Why is adultery considered worse than divorce?

[renard_ruse]

I don't think anything is worse than divorce. Even axe murder or nuclear terrorism is not as harmful to children or families. Yet, modern people see nothing wrong with it. On the other hand, majorities think "cheating" is wrong.

How is a meaningless f*ck worse than throwing away a lifelong commitment that devastates children and rips families apart?

Obviously in an ideal world nobody would commit adultery, the ideal is faithfulness, but in terms of magnitude of harm, it makes no rational sense to justify divorce just because somebody bonks someone else.

 

[hashtag45]

You've been on a porn board with a high-school-ish mentality for a bit too long, renard.

There's often more to a divorce than simple infidelity.
And even though single-parent families are not ideal, they're sometimes better for their kids' health, than those in which parents fight like cats and dogs.

 

[Debbie]

How is a meaningless f*ck worse than throwing away a lifelong commitment that devastates children and rips families apart?

For me it's not just about the possibility of my husband fucking around - its about the possibility of getting an std or worse.

 

[Ishmael]

Adultery is betrayal, divorce is a parting of the ways.

Ishmael

 

[hashtag45]

I was never married so I can't pretend that I know what I'm talking about.

But what I thought was interesting was that almost none of my divorced acquaintances listed infidelity as their primary motive for a divorce. Rather as something that added to their final decision.

 

[Lovecutmuscles]

As someone who had a parent cheat many times on the other parent and ultimately have their parents divorce, I have thought about this a great deal.

Cheating is a betrayal of not only the spouse they are cheating on but if there are kids in the family, it is a betrayal to the kids as well. It is ultimately a family betrayal. Extremely painful, from my own experience, yes it can and does affect the children very negatively.
Divorce is a separation and break up of the couple but if children are involved also the family, extremely painful.

That being stated, living in an environment where the parents are fighting a great deal and not getting along is horribly unhealthy for the children, very much affects them, not including how unhealthy it is for the two fighting.

If you want to be with someone else and no longer want to be with your spouse enough to cheat on them, maybe leaving before that and being honest about your own feelings upfront is a better course of action.

Kids are very perceptive, they know things are going on in a household that you may think you are hiding. I knew what was happening, I knew when my parent was going to see their cheat fling and was lied to straight to my face. I lost all respect for that parent and they were never able to earn it back. I felt my own parent cheated on my sister and I as well as their spouse, cheated my family and our existence as I knew it.

Oh forgot, the non cheating parent caught an infection multiple times, from the cheating parent that put them in the hospital for 10 days and caused all kinds of physical problems because of it, yes sexually transmitted.

 

[patient1]

Adultery is betrayal, divorce is a parting of the ways.

Ishmael

Elegantly expressed.

 

[phrodeau]

According to the Bible, divorce isn't a big deal, but remarrying the person you divorced is an abomination not to be tolerated. Deuteronomy 24:1-4

Not a word about benefits to the offspring. It can't be allowed.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

How is a meaningless f*ck worse

No, the f*ck had meaning, or else you wouldn't have chosen to f*ck and f*cked in the first place.

You don't get the right to say the f*ck was meaningless after the fact, Rennypoo. You wanted that f*ck and that is all the meaning a f*ck needs.

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[KimGordon67]

In what universe is divorce more harmful to children than ax murder or nuclear terrorism (whatever that actually is - I'm not entirely sure myself, but it doesn't sound good)? You don't stop being a parent just because you're not living with the other parent. Good grief.

 

[Noor]

Adultery is betrayal, divorce is a parting of the ways.

Ishmael

^this^ Well said.

Cheating is a betrayal of not only the spouse they are cheating on but if there are kids in the family, it is a betrayal to the kids as well. It is ultimately a family betrayal.

This too.

 

[Flyin_Free]

I don't think anything is worse than divorce. Even axe murder or nuclear terrorism is not as harmful to children or families. Yet, modern people see nothing wrong with it. On the other hand, majorities think "cheating" is wrong.

How is a meaningless f*ck worse than throwing away a lifelong commitment that devastates children and rips families apart?

Obviously in an ideal world nobody would commit adultery, the ideal is faithfulness, but in terms of magnitude of harm, it makes no rational sense to justify divorce just because somebody bonks someone else.

There is no such thing as a meaningless fuck in a committed, trusting, monogamous relationship, sorry but thats betrayal and you cant have trust where there is betrayal.

 

[warrior queen]

To me, the ultimate betrayal was when I discovered he'd told her he loved her..... while still living with me and sleeping in my bed.
In many ways, it would have been a LOT easier to cope with him just fucking her.... a fuck is a fuck. But when emotions get involved it's a whole new level.

 

[Tommybowler]

because its so much more fun, well in my experience anyway, and that is a sin

The secret meetings, her fear of being found out by hubby,

The groping in public to keep her on edge in many ways

Fucking her so much all she can do is go home to sleep

Sending her home with cum dribbling out of her well used pussy

Divorce can destroy families, tear kids hearts apart, but it can be done with love care and consideration, Its better to have two happy parents than live in a toxic environment where no love is shown between the adults and learn that a relationship/marriage does not have love and respect.

 

[Noor]

To me, the ultimate betrayal was when I discovered he'd told her he loved her..... while still living with me and sleeping in my bed.
In many ways, it would have been a LOT easier to cope with him just fucking her.... a fuck is a fuck. But when emotions get involved it's a whole new level.

There is non-sexual intimate betrayal too.