is that I've dealt with it for a lot of years and I just don't let it bother me nowadays.

I will say that, to my own observations, in talking to lots of men and women about the oppsite sex that it's a hell of a lot tougher for a guy who is overweight to get sex than it is for an overweight woman. I don't know why that is, but it's been my observation over many years. Maybe we guys don't look at it as much. Maybe we're just damned horndogs overall. But we guys can also be the more callous and biting and hurtful, perhaps for the same reasons.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Ruby did you notice

that your picture looks very similiar to Dhalgren. Very sexy indeed. This is coming from a straight female here.

What Tyrael wrote, "I don't think you should let any stranger tell you how to feel. I've found that pic to be quite.....enchanting."

Peace,
Tulip

 

[JennyOmanHill]

BIG is BEAUTIFUL!

I guess I might actually be the "reverse": I prefer BIG people to thin people! I LOVE bellies, and enjoy when there is plenty to hold onto!!

As long as a person acts comfortable in their bodies, it doesn't matter to be how big (or small) they are!