Why Fetishes?

Sherman Mann

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I guess a fetish would make sense if you could actually get laid, but for someone like me (I can't be the only odd-ball. Well, I suppose I could, but thats statistically improbable) a fetish has no real value. Don't get me wrong, I like T&A as much as the next straight guy. But when you start getting into things like feet? Come on! As long as she doesn't look like her parentage came from cross-breeding with hobbits and theres no cloven hooves, whats the matter?

Then you got the incest junkies. Only in monkeys like us. Not many species actively attempt sexual acts with someone they are closely related to. I guess the smarter you are, the dumber your crotch makes you.

And of course, the pedophiles. Not even Bonobos try to have sex with their young. And these are the most sexually promiscuous mammals on the planet. This is just sick.

Next would be the rapists. What the heck kinda thrill can you honestly get from forcing yourself on another? Some sick misunderstanding of that whole, "Do unto others..." thing. The people who enjoy raping are just too egocentric. And the people who want to be raped are too, just lazier.

Domination? I go to work every day and I feel like crap. I also grew up Catholic, so my entire childhood was focused on ways to make me feel like crap. So for all those into domination, why not simply convert? Anyway, if all that I experience is The Man trying to put me down, why would I want to come home or go out and find some woman to put me down to? I've never liked the Nazis, and I don't believe in the concentration camp phrase,
"Arbeit Macht Frei."

Animals. What, you upset that your dog humped everyone else's leg so you gotta make up for it by shoving it up a cow's tail end? Hey, as long as the animal likes it, go ahead. Just remember that a lot of the diseases we got today were orginally animal diseases that mutated to affect humans and happened because of humans' "close proximity" with the animals. Why do you think the native americans didn't have their own version of smallpox waiting for Christopher Columbus? Cause they weren't bangin' the llamas, thats why.

Babies. Yeah, some amount of role-playing is fun and healthy. But if you are going to dress up and expect to be treated like a toddler, there is something seriously wrong here. Suckling on a woman's breast is wonderful, undeniable. Having her change your diaper is just a bit too odd for my tastes. Especially if you aren't really incontinent.

Swingers. First, I'd like to say thanks for giving the losers like me a second chance at ya. Still, why make a commitment if you plan on keeping it open? An open dating relationship is fine, but why welch on your word? Swingers are fun for a bit, but not something I'd really rely on for something long-term. Even if its a consensual breaking of the vows, it still seems kinda wrong. But I believe if you make a promise, you should keep it, even if that promise is stupid. I know I'd have a lot fewer scars if I had backed out on a few of the bad deals I've made. Its just that the sanctity of one's integrity is not something to be discarded for a romp in the sack with other like-minded individuals.

So why am I putting all this in the personals section? Because I want someone who likes sex, but isn't a superfreak, ya know what I mean? Porn is all good, nothing wrong with that. But thats because it doesn't strike me as a bit odd, weird, or gross as some of the other ones do.

Just gettin some thoughts out and looking to make some connections.
 
huh :(

People have problems thats just life! some people like to be dom. becuz thay werent dissaplend anuff as a child. the whole foot and animle this is odd though... what about the She-males or whatever?
 
It depends on what is fun

Most fetishes are innocent enough, and can be a little fun to engage in. I dated a man who really liked pantyhose....it was innocent enough, certainly not harmful to either him or me, and he made me feel wonderful. It just added a little spice to the relationship.

Now, some of the things you mention are, in fact, illegal if carried out in RL - pedophilia and rape, for examples. Yet, some people do fantacize about these things. Hey, it's not for me, but who am I to judge, as long as they don't try to make their fantasies come true. (really DO rape some one) And what harm is there if a partner agrees to "play along" with it?

Not putting you down, in fact I can see where you are coming from. But different people enjoy different things. The important thing is to find partner(s) that enjoy what you do to make the experience a wonderful one.
 
women and foot massages

Sherman Mann, you have a point about most of the fetishes. They're either harmful or simply odd. I really don't know what a foot fetish is. I really don't know if I have a foot fetish. All I know is I love giving women foot massages. Maybe because I just know for a fact that people have the most number of nerve endings in their lips, hands and FEET. It's not that I enjoy the foot massage itself but I love it because it gives pleasure to a woman. Fetish or not, I don't see anything wrong with GIVING pleasure first rather than getting it.

Jim
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