Why is it that....? (man looking for cyber)

[JoopKnoop]

Hi all!

Why is it that finding a cyber partner is so difficult nowadays? When you go out on the internet to have a naughty chat, you find 70% of the people on-line to be male and 28% of the rest being guys pretending that they are female. It seems that the girls and women out there are either not on the internet or hiding.
I understand that showing that you're a girlie make people invade you with requests and PM's, but there must be some girls out there that are open for naughty chats, naughty e-mails, exchange of pictures and videos and webcamming?
Or am i dreaming here?

Well, let's make this a personal ad then. If there are any girls out there that are looking for naughty chats with a regular early 40'er that doesn't want to get married to you, but does want to see you, feel you (on the screen) and see you smile, you know where i am. Send me a mail, PM me, whatever is convenient and i'll give you my IM so you can add me.

If not, i'll continue dreaming....

Have fun and a big for the one who replies!

Dick.

 

[Indulgence]

That be it on the bulls-eye with that dart matey. The women have all secretly left and joined some other "discussion board". I looked under www..lesbianotica.com but didn't find them there. It said "Cannot Find Server"... that's because all the servers are with the women bringing them drinks, designer dildos, and their monthly alimony checks from the mailbox outside. Explains why we can't even get a glass of water here, let alone a cyber-girl. Perhaps I should get a sex-change so I can go join the fun? Nah... my fiance likes my cock too much... think I better keep it for now.

 

[JoopKnoop]

But they are out there. I'm sure of it. They are just hiding from us. Are we and or are they just teasing us?

 

[vanelane]

We're just teasing you. You've found us out.

 

[HappyMisha]

It's just as tough for women....

I'm sorry to say but some men are no piece of cake!

Although, to be honest, I don't trade pics or do webcam, I'm always looking for interesting partners to cyber...

Syonara!

 

[d1no]

I may be completely off the mark here, but...

... the women are all out there, you just have to know how to find them.

You have to understand that while men are happy (even proud) to admit that they are looking for sexual satisfaction, a woman will rarely admit to that up front.. It's just not like them

I spend a lot of time traveling on business, and usually end up relaxing with online chat (voice or text)... I know at least a dozen women who all started out with a very clear 'if it's cyber you are looking for, then I am the wrong person' attitude, but were happily flirting after the second of third time... and I am talking Japanes, Taiwanese, Argentinian women, not just English speaking American/European women, so it's a fairly universal atitude.

There isn't another, parallel Internet where all the sexy women hang out...!

Just like in real life (gasp!), you have to first give them a reason to talk to you, to open up to you, and to trust you... If you approach women with a "Hi! do you want to cyber with me?" line, that is just not going to work. (excepting, of course, the ladies that you need a credit card to chat with! LOL)

 

[chrismiss]

... the women are all out there, you just have to know how to find them.

You have to understand that while men are happy (even proud) to admit that they are looking for sexual satisfaction, a woman will rarely admit to that up front.. It's just not like them

I spend a lot of time traveling on business, and usually end up relaxing with online chat (voice or text)... I know at least a dozen women who all started out with a very clear 'if it's cyber you are looking for, then I am the wrong person' attitude, but were happily flirting after the second of third time... and I am talking Japanes, Taiwanese, Argentinian women, not just English speaking American/European women, so it's a fairly universal atitude.

There isn't another, parallel Internet where all the sexy women hang out...!

Just like in real life (gasp!), you have to first give them a reason to talk to you, to open up to you, and to trust you... If you approach women with a "Hi! do you want to cyber with me?" line, that is just not going to work. (excepting, of course, the ladies that you need a credit card to chat with! LOL)

Very astute observation d1no...going full blast at a women in the first 2 minutes is guaranteed to get you nowhere. It takes time and patience, on both sides. I like to slowly learn something about the person whom I'm chatting with before opening up a bit more. And I do open up...it just takes patience and understanding!

 

[Darkknight2010]

... the women are all out there, you just have to know how to find them.

You have to understand that while men are happy (even proud) to admit that they are looking for sexual satisfaction, a woman will rarely admit to that up front.. It's just not like them

I spend a lot of time traveling on business, and usually end up relaxing with online chat (voice or text)... I know at least a dozen women who all started out with a very clear 'if it's cyber you are looking for, then I am the wrong person' attitude, but were happily flirting after the second of third time... and I am talking Japanes, Taiwanese, Argentinian women, not just English speaking American/European women, so it's a fairly universal atitude.

There isn't another, parallel Internet where all the sexy women hang out...!

Just like in real life (gasp!), you have to first give them a reason to talk to you, to open up to you, and to trust you... If you approach women with a "Hi! do you want to cyber with me?" line, that is just not going to work. (excepting, of course, the ladies that you need a credit card to chat with! LOL)

Bingo. It take a LOT of time... and honestly, you gotta NOT jump on a woman and say 'Hey I got a big dick, wanna fuck?' And the scary part is a LOT of women on lit would say that has happened to them.

I've found my partners by just talking. You hang out on the threads, see what threads look interesting, who has a profile that catches your eye, and you talk... REALLY talk; how are you, where are you from, oh went to school there, wow I loved that movie.

It's like flirting in real life; you gotta be worldly, you gotta be able to keep a conversation going on a LOT of topics... and frankly the other person has to be interested. I've tried to just talk to people, send a quick 'hi', and get the WORST monosyllabic answers! UUUUGGGGGHHHHH!

Yes, it's a lot of work. Yes, it takes time. Yes, you will find yourself feeling like you are as charming as fish-bait at times. BUT you will also find a LOT of cool people... and some very sexy people.

Personally, I do NOT want to just cum with someone. If that were the case I would just pop in a porn tape and enjoy 3 minutes of satisfaction. Cyber/phone is about a real connection; you enjoy talkign with the person, you have stuff in common, THEY like talking with YOU. It makes it fun. No, it's NOT a cyber romance. It's two people who enjoy a heated moment... but it CAN be romantic if everything clicks.

Basically it takes work. It's not easy, it can be frustrating... but when it's on... it's reeeeeeeeeally on.

Good luck.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Very astute observation d1no...going full blast at a women in the first 2 minutes is guaranteed to get you nowhere. It takes time and patience, on both sides. I like to slowly learn something about the person whom I'm chatting with before opening up a bit more. And I do open up...it just takes patience and understanding!

OMG, I honestly can't imagine what it's like being a woman on lit. You put a pic up, and then suddenly you get a bagillion pms, 3/4 of them giving penis size.

When I hung-out in the chat rooms rather then the boards we had a joke about having your screen becoming a wall of yellow. Any PMs were indicated by a dialog line that was yellow. Well women literally would walk into the room, say 'hi', and then suddenly their entire window was FILLED with PMs. Doh!

 

[Guttergoddess]

precisely...I get so many pm's each day that are "i'd love to fuck you" be real guys, if you walked up to a woman in a bar with that line...you'd get a drink in your face, at the minimum. I like to know the man (or woman) before I get down and dirty with them. I don't do one night stands in RL, I'm not gonna do it online.

 

[Lyrical Fool]

You don't even have to post a picture to get the penis-size PM's.

Or be particularly nice, for that matter.

 

[Laughing Tiger]

Years ago, a friend of mine and I would start a room called "Cyber Classroom 101" in Lit Chat, and offer advice and counseling to everyone who wandered in. We even tried matchmaking for people who seemed compatible.

But the two main rules we tried to get men to understand were:

1. Especially on a sex chat site, there are more men than women, so the women can afford to be picky. As a man, you're going to have to work harder, and if you don't make the effort, all you're going to find are men who are so desperate they're posing as women.

2. You cannot bounce into a room and say any of the following:
+ Wanna cyber?
+ Any ladies?
+ Who wants a taste of my 14-incher?

There's been some great advice already posted on this thread, so to the OP, I say Good luck and hang in there.

And by the way, Lyrical Fool, may I say that your signature line is looking particularly lovely today.

 

[Spins]

I just wanted to add something I have found helps me.

I always feel bad about sending ladies of Lit PM's that are uninvited because I know they get dozens each day.

What I have found, though, is if you start the conversation on a thread, flirting with them, chatting with them, etc, that when you do send a PM they are much more willing to give you a chance.

Of course, a lot of times your tries to get them to flirt on a thread, or whatever, go unanswered. You can either panic, and start addressing them directly, possibly scaring them off, or you can try and be patient and hope that they get the hint.

If they don't get the hint, start it up again with another lady. Eventually you'll find someone who is willing to play, and more importantly, wants to play with you.

Just keep in mind if they weren't looking for some kind of sexual situation, whether it be innocent flirting, or full on webcamming, they wouldn't be on this site posting.

 

[Guttergoddess]

Spins has a good point. I find it irritating to get pm's from guys who have no posts on Lit. 1. They tend to be the ones who ask if they can fuck me right off the bat. 2. I have no chance of wandering their posts to see what kind of person they are. If I've flirted with you on a thread...you will most likely get an answer back on a PM, even if it's a simple no thanks.

 

[Plasmaball]

Spins has a good point. I find it irritating to get pm's from guys who have no posts on Lit. 1. They tend to be the ones who ask if they can fuck me right off the bat. 2. I have no chance of wandering their posts to see what kind of person they are. If I've flirted with you on a thread...you will most likely get an answer back on a PM, even if it's a simple no thanks.

same can be said for women with one or two posts. Not sure if they are guys

 

[Guttergoddess]

LOL...what, you don't think there are women eager to get off?

 

[Plasmaball]

LOL...what, you don't think there are women eager to get off?

I do, but there is a lot of guys who make alts

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

precisely...I get so many pm's each day that are "i'd love to fuck you" be real guys, if you walked up to a woman in a bar with that line...you'd get a drink in your face, at the minimum.

LOL, truer words were never said!

 

[Spins]

LOL, truer words were never said!

Actually I have seen that line work several times. Never for me, but still...

 

[Lord Seregil]

I enjoy masturbating in front of others and do it whenever I have the chance on my webcam. My wife likes to watch me masturbate but I still love the thrill of doing it on the cam for strangers. Yes, the vast majority of those strangers are men but it's still fun. And sometimes, I strike gold

I'm blessed to have a short stature but a large penis. My stature makes my penis look even bigger than it is so I typically generate quite a few comments when I'm jacking off on cam. As the OP mentioned, most are from men. The ones claiming to be women are usually men as well. The dead giveaway is that they talk like men trying to be women.

"I'd love to have that huge cock pounding my cunt." Sure ya would, George.

"I want to stick my tongue up your ass while you jack that big dick off on my face." No thanks, Stanley.

Recently, with about 15 people viewing me, I got this message "You're really big. Thanks for letting me watch."

I responded to that one with a simple "Thanks! Glad you're enjoying it."

A second later, an invitation to view this person's cam popped up. Nothing new, of course, so I accepted assuming I'd see another cock pointing back at me.

On my screen I saw a beautiful older woman with large, natural boobs, perfect skin, and a smile to end all smiles. She was naked but was covering her boobs with her arms. We started chatting a bit and she asked to see my face. I obliged and we continued talking while I masturbated. Eventually, she masturbated with me with one hand on her pussy and the other tugging her nipples. She never gave me a good view of her pussy but just watching her touch herself was wonderful.

She brought herself to a shuddering orgasm while I followed up with a massive cum shot. She logged off and I've never seen her online again The next day, I got an email from her saying, simply "great cock, great cum, great fun. thanks."

 

[krazeekat]

precisely...I get so many pm's each day that are "i'd love to fuck you" be real guys, if you walked up to a woman in a bar with that line...you'd get a drink in your face, at the minimum. I like to know the man (or woman) before I get down and dirty with them. I don't do one night stands in RL, I'm not gonna do it online.

Wait a bloody second here, you get that all the time?

*kicks pm box*

This thing I have must be malfunctioning or it's on a self-censored mode

 

[PizzerPepper]

...moving on...

 

[krazeekat]

Explains why you don't answer PM's

Oh but I do ... it must be lost in the mail

 

[Lyrical Fool]

Cyber Compliments

. You cannot bounce into a room and say any of the following:
+ Wanna cyber?
+ Any ladies?
+ Who wants a taste of my 14-incher?

There's been some great advice already posted on this thread, so to the OP, I say Good luck and hang in there.

And by the way, Lyrical Fool, may I say that your signature line is looking particularly lovely today.

*swoon*

Is this the part where I convince you that I'm TOTALLY susceptible to flattery and ask you for a taste of your 14-incher?

In addition to that, I'm newly 18, a virgin, blonde, and I work out a lot.

Oh, and I have swampland in Arizona for sale.

Interested?

 

[sxylilslut]

<snip> The dead giveaway is that they talk like men trying to be women.

"I'd love to have that huge cock pounding my cunt." Sure ya would, George.

"I want to stick my tongue up your ass while you jack that big dick off on my face." No thanks, Stanley.

Recently, with about 15 people viewing me, I got this message "You're really big. Thanks for letting me watch."

<snip>

I just wanted to say that if I'm really horny, I might just say something like that so maybe George is really Jessica. And sometimes I will want to just cum with a perfect stranger on the other side of the box/line. Not all the time, but sometimes; unfortunately, almost everytime I am really horny and want to get off with a stranger via IM, I don't find what I'm looking for so glad y ou did found it, even if it was a one timer