Why I give women false hope

[RoryN]

...because they assume that, like most men, I can preform at the drop of a hat, even though I don't know them well.

Problem is, I have trust issues. I envy people who can do one-nighters without second thoughts; however, mine cripple me (`least, they do at this point in time).

Thankfully, I played piano for a few years, and have nimble fingers. But it's not a perfect substitution by any means. *sigh*

 

[capricious_chic]

What do you need to trust in to have a one night stand?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

My man, stand use this crutch and walk this way.

...because they assume that, like most men, I can preform at the drop of a hat, even though I don't know them well.

Problem is, I have trust issues. I envy people who can do one-nighters without second thoughts; however, mine cripple me (`least, they do at this point in time).

Thankfully, I played piano for a few years, and have nimble fingers. But it's not a perfect substitution by any means. *sigh*

 

[RoryN]

What do you need to trust in to have a one night stand?

I haven't established that yet. Once I do, I think the issue will be 80% solved!

 

[ChauvanistPig]

...because they assume that, like most men, I can preform at the drop of a hat, even though I don't know them well.

Problem is, I have trust issues. I envy people who can do one-nighters without second thoughts; however, mine cripple me (`least, they do at this point in time).

Thankfully, I played piano for a few years, and have nimble fingers. But it's not a perfect substitution by any means. *sigh*

Maybe you should try playing Vegas long-term instead of just one night

 

[Image]

This has nothing to do with your thread but have I ever told you how adorable I have always thought you were?

 

[lizaveta]

Maybe you should try playing Vegas long-term instead of just one night

CP, at this rate I'm going to be in love with you by Thanksgiving.

Right, why fret about one-night stands? I never had one, and I certainly don't feel like I missed out on anything.

 

[Hairgrip]

nimble fingers *swoon* heaven

 

[RoryN]

Maybe you should try playing Vegas long-term instead of just one night

The house can be a bitch. But, it's probably a better strategy.

This has nothing to do with your thread but have I ever told you how adorable I have always thought you were?

Thank you, Ms. Lovely Feet. I always thought you were class.

 

[Meat Whistler]

This has nothing to do with your thread but have I ever told you how adorable I have always thought you were?

Isn't he? I think we need to convince him to use more face AVs.

 

[ChauvanistPig]

CP, at this rate I'm going to be in love with you by Thanksgiving.

Right, why fret about one-night stands? I never had one, and I certainly don't feel like I missed out on anything.

Ditto that. There's no guilt the next morning with masturbation.

 

[LeahLo519]

Nothing wrong with that. I've only ever had 1 one night stand...and I've always regretted it.

 

[capricious_chic]

I haven't established that yet. Once I do, I think the issue will be 80% solved!

What do you have to be defensive about?

From what I have seen of you on here you are very attractive and have a decent personality.

I would put myself in the "trust issues" category - yet I could more easily have a one night stand where little or nothing is expected of you than have a full blown relationship where there are many things expected.

 

[Image]

Isn't he? I think we need to convince him to use more face AVs.

Speaking of AV's...

You know that's my favorite

 

[SleepingWarrior]

I haven't established that yet. Once I do, I think the issue will be 80% solved!

Welcome to my world Rory... the world where you must have deeper feelings than lust for a woman before you fuck them. I commend you.

 

[RoryN]

What do you have to be defensive about?

From what I have seen of you on here you are very attractive and have a decent personality.

I would put myself in the "trust issues" category - yet I could more easily have a one night stand where little or nothing is expected of you than have a full blown relationship where there are many things expected.

I *think* I might have made more of this one-night stand thing than for what it really is to me. It essentially has to do with trusting someone who's, for all purposes, a stranger, not just the scenario of a one-night stand.

nimble fingers *swoon* heaven

Sure. But you want more than that, and deserve it.

Right, why fret about one-night stands?

Some equate it to not being attracted to them in that scenario, which isn't the case. Anyway, I'm quite certain I'd enjoy them without the hangups - not to mention gain more experience for ther benefit of a long-term romantic interest. It does make me feel a bit emasculated.

 

[RoryN]

Isn't he? I think we need to convince him to use more face AVs.

I need a good photographer. And I like MW. Hence, she must take my picture.

Nothing wrong with that. I've only ever had 1 one night stand...and I've always regretted it.

Thanks for dropping in. How's school?

 

[lizaveta]

Some equate it to not being attracted to them in that scenario, which isn't the case. Anyway, I'm quite certain I'd enjoy them without the hangups - not to mention gain more experience for ther benefit of a long-term romantic interest. It does make me feel a bit emasculated.

Let me tell you, a man with a string of one-night stands is not, nor will he ever be, as talented a lover as a man who takes the time to get to know how to please a woman long-term.

There's no harm in getting to know a person before hitting the hay. In fact, I'd say it's far preferable to the alternative, but that's just me.

Make it clear at the outset that you won't be having sex, and she won't question you about it or feel unattractive because of it.

And there shouldn't be anything emasculating about acting like a gentleman - whether by choice or by circumstance.

 

[capricious_chic]

I *think* I might have made more of this one-night stand thing than for what it really is to me. It essentially has to do with trusting someone who's, for all purposes, a stranger, not just the scenario of a one-night stand.

Trusting a stranger isn't really required - it is really about trusting yourself and your instincts.

 

[LeahLo519]

I need a good photographer. And I like MW. Hence, she must take my picture.



Thanks for dropping in. How's school?

Oh you know...pretty gay.

 

[RoryN]

Trusting a stranger isn't really required - it is really about trusting yourself and your instincts.

That makes sense. My instincts have sucked in the past.

Let me tell you, a man with a string of one-night stands is not, nor will he ever be, as talented a lover as a man who takes the time to get to know how to please a woman long-term.

But a man can accomplish both, right?

 

[capricious_chic]

Make it clear at the outset that you won't be having sex, and she won't question you about it or feel unattractive because of it.

And there shouldn't be anything emasculating about acting like a gentleman - whether by choice or by circumstance.

I disagree - I would question it.

I agree with the gentleman thing though.

 

[Metrodance]

Thankfully, I played piano for a few years, and have nimble fingers. But it's not a perfect substitution by any means.

Add playing the guitar as well and you have limitless dexterity. It's difficult to have long nails, though.

 

[lizaveta]

But a man can accomplish both, right?

I suppose. As long as you don't expect to learn much from the one-nighter. That always just seemed like masturbation with potentially disease-ridden props to me, but I could be wrong.

 

[lizaveta]

I disagree - I would question it.

I agree with the gentleman thing though.

Would you still question it if he fed you a line as to why?